Affairs of the heart…

[davelj]

Marion: “So in following your plan, I will have effectively changed my profession to that of a hooker.”

I might substitute the word “changed” with “defined.” But reasonable people can disagree.

[davelj]

Marion: “Any man in a relationship with me will understand that I’m am the only female he’ll be getting his milk from.”

I would add to the end of that sentence: “or so long as he can fool me into believing that’s actually the case.”

[davelj]

Marion: “Any man in a relationship with me will understand that I’m am the only female he’ll be getting his milk from.”

I would add to the end of that sentence: “or so long as he can fool me into believing that’s actually the case.”

[davelj]

Marion: “Any man in a relationship with me will understand that I’m am the only female he’ll be getting his milk from.”

I would add to the end of that sentence: “or so long as he can fool me into believing that’s actually the case.”

[davelj]

Marion: “Any man in a relationship with me will understand that I’m am the only female he’ll be getting his milk from.”

I would add to the end of that sentence: “or so long as he can fool me into believing that’s actually the case.”

[davelj]

Marion: “Any man in a relationship with me will understand that I’m am the only female he’ll be getting his milk from.”

I would add to the end of that sentence: “or so long as he can fool me into believing that’s actually the case.”

[Arty]

“Any man in a relationship with me will understand that I’m am the only female he’ll be getting his milk from.”

I don’t mean for guys to cheat on their girlfriends. I am just saying you are not stuck in a marriage. While dating allows you to just walk away and find another one. Personally, I don’t see any thing wrong with sowing one’s wild oats (use protections please).

[Arty]

“Any man in a relationship with me will understand that I’m am the only female he’ll be getting his milk from.”

I don’t mean for guys to cheat on their girlfriends. I am just saying you are not stuck in a marriage. While dating allows you to just walk away and find another one. Personally, I don’t see any thing wrong with sowing one’s wild oats (use protections please).

[Arty]

“Any man in a relationship with me will understand that I’m am the only female he’ll be getting his milk from.”

I don’t mean for guys to cheat on their girlfriends. I am just saying you are not stuck in a marriage. While dating allows you to just walk away and find another one. Personally, I don’t see any thing wrong with sowing one’s wild oats (use protections please).

[Arty]

“Any man in a relationship with me will understand that I’m am the only female he’ll be getting his milk from.”

I don’t mean for guys to cheat on their girlfriends. I am just saying you are not stuck in a marriage. While dating allows you to just walk away and find another one. Personally, I don’t see any thing wrong with sowing one’s wild oats (use protections please).

[Arty]

“Any man in a relationship with me will understand that I’m am the only female he’ll be getting his milk from.”

I don’t mean for guys to cheat on their girlfriends. I am just saying you are not stuck in a marriage. While dating allows you to just walk away and find another one. Personally, I don’t see any thing wrong with sowing one’s wild oats (use protections please).

[PCinSD]

Looks like most people jumped in on this and posted much of what I’d echo.

I’m divorced, late 30’s, occasionally date. I’ve never thought of a prenup, but then again I haven’t seriously thought of marriage after mine failed. People have moral, religious, financial concerns that play into the decision of whether to have a prenup. It’s a purely personal decision. Given your situation (divorced) it can’t hurt.

If you don’t believe him, how exactly does buying you a nice dinner change that? That’s all it takes? You should have a better rationale for disbelieving his stated feelings for you other than the fact he hasn’t bought you a nice dinner.

By the way, you may remember the “Seinfeld” episode where George asked his fiancee for a prenup. Not because he needed one, but because he thought she would leave him if he asked her to sign. (It was Kramer’s idea) Turns out it didn’t matter anyway. I’m not saying this guy is trying to scare you away, but asking for a prenup doesn’t mean he has significant assets either.

As a single man, here’s my cynical take on the lunch dates: He finds you attractive but isn’t sold on you. He has other things going on in the evening that are a sure thing. He thinks if you believe he really likes you, he’ll get to see you naked. He just doesn’t want to have to cut into the valuable time he spends with the friends he’s known for years, or the other women he dates. In a nutshell, after 4 dates, he probably wants to know he’s got a decent chance of getting some if he shells out the bucks and time for a nice dinner. Given your postings, it doesn’t appear that’ll happen anytime soon for him.

Doesn’t make him a bad guy. But perhaps not the right guy for you. If you thought he was sincere about really liking you, would you sleep with him? I’m just wondering if my theory holds any water. I know it’s personal, but that ship sailed awhile ago. Best of luck.

pabloesqobar

[PCinSD]

Looks like most people jumped in on this and posted much of what I’d echo.

I’m divorced, late 30’s, occasionally date. I’ve never thought of a prenup, but then again I haven’t seriously thought of marriage after mine failed. People have moral, religious, financial concerns that play into the decision of whether to have a prenup. It’s a purely personal decision. Given your situation (divorced) it can’t hurt.

