OT: How much baggage will you accept?

[NotCranky]

[quote=scaredyclassic][quote=Blogstar]Besides being cheap the contractor bags are reusable…did you know you can use super glue to put a fabric frill on them? Looks Victorian….I hate it when my wife does that.[/quote]

Damn princess. I travelled with some shabby baggage. But seriously 85.00 off ebay. Cole ha an sumptuous leather and canvas perfect carry on limit size just gorgeous. I feel suave with it.[/quote]

Sort of Victorian/Goth hybrid actually, because the bags are so black…the Goth part is so out of character for both of us so I think that’s why we like it.

I am glad you got bags you are happy with.

[FlyerInHi]

[quote=Blogstar]

Yeah you definitely don’t want to do major man woman battle over the curtains and quilts and other frilly stuff…that could be devastating.
.[/quote]

I have friends who ended up in this situation. Not something I want. That’s not baggage but it’s a non-workable compatibility issue.

Also not baggage, but I wouldn’t get married to a woman who wants to move to Spokane, WA (or Lakeside, Santee or Poway) to be near her parents. Not baggage, but still a no-go.

[quote=Blogstar]
Is a previous divorce too much baggage? Having too little relationship experience for your age, Maybe that’s too much baggage to some people…maybe worse than a past addiction or crime or debt or herpes. If people having any of these issues is unloveable there isn’t much love around.[/quote]

Like I said, you have to define baggage.

Previous divorce is not baggage. But if the previous spouse has problems and comes around to pester you, then it is baggage.

Some people like virgins so that’s not baggage… But it could be a non-workable issue for people who want experienced spouses.

I separate personality issues from baggage. Baggage is extra weight you carry that’s not inherent to the person, like herpes, criminal history, crazy family, drug dealing friends, disease, etc… Baggage that the person is unable or unwilling to dispose of.

Maybe people who have baggage can get together and “exchange”. But for someone who is clean, it’s just too much of a burden to acquire someone else’s baggage. It’s easier to find someone without.

Back to real estate… when you buy a house with baggage, it’s much cheaper. You can fix up and improve. But a person with baggage is more expensive just because it’s costly to shed baggage. They also may have mental problems what cause spendthrift behavior such as shopping for expensive Louis Vuitton luggage that you have to pay for.

[scaredyclassic]

[quote=FlyerInHi][quote=Blogstar]

Yeah you definitely don’t want to do major man woman battle over the curtains and quilts and other frilly stuff…that could be devastating.
.[/quote]

I have friends who ended up in this situation. Not something I want. That’s not baggage but it’s a non-workable compatibility issue.

Also not baggage, but I wouldn’t get married to a woman who wants to move to Spokane, WA (or Lakeside, Santee or Poway) to be near her parents. Not baggage, but still a no-go.

[quote=Blogstar]
Is a previous divorce too much baggage? Having too little relationship experience for your age, Maybe that’s too much baggage to some people…maybe worse than a past addiction or crime or debt or herpes. If people having any of these issues is unloveable there isn’t much love around.[/quote]

Like I said, you have to define baggage.

Previous divorce is not baggage. But if the previous spouse has problems and comes around to pester you, then it is baggage.

Some people like virgins so that’s not baggage… But it could be a non-workable issue for people who want experienced spouses.

I separate personality issues from baggage. Baggage is extra weight you carry that’s not inherent to the person, like herpes, criminal history, crazy family, drug dealing friends, disease, etc… Baggage that the person is unable or unwilling to dispose of.

Maybe people who have baggage can get together and “exchange”. But for someone who is clean, it’s just too much of a burden to acquire someone else’s baggage. It’s easier to find someone without.

Back to real estate… when you buy a house with baggage, it’s much cheaper. You can fix up and improve. But a person with baggage is more expensive just because it’s costly to shed baggage. They also may have mental problems what cause spendthrift behavior such as shopping for expensive Louis Vuitton luggage that you have to pay for.[/quote]

love is blind and crazy. Or maybe that’s syphilis.

[NotCranky]

B, The exchange thing , you are playing hard semantics with that to the point it looks defensive.

These hypothetical “clean people” might have an easy time finding other “clean people” but the whole catastrophe is guaranteed either way. There’s a reason some stories are called fairy tales.

[scaredyclassic]

If people were completely objective andrational they’d never hook up.

[scaredyclassic]

[quote=Blogstar]B, The exchange thing , you are playing hard semantics with that to the point it looks defensive.

These hypothetical “clean people” might have an easy time finding other “clean people” but the whole catastrophe is guaranteed either way. There’s a reason some stories are called fairy tales.[/quote]

Just like a lexus pre owned certified car service maybe we can pre certify dates.

[NotCranky]

The people who are clean and do everything right almost inevitably have as much trouble and often more than anyone else, why is that?

[NotCranky]

[quote=scaredyclassic][quote=Blogstar]B, The exchange thing , you are playing hard semantics with that to the point it looks defensive.

These hypothetical “clean people” might have an easy time finding other “clean people” but the whole catastrophe is guaranteed either way. There’s a reason some stories are called fairy tales.[/quote]

Just like a lexus pre owned certified car service maybe we can pre certify dates.[/quote]
Well why don’t we just pre-certify ourselves and go on being single just to make sure?

[FlyerInHi]

Could be better to forget the whole fairy tale altogether and get married for estate planning like our forefathers did.

[scaredyclassic]

[quote=Blogstar][quote=scaredyclassic][quote=Blogstar]B, The exchange thing , you are playing hard semantics with that to the point it looks defensive.

These hypothetical “clean people” might have an easy time finding other “clean people” but the whole catastrophe is guaranteed either way. There’s a reason some stories are called fairy tales.[/quote]

Just like a lexus pre owned certified car service maybe we can pre certify dates.[/quote]
Well why don’t we just pre-certify ourselves and go on being single just to make sure?[/quote]

I’m pretty sure I’m pre certifiably insane.

[scaredyclassic]

[quote=FlyerInHi]Could be better to forget the whole fairy tale altogether and get married for estate planning like our forefathers did.[/quote]

Was easier to arrange when womenfolk were chattel.

[NotCranky]

[quote=FlyerInHi]Could be better to forget the whole fairy tale altogether and get married for estate planning like our forefathers did.[/quote]

Cynicism is baggage too, you know?

[NotCranky]

[quote=Blogstar]The people who are clean and do everything right almost inevitably have as much trouble and often more than anyone else, why is that?[/quote]
Bump

[FlyerInHi]

[quote=Blogstar]

Cynicism is baggage too, you know?[/quote]

I was being funny

[Coronita]

What happens if you are me and you are the baggage? Lol…

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