What is the appropriate amount to spend for a kid’s birthday present (not your kid)?

[Coronita]

[quote=desmond]Not to get you riled up, but inviting 30+ kids and then complaining you don’t want 30+ new things for you kid to play with? Next time either invite 5- kids, or invite the 30+ and write on the card: No Gifts, please. Just a suggestion, no harm implied.[/quote]

No harm interpreted 🙂

We originally invited 15 kids, no gifts…..But then what ended up happening is that some kids had siblings and since we weren’t explicit we had much more than we originally expected. And I they also also brought a gift or two. Lesson learned, I guess. Someone suggested next time suggested writing, “in lieu of gift, please donate to the XYZ charity”. For now, I guess we got some spares for regifting and Toys for Tots when Xmas rolls around..For next time, is there an etiquette way of saying “immediate friend only?”

[desmond]

OK then. All of that is a touchy situation and you handled it well. Rule 1-10, you cannot give a cheaper gift to somebody that has already given your kid a gift. That is unless somebody way overspends on your kid, then do not have to overspend on theirs. It gets easier as they get older. On the donating part, I would put that all gifts brought to your party will be donated by you to XYZ. That gives parents the out on buying a less expensive gift that they won’t be critiqued on.

[desmond]

OK then. All of that is a touchy situation and you handled it well. Rule 1-10, you cannot give a cheaper gift to somebody that has already given your kid a gift. That is unless somebody way overspends on your kid, then do not have to overspend on theirs. It gets easier as they get older. On the donating part, I would put that all gifts brought to your party will be donated by you to XYZ. That gives parents the out on buying a less expensive gift that they won’t be critiqued on.

[desmond]

OK then. All of that is a touchy situation and you handled it well. Rule 1-10, you cannot give a cheaper gift to somebody that has already given your kid a gift. That is unless somebody way overspends on your kid, then do not have to overspend on theirs. It gets easier as they get older. On the donating part, I would put that all gifts brought to your party will be donated by you to XYZ. That gives parents the out on buying a less expensive gift that they won’t be critiqued on.

[desmond]

OK then. All of that is a touchy situation and you handled it well. Rule 1-10, you cannot give a cheaper gift to somebody that has already given your kid a gift. That is unless somebody way overspends on your kid, then do not have to overspend on theirs. It gets easier as they get older. On the donating part, I would put that all gifts brought to your party will be donated by you to XYZ. That gives parents the out on buying a less expensive gift that they won’t be critiqued on.

[desmond]

OK then. All of that is a touchy situation and you handled it well. Rule 1-10, you cannot give a cheaper gift to somebody that has already given your kid a gift. That is unless somebody way overspends on your kid, then do not have to overspend on theirs. It gets easier as they get older. On the donating part, I would put that all gifts brought to your party will be donated by you to XYZ. That gives parents the out on buying a less expensive gift that they won’t be critiqued on.

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[briansd1]

flu, you’re Chinese so why not get all the kids to implement the Chinese system just like for weddings. Cash only! A check in an envelope is the best gift in my mind, no matter what the amount is.

I think a reasonable amount for a kids’ birthday is the cost of the meal (say $10/person) + 10 = $20. More if you’re feeling generous or it’s a nice party.

If everyone did that, the child would have a nice amount of cash to buy a good gift for himself.

I’m not Chinese but that’s the best way!!

[briansd1]

flu, you’re Chinese so why not get all the kids to implement the Chinese system just like for weddings. Cash only! A check in an envelope is the best gift in my mind, no matter what the amount is.

I think a reasonable amount for a kids’ birthday is the cost of the meal (say $10/person) + 10 = $20. More if you’re feeling generous or it’s a nice party.

If everyone did that, the child would have a nice amount of cash to buy a good gift for himself.

I’m not Chinese but that’s the best way!!

[briansd1]

flu, you’re Chinese so why not get all the kids to implement the Chinese system just like for weddings. Cash only! A check in an envelope is the best gift in my mind, no matter what the amount is.

I think a reasonable amount for a kids’ birthday is the cost of the meal (say $10/person) + 10 = $20. More if you’re feeling generous or it’s a nice party.

If everyone did that, the child would have a nice amount of cash to buy a good gift for himself.

I’m not Chinese but that’s the best way!!

[briansd1]

flu, you’re Chinese so why not get all the kids to implement the Chinese system just like for weddings. Cash only! A check in an envelope is the best gift in my mind, no matter what the amount is.

I think a reasonable amount for a kids’ birthday is the cost of the meal (say $10/person) + 10 = $20. More if you’re feeling generous or it’s a nice party.

If everyone did that, the child would have a nice amount of cash to buy a good gift for himself.

I’m not Chinese but that’s the best way!!

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