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ParticipantSell it with an option to buy it back.
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ParticipantInteresting stuff, ZK. So it literally ” takes all kinds”. A lot of dominant personality traits don’t make sense at face value, don’t appear to be too functional, maybe even seem to bring about representations of poor examples of living in modern times, but might have this evolutionary underpinning.
Not sure I am a believer in the power of that on personality over childhood experiences, but it is interesting…very interesting.
February 3, 2014 at 7:46 PM in reply to: What do all candidates to be the next chairman of the Fed have in common? #770493NotCranky
ParticipantSeems almost universal that people surround themselves with other people like themselves whenever they can get away with it. Deriving some kind of benefit seems like the logical goal of acting in this way. Actually, it’s obvious.
We have laws against arranging things based on ethnicity, religion or other standards in certain types of institutions, so, I don’t think questioning appearances when they don’t reflect our current standard of integration is all that awful.
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Participant[quote=scaredyclassic][quote=Blogstar]I just leave the key in the car in the car.[/quote]
Good plan. I guess I could leave the house unlocked[/quote]
That’s it.NotCranky
ParticipantI just leave the key in the car in the car.
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ParticipantDon’t run the numbers on fishing. Very expensive per pound, even if you are cheap as can be. So far, in 4 trips we have 3 catfish nobody wanted to eat , 4 bass caught and released, 3 bluegill and 1 trout. About $500 into it and many man hours. That’s time I could spend gardening…still lose money but probably less.
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ParticipantWomen can get criticized for staying at home…or working, both ways.My wife started full time work for the first time since we married, a lot of women are offering condolences as much as congratulations. I think most two working parent families wish someone could stay home with the really young kids. After they are 9 or 10 , it doesn’t hurt the kids one bit to spend more time in after school stuff with other kids from school. In some cases it’s a great benefit. They would be doing that at each others houses anyway. They start becoming more independent quickly(on their way to kicking us to the curb)
The problem with part time work with no out of school childcare is that it is difficult for many people to find anything decent on that schedule. We were really lucky that my wife’s part time work gave benefits and paid o.k. Also if the working parents job is unstable thats going to be terrifying and both are going to want to work ….just in case…It’s not an easy balancing act.
The only thing I find awkward is play dates.I don’t , and I think most men wouldn’t usually want young children not our own over at the house when the wife is not there.The exception is closer friends. Usually moms handle all of this….we are not in the habit of spending much time in parks at the beach or whatever with other people wives or with single moms. So if the mom can’t handle it , it either cuts into play date options,
or you just break with tradition : ). Usually women handle all the interactions with the primary schools which involves almost all women, teachers, staff and volunteers, again….break tradition. Men just don’t normally participate much in any female dominated aspect of this world.NotCranky
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Participant[quote=scaredyclassic]really, nowehere on earth is that great, because, as G.d said,
“Cursed is the ground because of you;
through painful toil you will eat food from it
all the days of your life.
It will produce thorns and thistles for you,
and you will eat the plants of the field.
By the sweat of your brow
you will eat your food
until you return to the ground,
since from it you were taken;
for dust you are
and to dust you will return.”[/quote]That’s a good plan, considering there is a lot of dirt. Could do without the angry overtones. I wonder how God felt when man went to the moon? Doesn’t seem like part of the plan…
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Participant[quote=spdrun]
From the people I spent time with I could see there would be a lot of pressure to come back to the United States with any future family or live in two countries…I really didn’t have a plan for all that and it seemed potentially complicated with no better matrimonial risk factors than staying here.
If you stayed there, you could have married locally to someone who was comfy with staying, though.[/quote]
That’s true, it could have happened..but we never really know what will happen…In the end I had a lot of fun visiting ..but it had all the signs of a grass is always greener lesson…for me anyway.
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Participant[quote=FlyerInHi]No chickflick or quality family time for me. This weekend I’m laying hardwood flooring so I can find a quality tenant. It’s a pain to cut the corners.
I’m writing this eating by my lonesome self at a Vegas restaurant full of happy tourists.
Pity me. What a sad existence.[/quote]
Way to get out there and get your hands dirty…sweat equity, or at least a better place to go forward with. I have sold most of my professional type tools…can’t say I don’t miss it some though.NotCranky
ParticipantI thought about Mexico and South America, before I was married. I took all the Spanish classes offered at the Junior college level then went to several places in Mexico a few times and Argentina. I had friends in some of the places I went to in Mexico and in Buenos Aires.
I am glad I did that experiment because I don’t have to sit here and seriously wonder if I would really rather be doing that. I would have wanted to have a family there also…I always wanted a family and a place to do yard work/gardening as much as possible.Not necessarily in that order. From the people I spent time with I could see there would be a lot of pressure to come back to the United States with any future family or live in two countries…I really didn’t have a plan for all that and it seemed potentially complicated with no better matrimonial risk factors than staying here.
I can’t say I would trade what I have done for that , or to retire by myself in my 40’s never having a family.
FWIW: I think in the end my financial deal will be a wash or better with marriage…probably better. Lots of single people and lots of married people have more, always have and always will….not something to get vexed about.
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Participant[quote=spdrun]
4 drinks a week is about right on the high end.
At the high end?
What’s wrong with a glass of wine at dinner say five out of seven days? America is waaaaay too Puritanical about drinking.[/quote]
Actually, a glass of wine with dinner 5 days a week is ABOUT like 4 drinks a week but it is not like 4×7 drinks a week, which I was saying is probably approaching alcoholism.NotCranky
Participant[quote=FlyerInHi]Golddigger is a term that might seem offensive to some. I think everyone has minimal expectations. The minimum threshold is just different for different people.
Consider the wife of the VA governor who was stressing out because she didn’t have designer dresses. Based on some of the articles I read, the SAH wife was not satisfied with what her husband could provide. For example. she wanted an expensive wedding for her daughter. She wanted a Rolex for her husband and asked a contributor for it.
Before you marry them they are gold diggers after you marry them they are something else. It’s the lack of threshold that is the problem and yes, men have it too.
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