If you don’t believe him, how exactly does buying you a nice dinner change that? That’s all it takes? You should have a better rationale for disbelieving his stated feelings for you other than the fact he hasn’t bought you a nice dinner.

By the way, you may remember the “Seinfeld” episode where George asked his fiancee for a prenup. Not because he needed one, but because he thought she would leave him if he asked her to sign. (It was Kramer’s idea) Turns out it didn’t matter anyway. I’m not saying this guy is trying to scare you away, but asking for a prenup doesn’t mean he has significant assets either.

As a single man, here’s my cynical take on the lunch dates: He finds you attractive but isn’t sold on you. He has other things going on in the evening that are a sure thing. He thinks if you believe he really likes you, he’ll get to see you naked. He just doesn’t want to have to cut into the valuable time he spends with the friends he’s known for years, or the other women he dates. In a nutshell, after 4 dates, he probably wants to know he’s got a decent chance of getting some if he shells out the bucks and time for a nice dinner. Given your postings, it doesn’t appear that’ll happen anytime soon for him.

Doesn’t make him a bad guy. But perhaps not the right guy for you. If you thought he was sincere about really liking you, would you sleep with him? I’m just wondering if my theory holds any water. I know it’s personal, but that ship sailed awhile ago. Best of luck.

pabloesqobar

[PCinSD]

Looks like most people jumped in on this and posted much of what I’d echo.

I’m divorced, late 30’s, occasionally date. I’ve never thought of a prenup, but then again I haven’t seriously thought of marriage after mine failed. People have moral, religious, financial concerns that play into the decision of whether to have a prenup. It’s a purely personal decision. Given your situation (divorced) it can’t hurt.

If you don’t believe him, how exactly does buying you a nice dinner change that? That’s all it takes? You should have a better rationale for disbelieving his stated feelings for you other than the fact he hasn’t bought you a nice dinner.

By the way, you may remember the “Seinfeld” episode where George asked his fiancee for a prenup. Not because he needed one, but because he thought she would leave him if he asked her to sign. (It was Kramer’s idea) Turns out it didn’t matter anyway. I’m not saying this guy is trying to scare you away, but asking for a prenup doesn’t mean he has significant assets either.

As a single man, here’s my cynical take on the lunch dates: He finds you attractive but isn’t sold on you. He has other things going on in the evening that are a sure thing. He thinks if you believe he really likes you, he’ll get to see you naked. He just doesn’t want to have to cut into the valuable time he spends with the friends he’s known for years, or the other women he dates. In a nutshell, after 4 dates, he probably wants to know he’s got a decent chance of getting some if he shells out the bucks and time for a nice dinner. Given your postings, it doesn’t appear that’ll happen anytime soon for him.

Doesn’t make him a bad guy. But perhaps not the right guy for you. If you thought he was sincere about really liking you, would you sleep with him? I’m just wondering if my theory holds any water. I know it’s personal, but that ship sailed awhile ago. Best of luck.

pabloesqobar

[PCinSD]

Looks like most people jumped in on this and posted much of what I’d echo.

I’m divorced, late 30’s, occasionally date. I’ve never thought of a prenup, but then again I haven’t seriously thought of marriage after mine failed. People have moral, religious, financial concerns that play into the decision of whether to have a prenup. It’s a purely personal decision. Given your situation (divorced) it can’t hurt.

If you don’t believe him, how exactly does buying you a nice dinner change that? That’s all it takes? You should have a better rationale for disbelieving his stated feelings for you other than the fact he hasn’t bought you a nice dinner.

By the way, you may remember the “Seinfeld” episode where George asked his fiancee for a prenup. Not because he needed one, but because he thought she would leave him if he asked her to sign. (It was Kramer’s idea) Turns out it didn’t matter anyway. I’m not saying this guy is trying to scare you away, but asking for a prenup doesn’t mean he has significant assets either.

As a single man, here’s my cynical take on the lunch dates: He finds you attractive but isn’t sold on you. He has other things going on in the evening that are a sure thing. He thinks if you believe he really likes you, he’ll get to see you naked. He just doesn’t want to have to cut into the valuable time he spends with the friends he’s known for years, or the other women he dates. In a nutshell, after 4 dates, he probably wants to know he’s got a decent chance of getting some if he shells out the bucks and time for a nice dinner. Given your postings, it doesn’t appear that’ll happen anytime soon for him.

Doesn’t make him a bad guy. But perhaps not the right guy for you. If you thought he was sincere about really liking you, would you sleep with him? I’m just wondering if my theory holds any water. I know it’s personal, but that ship sailed awhile ago. Best of luck.

pabloesqobar

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