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[quote=CA renter][quote=FlyerInHi]CAr, the reasons you mentioned are why my target market is not the ordinary woman but heiress.

An heiress, needs a personal trainer, nutrition consultant, personal assistant, chauffeur, pilot, jockey, architect… imagine outsourcing all of those things.

My neighbors thought that I was an architect because I did such a good job on my apartment. What’s the cost of having a great architect on retainer?

If I may so myself, I’m worth a pretty good salary. I won’t settle for any less.
Even the household work that I do now, if someone else profit from my labor, I need to get paid!

A feng-shui Asian friend says that I should not “look up” all the time… The levels above are too hard to attain.

I should “look around me” as in water seeks its own level, or “look slightly below” because the people below appreciate things more.

I have 3 options I think:

1. Marry an heiress to get paid my full husband potential. Not a problem because she can afford me.

1.5. Marry a woman my age and income level. We can pay each other our spouse’s worth and adopt kids, if we wish. That might not work, because I’m worth more since I’m talented in so many areas. My wife might not be able to afford me, or there might be resentment because all the networth will accrue to me.

2. Marry a younger woman, have children and a beautiful family. zk said that I’d be getting a hooker, but I don’t think so.

3. Not marry at all and become a philosopher.[/quote]

You know, I was thinking about you earlier today and realized that you probably *could* marry well and be a househusband, even without kids. But, like so many women who’ve come before you, you would probably have to marry someone 20+ years your senior. And you would have to shower her with attention and affection; satisfy her sexual and emotional desires; profess your love for her day and night, both privately and publicly; and maintain those awesome looks of yours. 🙂

But, yes, you could probably do it. You just need to start circulating in those places where all the rich divorcees hang out…and be incredibly charming and as good-looking as possible. You’d probably manage to find a “sugar mama” within a year.[/quote]

I have a hard time seeing myself having sex with the elderly but I also couldn’t see myself having sex with women in their 40s when I was a pup. I assume therefore all these senior citizens are going to start looking hot shortly which quote frankly scares me.

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[quote=flyer]Concerning Romance novels–the numbers speak for themselves. Women, primarily, are buying them by the billions. That definitely tells us something about the state of relationships in our society, and, it’s also a great business opportunity.

Realize everyone defines love, lust, and relationships differently–and drama is definitely a natural part of the whole package–wouldn’t have it any other way. As long as the relationship works for the people involved–that’s all that matters.[/quote]

people in love are unqualified to determine what is likely to work.

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as you pack, repeat this …

Emily Dickinson (1830–86). Complete Poems. 1924.

Part Three: Love

XXXVII

LOVE is anterior to life,
Posterior to death,
Initial of creation, and
The exponent of breath.

or whatever it takes to get through the day

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[quote=Blogstar]I won;t say this is conclusive but love is about procreation but it belongs to the human race which is a procreative force together . It’s most concentrated when two people want to make babies.

There is a saying in Mexico , “The baby brings the torta under his arm”. That’s the essence of love.

There is potentially love for and from everyone on the tribal basis even if it comes from procreation.[/quote]

or as we chant on the playground

First comes love
Then come marriage
Then come flyer in the baby carriage!

Two is romantic. Three is work.

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[quote=Blogstar]I won;t say this is conclusive but love is about procreation but it belongs to the human race which is a procreative force together . It’s most concentrated when two people want to make babies.

There is a saying in Mexico , “The baby brings the torta under his arm”. That’s the essence of love.

There is potentially love for and from everyone on the tribal basis even if it comes from procreation.[/quote]

I’m not steeped in the genre but I imagine romance novels generally don’t include realistic scenes if family life with young children.

When I think of love I think of powerful uncontrollable life impairing emotions …not the stuff sensible decisions are made from. Like I WANNA HOLD YOUR HAND playing ceaselessly in some deep brain region.

Irritating.

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When young people say love what do they mean.

I would like to fuck your brains out literally all weekend, you make me laugh, I hope you never leave.

Everything else is financial planning.

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I don’t know. Our brains are wired to get us to do all kinds of things.

