[NotCranky]

I have lent money three times glad to do so even though I knew I probably wouldn’t get it back. In each case after some time past I sent a note with the next birthday card telling the borrower I wanted them to consider it a birthday gift. I knew I wouldn’t get it back in the first place but left room for a little hope of it by not just giving the money away and then let the people of the hook soon after so because I didn’t want it hanging in the air.Those individauls have never asked to borrow again either.
Nothing wrong with saying no . I’ve done that too. Also have told people my money was too tied up or already booked to be spent. I have also lent money and gotten it back and I always knew I would in those cases.

[NotCranky]

I have lent money three times glad to do so even though I knew I probably wouldn’t get it back. In each case after some time past I sent a note with the next birthday card telling the borrower I wanted them to consider it a birthday gift. I knew I wouldn’t get it back in the first place but left room for a little hope of it by not just giving the money away and then let the people of the hook soon after so because I didn’t want it hanging in the air.Those individauls have never asked to borrow again either.
Nothing wrong with saying no . I’ve done that too. Also have told people my money was too tied up or already booked to be spent. I have also lent money and gotten it back and I always knew I would in those cases.

[NotCranky]

I have lent money three times glad to do so even though I knew I probably wouldn’t get it back. In each case after some time past I sent a note with the next birthday card telling the borrower I wanted them to consider it a birthday gift. I knew I wouldn’t get it back in the first place but left room for a little hope of it by not just giving the money away and then let the people of the hook soon after so because I didn’t want it hanging in the air.Those individauls have never asked to borrow again either.
Nothing wrong with saying no . I’ve done that too. Also have told people my money was too tied up or already booked to be spent. I have also lent money and gotten it back and I always knew I would in those cases.

[NotCranky]

I have lent money three times glad to do so even though I knew I probably wouldn’t get it back. In each case after some time past I sent a note with the next birthday card telling the borrower I wanted them to consider it a birthday gift. I knew I wouldn’t get it back in the first place but left room for a little hope of it by not just giving the money away and then let the people of the hook soon after so because I didn’t want it hanging in the air.Those individauls have never asked to borrow again either.
Nothing wrong with saying no . I’ve done that too. Also have told people my money was too tied up or already booked to be spent. I have also lent money and gotten it back and I always knew I would in those cases.

[NotCranky]

I agree with those who say most people can not do what TG suggest or does. It helps if you don’t want a very significant relationship of course. I never could do it with someone I felt was important in my life. I like companionship too much and would want to involve someone in my socials circles. Going slowly would probably be the best compromise.

Hats of to Bugs and people like he and his wife. I think of this as a heroic success!

[NotCranky]

I agree with those who say most people can not do what TG suggest or does. It helps if you don’t want a very significant relationship of course. I never could do it with someone I felt was important in my life. I like companionship too much and would want to involve someone in my socials circles. Going slowly would probably be the best compromise.

Hats of to Bugs and people like he and his wife. I think of this as a heroic success!

[NotCranky]

I agree with those who say most people can not do what TG suggest or does. It helps if you don’t want a very significant relationship of course. I never could do it with someone I felt was important in my life. I like companionship too much and would want to involve someone in my socials circles. Going slowly would probably be the best compromise.

Hats of to Bugs and people like he and his wife. I think of this as a heroic success!

[NotCranky]

I agree with those who say most people can not do what TG suggest or does. It helps if you don’t want a very significant relationship of course. I never could do it with someone I felt was important in my life. I like companionship too much and would want to involve someone in my socials circles. Going slowly would probably be the best compromise.

Hats of to Bugs and people like he and his wife. I think of this as a heroic success!

[NotCranky]

I agree with those who say most people can not do what TG suggest or does. It helps if you don’t want a very significant relationship of course. I never could do it with someone I felt was important in my life. I like companionship too much and would want to involve someone in my socials circles. Going slowly would probably be the best compromise.

Hats of to Bugs and people like he and his wife. I think of this as a heroic success!

[NotCranky]

Um, well, I wouldn’t consider 35K annual income “desperately poor”. Perhaps hard to live on in San Diego, but not desperately poor.

You’re right Mark bad choice of words. I just meant to deal with the concerns about how many people can afford their houses there. How many bought at unaffordable prices is relevant too of course. Thinking about the numbers on that. I sold my house there to someone who got in trouble. Teaser rate and all but I think they might have gotten a workout because the NOD disappeared and they took the house off the market. I am glad for them as they actually got a relatively good deal from me and they loved the house. Anyway just trying to provide some anecdotal info.

[NotCranky]

Um, well, I wouldn’t consider 35K annual income “desperately poor”. Perhaps hard to live on in San Diego, but not desperately poor.

You’re right Mark bad choice of words. I just meant to deal with the concerns about how many people can afford their houses there. How many bought at unaffordable prices is relevant too of course. Thinking about the numbers on that. I sold my house there to someone who got in trouble. Teaser rate and all but I think they might have gotten a workout because the NOD disappeared and they took the house off the market. I am glad for them as they actually got a relatively good deal from me and they loved the house. Anyway just trying to provide some anecdotal info.

[NotCranky]

Um, well, I wouldn’t consider 35K annual income “desperately poor”. Perhaps hard to live on in San Diego, but not desperately poor.

You’re right Mark bad choice of words. I just meant to deal with the concerns about how many people can afford their houses there. How many bought at unaffordable prices is relevant too of course. Thinking about the numbers on that. I sold my house there to someone who got in trouble. Teaser rate and all but I think they might have gotten a workout because the NOD disappeared and they took the house off the market. I am glad for them as they actually got a relatively good deal from me and they loved the house. Anyway just trying to provide some anecdotal info.

[NotCranky]

Um, well, I wouldn’t consider 35K annual income “desperately poor”. Perhaps hard to live on in San Diego, but not desperately poor.

You’re right Mark bad choice of words. I just meant to deal with the concerns about how many people can afford their houses there. How many bought at unaffordable prices is relevant too of course. Thinking about the numbers on that. I sold my house there to someone who got in trouble. Teaser rate and all but I think they might have gotten a workout because the NOD disappeared and they took the house off the market. I am glad for them as they actually got a relatively good deal from me and they loved the house. Anyway just trying to provide some anecdotal info.

[NotCranky]

Um, well, I wouldn’t consider 35K annual income “desperately poor”. Perhaps hard to live on in San Diego, but not desperately poor.

You’re right Mark bad choice of words. I just meant to deal with the concerns about how many people can afford their houses there. How many bought at unaffordable prices is relevant too of course. Thinking about the numbers on that. I sold my house there to someone who got in trouble. Teaser rate and all but I think they might have gotten a workout because the NOD disappeared and they took the house off the market. I am glad for them as they actually got a relatively good deal from me and they loved the house. Anyway just trying to provide some anecdotal info.

[NotCranky]

Watch out! I got really attached to the mom and the kids for four years and then had to finally throw the towel on the mom and me.We were two idiots together. We did not marry though so that was good. It meant the end of pretty strong bonds with kids too. It was like breaking up with my family. Awful experience. Careful guys and gals. I think the kids are better of for knowing me because I treated them better than either of their biological parents did IMO.
Still it would probably have been better if she were a good single mom a la temeculaguy’s model.

[Author]

Posts