OT – Feelings of Melancholy, Life Plans Going Forward

[Anonymous]

The common thread here of discontent is that when you look within, you aren’t finding much to keep you thrilled. Depression, real or not, is exactly that.

And the solution is often to look outside yourself, instead of within. Not for answers to your conundrum (because that’s actually looking back within), but to become more selfless.

I suggest you travel to the third world and get some perspective.

[Anonymous]

[quote=citydweller]Just relax and realize that life is really quite simple. All you have to do is show up. You do not need to impress anyone (even yourself). If you are breathing you are living, it doesn’t get any more simple than that.[/quote]

I like this…

[Anonymous]

[quote=citydweller]Just relax and realize that life is really quite simple. All you have to do is show up. You do not need to impress anyone (even yourself). If you are breathing you are living, it doesn’t get any more simple than that.[/quote]

I like this…

[Anonymous]

[quote=citydweller]Just relax and realize that life is really quite simple. All you have to do is show up. You do not need to impress anyone (even yourself). If you are breathing you are living, it doesn’t get any more simple than that.[/quote]

I like this…

[Anonymous]

[quote=citydweller]Just relax and realize that life is really quite simple. All you have to do is show up. You do not need to impress anyone (even yourself). If you are breathing you are living, it doesn’t get any more simple than that.[/quote]

I like this…

[Anonymous]

[quote=citydweller]Just relax and realize that life is really quite simple. All you have to do is show up. You do not need to impress anyone (even yourself). If you are breathing you are living, it doesn’t get any more simple than that.[/quote]

I like this…

[NotCranky]

I would study existential problems…and breathe as the others have said.Cry if it helps. It sounds like the identity or identities you have choosen for yourself are being challenged to a higher degree at this time.

For instance, you identify heavily with being a good father and getting fulfilment out of that but the kids are not cooperating with what you imagine that should look like. You find that identifying with “success” doesn’t work as well as it had previously. Maybe being a more adventurous Cabal, or more selfless would do it? Where would that lead? Maybe it is time to explore and see what to leave in and what to leave out.Religion may be another “identity” issue.

Your “petty bucket list” doesn’t look pathetic to me. It shows you have so many more choices than most people. Maybe looking at it as a “good start” would be more positive. Work on it.

I spent some time attending services sporadically and participating in discussion groups at the Unitarian Universalist Church in Hillcrest. I was a bit of a fish out of water, based on several things that I won’t go into, but it did have many components that might serve well towards some of these questions or activities that you want to explore.

I don’t think you have to think about clinical depression based on this and I don’t think you believe that either…but it doesn’t hurt to talk with someone… or a few people.For the record I am skeptical, as others here are, about the modern view of, and treatments for, “depression”.

[NotCranky]

I would study existential problems…and breathe as the others have said.Cry if it helps. It sounds like the identity or identities you have choosen for yourself are being challenged to a higher degree at this time.

For instance, you identify heavily with being a good father and getting fulfilment out of that but the kids are not cooperating with what you imagine that should look like. You find that identifying with “success” doesn’t work as well as it had previously. Maybe being a more adventurous Cabal, or more selfless would do it? Where would that lead? Maybe it is time to explore and see what to leave in and what to leave out.Religion may be another “identity” issue.

Your “petty bucket list” doesn’t look pathetic to me. It shows you have so many more choices than most people. Maybe looking at it as a “good start” would be more positive. Work on it.

I spent some time attending services sporadically and participating in discussion groups at the Unitarian Universalist Church in Hillcrest. I was a bit of a fish out of water, based on several things that I won’t go into, but it did have many components that might serve well towards some of these questions or activities that you want to explore.

I don’t think you have to think about clinical depression based on this and I don’t think you believe that either…but it doesn’t hurt to talk with someone… or a few people.For the record I am skeptical, as others here are, about the modern view of, and treatments for, “depression”.

[NotCranky]

I would study existential problems…and breathe as the others have said.Cry if it helps. It sounds like the identity or identities you have choosen for yourself are being challenged to a higher degree at this time.

For instance, you identify heavily with being a good father and getting fulfilment out of that but the kids are not cooperating with what you imagine that should look like. You find that identifying with “success” doesn’t work as well as it had previously. Maybe being a more adventurous Cabal, or more selfless would do it? Where would that lead? Maybe it is time to explore and see what to leave in and what to leave out.Religion may be another “identity” issue.

Your “petty bucket list” doesn’t look pathetic to me. It shows you have so many more choices than most people. Maybe looking at it as a “good start” would be more positive. Work on it.

I spent some time attending services sporadically and participating in discussion groups at the Unitarian Universalist Church in Hillcrest. I was a bit of a fish out of water, based on several things that I won’t go into, but it did have many components that might serve well towards some of these questions or activities that you want to explore.

I don’t think you have to think about clinical depression based on this and I don’t think you believe that either…but it doesn’t hurt to talk with someone… or a few people.For the record I am skeptical, as others here are, about the modern view of, and treatments for, “depression”.

[NotCranky]

I would study existential problems…and breathe as the others have said.Cry if it helps. It sounds like the identity or identities you have choosen for yourself are being challenged to a higher degree at this time.

For instance, you identify heavily with being a good father and getting fulfilment out of that but the kids are not cooperating with what you imagine that should look like. You find that identifying with “success” doesn’t work as well as it had previously. Maybe being a more adventurous Cabal, or more selfless would do it? Where would that lead? Maybe it is time to explore and see what to leave in and what to leave out.Religion may be another “identity” issue.

Your “petty bucket list” doesn’t look pathetic to me. It shows you have so many more choices than most people. Maybe looking at it as a “good start” would be more positive. Work on it.

I spent some time attending services sporadically and participating in discussion groups at the Unitarian Universalist Church in Hillcrest. I was a bit of a fish out of water, based on several things that I won’t go into, but it did have many components that might serve well towards some of these questions or activities that you want to explore.

I don’t think you have to think about clinical depression based on this and I don’t think you believe that either…but it doesn’t hurt to talk with someone… or a few people.For the record I am skeptical, as others here are, about the modern view of, and treatments for, “depression”.

[NotCranky]

I would study existential problems…and breathe as the others have said.Cry if it helps. It sounds like the identity or identities you have choosen for yourself are being challenged to a higher degree at this time.

For instance, you identify heavily with being a good father and getting fulfilment out of that but the kids are not cooperating with what you imagine that should look like. You find that identifying with “success” doesn’t work as well as it had previously. Maybe being a more adventurous Cabal, or more selfless would do it? Where would that lead? Maybe it is time to explore and see what to leave in and what to leave out.Religion may be another “identity” issue.

Your “petty bucket list” doesn’t look pathetic to me. It shows you have so many more choices than most people. Maybe looking at it as a “good start” would be more positive. Work on it.

I spent some time attending services sporadically and participating in discussion groups at the Unitarian Universalist Church in Hillcrest. I was a bit of a fish out of water, based on several things that I won’t go into, but it did have many components that might serve well towards some of these questions or activities that you want to explore.

I don’t think you have to think about clinical depression based on this and I don’t think you believe that either…but it doesn’t hurt to talk with someone… or a few people.For the record I am skeptical, as others here are, about the modern view of, and treatments for, “depression”.

[NotCranky]

BTW,Cabal, thanks for posting what you did.

[NotCranky]

BTW,Cabal, thanks for posting what you did.

[NotCranky]

BTW,Cabal, thanks for posting what you did.

[NotCranky]

BTW,Cabal, thanks for posting what you did.

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