OT: financial infidelity

[Coronita]

Did you ask your boyfriend about his finances directly? If not, I’d start there, if you’re pretty serious already. No point snooping around.

If you did ask….and you’ve been in this relationship for something longer than a few months(to the point is pseudo serious now), apparently, he “forgot” to file a 10-k disclosure to you from the time you folks started dating until now, and there isn’t any reason why you should have to pick up the excess baggage.

If you really love him and plan on marriage, get him to sign a prenuptial and make sure you keep separate accounts temporarily.

Then make sure you tell him you’ve decided to assume the CFO position in your household with at least 50% controlling stake and that he has a remaining 49% stake and that the remaining 1% is left to a coin toss which he can optionally exercise at most 2 times per year on expenses $5k or less, because obviously he did a piss poor job in the past.

Also make sure in the contract, that it clearly states unauthorized purchases without the explicit consent of the CFO will result in automatic disciplinary action, which includes no sex, no football, no beer for 3 months. And second offense results in above said disciplinary action for 6 months.

If he doesn’t agree, time to find another boyfriend without so much baggage.

[an]

Finance flow both way. Do you also disclose all of your financial info to him? Like DWCAP said, finance is a source of ego for a lot of guys, so it might help him open up more about his finance if you make him feel that his ego won’t get shatter when he reveal to you the skeletons in his closet.

[an]

Finance flow both way. Do you also disclose all of your financial info to him? Like DWCAP said, finance is a source of ego for a lot of guys, so it might help him open up more about his finance if you make him feel that his ego won’t get shatter when he reveal to you the skeletons in his closet.

[an]

Finance flow both way. Do you also disclose all of your financial info to him? Like DWCAP said, finance is a source of ego for a lot of guys, so it might help him open up more about his finance if you make him feel that his ego won’t get shatter when he reveal to you the skeletons in his closet.

[an]

Finance flow both way. Do you also disclose all of your financial info to him? Like DWCAP said, finance is a source of ego for a lot of guys, so it might help him open up more about his finance if you make him feel that his ego won’t get shatter when he reveal to you the skeletons in his closet.

[an]

Finance flow both way. Do you also disclose all of your financial info to him? Like DWCAP said, finance is a source of ego for a lot of guys, so it might help him open up more about his finance if you make him feel that his ego won’t get shatter when he reveal to you the skeletons in his closet.

[waitingpatiently]

In regards to the not being open about the credit card….he may be embarrassed. He may have learned a hard lesson in “living within his means 101”.

The fact that he is paying child support is a huge red flag. In my opinion, anyone with kids is off limits. His child/children should be his first priority, above any girlfriend/wife. Did you know that he had children? Not sound harsh, just looking from the outside in.

Just remember that there are LOTS of fish in the sea.

[waitingpatiently]

In regards to the not being open about the credit card….he may be embarrassed. He may have learned a hard lesson in “living within his means 101”.

The fact that he is paying child support is a huge red flag. In my opinion, anyone with kids is off limits. His child/children should be his first priority, above any girlfriend/wife. Did you know that he had children? Not sound harsh, just looking from the outside in.

Just remember that there are LOTS of fish in the sea.

[waitingpatiently]

In regards to the not being open about the credit card….he may be embarrassed. He may have learned a hard lesson in “living within his means 101”.

The fact that he is paying child support is a huge red flag. In my opinion, anyone with kids is off limits. His child/children should be his first priority, above any girlfriend/wife. Did you know that he had children? Not sound harsh, just looking from the outside in.

Just remember that there are LOTS of fish in the sea.

[waitingpatiently]

In regards to the not being open about the credit card….he may be embarrassed. He may have learned a hard lesson in “living within his means 101”.

The fact that he is paying child support is a huge red flag. In my opinion, anyone with kids is off limits. His child/children should be his first priority, above any girlfriend/wife. Did you know that he had children? Not sound harsh, just looking from the outside in.

Just remember that there are LOTS of fish in the sea.

[waitingpatiently]

In regards to the not being open about the credit card….he may be embarrassed. He may have learned a hard lesson in “living within his means 101”.

The fact that he is paying child support is a huge red flag. In my opinion, anyone with kids is off limits. His child/children should be his first priority, above any girlfriend/wife. Did you know that he had children? Not sound harsh, just looking from the outside in.

Just remember that there are LOTS of fish in the sea.

[Nor-LA-SD-guy]

“anyone with kids is off limits”

Good advice ???
maybe but just remember that advice works both ways.

Harsh ????

[Nor-LA-SD-guy]

“anyone with kids is off limits”

Good advice ???
maybe but just remember that advice works both ways.

Harsh ????

[Nor-LA-SD-guy]

“anyone with kids is off limits”

Good advice ???
maybe but just remember that advice works both ways.

Harsh ????

[Nor-LA-SD-guy]

“anyone with kids is off limits”

Good advice ???
maybe but just remember that advice works both ways.

Harsh ????

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