Love is a powerful schedule 1 narcotic not some relationship cement. It’s the stuff we shoot up that can kill. Coke is st Josephs aspirin for children or a baby tylenol compared to love.

It should be illegal to make decisions under its influence because technically your insane

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[quote=flyer]This is fascinating. I had my wife read the last few entries of this thread, and neither of us could understand why true love was never mentioned.

My wife is a “TF Baby,” highly educated, from a great family, etc., etc., and she feels I have my attributes as well. When we met, we each considered the other a “catch,” for all of the right reasons, but without love, neither of us would have found the level of happiness we have enjoyed, and would never have considered forming a permanent relationship.[/quote]

Just like in a harlequin romance!

True love? The male and female brains are attached to animals that want to breed not love.

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i really liked my inspector, someone here recommended him, was expensive though, i think 500 something? but he was good.

can send you hsi name if you pm me.

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last night i was up really late reading THE LIFE CHANGING MAGIC OF TIDYING UP by marie kondo.

it’s about tidying up.

i got distracted by THE EXAMINED LIFE by grosz.

i think i will continue knaussgard if i get sick, but not too sick. i would look forward to that.

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[quote=CA renter]It’s tough because it can be such an emotional issue. While it makes logical sense to not pay, can you imagine if the hostage was your spouse or child? I think I’d die trying to free them myself, if the govt didn’t help out. Must be excruciatingly heartbreaking.[/quote]

is it possible to just pay with counterfeit money that’s not such high quality?

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[quote=CA renter]You don’t need to jump back into the ring…there is no ring. We should be able to discuss these issues without making personal attacks. It’s not a fight, but a desire to find out more about something we know relatively little about. Even the “experts” who study this are in the early stages of their research.

READ THE LINKS, even if you never want to discuss it here, just for self-education.

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As for divorcees…I think that a person who doesn’t want (any more) children should seriously consider divorced mates. If the divorcee’s kids are nearly grown, even better, as they both can indulge in DINK-style pursuits, and they would be less likely to have to deal much with former spouses; though men tend to do better with this than women.

Divorced people also tend to have far more realistic expectations of their mates, since the “fairy tale” nonsense should have worn off by then.

OTOH, if a man wants to have biological or adopted children of his own — and wouldn’t be satisfied with helping to raise step-children — and if he doesn’t have a previous marriage and/or children under his belt, I think it’s best if like marries like. No steps, no former spouses, no finances intertwined with other people, and every experience can be a new experience for both members of the couple, if that matters to them.

Just my 2 cents.[/quote]

I have a woman friend who married a widower dude with someolder teenagers and she kinda forced them out and sucks up all his attention.

I hate that.

divorced dudes should never put some new woman way before their kids.

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[quote=CA renter]Some other links to explore:

Do we undervalue the economic and social contributions of women who do “women’s work”?

http://www.marketwatch.com/story/calculating-the-true-value-of-womans-work-2009-12-08

Why the value of “women’s work” needs to be reevaluated:

Unpaid and Undervalued Care Work Keeps Women on the Brink

A comparison of the economic impacts of caregiving in Poland and Italy:

http://ftp.iza.org/dp5771.pdf%5B/quote%5D

2nd link talks about caregiver tax credits. Maybe it is a good idea. Why is the working world so great. What the hell are we doing but ruining the earth. He’ll give families a 10k a year tax credit to hang out with their own dawn kids

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[quote=Blogstar]I am not jumping back in the ring on this one CaRenter.

I’d like to know why Brian or other approximately 40 yo men should or shouldn’t include divorcees in the women considered available for marriage.

What do you think?[/quote]

By age 40 things are different. You are an old dog. Placement is trickier.

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[quote=Blogstar]Scaredy , let’s hear your take on why Brian should or shouldn’t avoid divorcees? (I thought he said he was divorced)

I don’t know if B, ever said how old he was but seems like 40 give or take. Kev says 40. So keep in mind that these are not spring chickens, I mean roosters.[/quote]

I Corinthian 7:8

Basically if you’re not married, don’t get married.

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