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scaredyclassic
Participant[quote=spdrun]Hipster! (Isn’t your native habitat North Park, not Temecula? You must feel like a fish out of water.)[/quote]
I’m one of those faerie shrimp that can hibernate for years and then comes to life in vernal pools of rain.
ParticipantDeep stuff. Obsessive one man animation meaning of life stuff.
Made in Austin I think.
Just watched vol. 2
ParticipantHmm. I’m an F.
ENFP.
ParticipantI used to wear a pair of Japanese flathead brand jeans costing about 350.00. genuine indigo. Woven on vintage loom.
ParticipantMy results are unambiguous I recognize myself in my description but my wife says that’s not me
ParticipantI’m stressed out some days. Time feels compressed at moments.
It used to be really bad.
ParticipantI once at dinner asked everyone who was the STAR of the family. Who it all revolved around. The star of the show if we were a sutcom.
Everyone said themselves!
ParticipantTribes.
Physical culture group in Sacramento that acts as a tribal community.
I want to spend some time there
Participant[quote=Blogstar]My bad, when you say you want to see something or hear something I assume it means you want to apply some amount of wisdom to it and maybe assimilate something new. When you consistently don’t, I think you lied. Definitely my bad.[/quote]
in trial advocacy class at law school, we learn never to call a police officer a liar (or any other witness either) unless it is absolutely, unequivovally the case that the jury knows for certain they are intentionally not tellign the truth, with t he sole purpose to deceive.
and even then, it is alsways better to find a way not to call someone a liar, and let the jury draw its own conclusion, even when the evidnece seems to support no other inference but the telling of a lie.
we need permission from the jury to do so, because the word itself is so inflammatory and distasteful. it is ok to claim that what they are saying is not the truth, and perhaps even that the officer knew at the time she said it that she was not telling the truth, or was misguided, or misled, but the four letter word liar, this word must be kept under lock and key, and sonly very very rarely deployed, for it is the nuclear weapon of trial…and people dont like the offhand deployment of our nuclear arsenal.
we like to assume our fellow citizens are acting in good faith, and have not come to intentionally lie. its difficult to get anywhere when we call one another liars, because it is fighting words.
it never impresses the ultimate factfinder because it is up to the factfinder to determine the credibility of witnesses,a dn it is always betetr to give the reasons leading up to the conclusion that one is a liar, rather than the bold conclusory statement that one is a liar.
that way, the factfinder has the facts at hand to draw the conclusion himself…and that, that is far more powerful in terms of persuasive argument.
Participantfacebook is a uniquely bad platform for having any kind fo discussion that is serious or controversial.
but piggington is not poser dialectics. i think people ar esincere here…
kev, be strong…
Participant[quote=zk][quote=scaredyclassic][quote=Blogstar]
Maybe there are ways that there is less imitation and no big problems moving on if we change the predispostion to negativity about anything but a nuclear monogamous household and don’t teach our kids it.Like you said we are wired differently than we think does what we are doing really respect that or are we respecting current family dynamic religion and happier if we do because we are stupid. I know I am can’t handle anything different either but admit it could be stupidity at play too.[/quote]
wel, yeah…but im talking more about just living in the world the way it is…not the way it could be…[/quote]
In my opinion, the crux of the problem is this: We are not wired to live in a nuclear family. We are wired to live in tribes. Tribes where the whole tribe helps watch over our kids after they reach a certain age. Today’s family arrangements (and the similar arrangements in most cultures since civilization began) are not really compatible with our wiring.
We can’t go back to living in tribes. So what do we do? I don’t think there’s a good answer. There might be a better answer. (Better than the one we have now, but still not good.) And in order to find a better answer, we’d need to first be honest with ourselves about who we are. About how humans are wired. With religion in the way, it would be pretty difficult for any such understanding to get any traction. To become widespread. Religious people only want to hear about how god made us. They don’t want to hear that we evolved in bands and tribes and therefore we’re not wired to live in their god’s preferred arrangements.
Of course, religion isn’t the only problem. I think that any large-scale, thoughtful, cooperative, realistic, non-judgmental reconsideration of the basic family unit is beyond the ability of such a combative species, with or without religion.
In the meantime, the best we can do is try to figure out how to best live in the world as it is, not the world as it should be, (as scaredy said), while being honest about our wiring (as Russ said).[/quote]
but be careful, because excessive honest regarding wiring can lead to a shortcircuit…
Participantim just a cnservative, in sickness and in health, death till we part kind of guy. although i kinda picture my wife kinda keeping my corpse around for a few days after to just kind of yell at…
Participanti appreciate the lack of commas, i dont like to be told when to pause
Participantwithout this tyepe of dialectic civilization itself ceases to exist…
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