Affairs of the heart…

[(former)FormerSanDiegan]

Yes, I would interpret

… the nicer dates are supposed to happen after the relationship progresses.

as date-speak for

I get to enjoy his monetary assets after he gets to enjoy my physical assets.

[kev374]

Ok, I’m old fashioned and the way I see it, he should have tried to impress me by now.

Here is the thing…this statement comes across as someone having a pretty strong sense of entitlement. You’re expecting him to “impress” you, let me turn the tables and ask, what have you done or are doing or going to do to impress him? Or do you think that you are the only one that matters because you are a woman?

Not to offend you or imply anything, just asking a reasonable question I think.

[kev374]

Ok, I’m old fashioned and the way I see it, he should have tried to impress me by now.

Here is the thing…this statement comes across as someone having a pretty strong sense of entitlement. You’re expecting him to “impress” you, let me turn the tables and ask, what have you done or are doing or going to do to impress him? Or do you think that you are the only one that matters because you are a woman?

Not to offend you or imply anything, just asking a reasonable question I think.

[kev374]

Ok, I’m old fashioned and the way I see it, he should have tried to impress me by now.

Here is the thing…this statement comes across as someone having a pretty strong sense of entitlement. You’re expecting him to “impress” you, let me turn the tables and ask, what have you done or are doing or going to do to impress him? Or do you think that you are the only one that matters because you are a woman?

Not to offend you or imply anything, just asking a reasonable question I think.

[kev374]

Ok, I’m old fashioned and the way I see it, he should have tried to impress me by now.

Here is the thing…this statement comes across as someone having a pretty strong sense of entitlement. You’re expecting him to “impress” you, let me turn the tables and ask, what have you done or are doing or going to do to impress him? Or do you think that you are the only one that matters because you are a woman?

Not to offend you or imply anything, just asking a reasonable question I think.

[kev374]

Ok, I’m old fashioned and the way I see it, he should have tried to impress me by now.

Here is the thing…this statement comes across as someone having a pretty strong sense of entitlement. You’re expecting him to “impress” you, let me turn the tables and ask, what have you done or are doing or going to do to impress him? Or do you think that you are the only one that matters because you are a woman?

Not to offend you or imply anything, just asking a reasonable question I think.

[davelj]

Marion,

Perhaps I’m wrong (it’s no skin off my back), but another thing I’ve noticed in my life is that 90% of women will spend an inordinate amount of time trying to convince someone that they’re in the 10% that don’t care about money… all evidence to the contrary. Case in point:

stin·gy (adj.)
1. reluctant to give or spend; not generous: He’s a stingy old miser.
2. scanty or meager: A stingy little income.

Seems like the word “stingy,” at bottom, is ALL about money. I think it’s pretty clear that your comments are not being “taken out of context.” You want to have your cake and eat it too. You want the guy to “impress you” with a “nice date” that, as you’ve already explained, you have no intentions of paying for. And, at the same time, you want us to believe that “you don’t care about money.” I must admit, you’ve got quite a challenge on your hands. Do you think this guy describes you as stingy despite the fact that he’s paid for “mostly” all of the dates? That’s a rhetorical question. Women, as a general rule, don’t pay. After all, they might label the man as “stingy.”

Here’s my suggestion: Tell the man that you’d like to go on a nice date and define for him precisely what “nice date” means. Since he’s told you that he’d like to sleep with you, tell him that he’ll be able to sleep with you in exchange for this nice date. I think you’ll be on the road toward a mutually beneficial relationship with very little confusion between you.

[davelj]

Marion,

Perhaps I’m wrong (it’s no skin off my back), but another thing I’ve noticed in my life is that 90% of women will spend an inordinate amount of time trying to convince someone that they’re in the 10% that don’t care about money… all evidence to the contrary. Case in point:

stin·gy (adj.)
1. reluctant to give or spend; not generous: He’s a stingy old miser.
2. scanty or meager: A stingy little income.

Seems like the word “stingy,” at bottom, is ALL about money. I think it’s pretty clear that your comments are not being “taken out of context.” You want to have your cake and eat it too. You want the guy to “impress you” with a “nice date” that, as you’ve already explained, you have no intentions of paying for. And, at the same time, you want us to believe that “you don’t care about money.” I must admit, you’ve got quite a challenge on your hands. Do you think this guy describes you as stingy despite the fact that he’s paid for “mostly” all of the dates? That’s a rhetorical question. Women, as a general rule, don’t pay. After all, they might label the man as “stingy.”

Here’s my suggestion: Tell the man that you’d like to go on a nice date and define for him precisely what “nice date” means. Since he’s told you that he’d like to sleep with you, tell him that he’ll be able to sleep with you in exchange for this nice date. I think you’ll be on the road toward a mutually beneficial relationship with very little confusion between you.

[davelj]

Marion,

Perhaps I’m wrong (it’s no skin off my back), but another thing I’ve noticed in my life is that 90% of women will spend an inordinate amount of time trying to convince someone that they’re in the 10% that don’t care about money… all evidence to the contrary. Case in point:

stin·gy (adj.)
1. reluctant to give or spend; not generous: He’s a stingy old miser.
2. scanty or meager: A stingy little income.

Seems like the word “stingy,” at bottom, is ALL about money. I think it’s pretty clear that your comments are not being “taken out of context.” You want to have your cake and eat it too. You want the guy to “impress you” with a “nice date” that, as you’ve already explained, you have no intentions of paying for. And, at the same time, you want us to believe that “you don’t care about money.” I must admit, you’ve got quite a challenge on your hands. Do you think this guy describes you as stingy despite the fact that he’s paid for “mostly” all of the dates? That’s a rhetorical question. Women, as a general rule, don’t pay. After all, they might label the man as “stingy.”

Here’s my suggestion: Tell the man that you’d like to go on a nice date and define for him precisely what “nice date” means. Since he’s told you that he’d like to sleep with you, tell him that he’ll be able to sleep with you in exchange for this nice date. I think you’ll be on the road toward a mutually beneficial relationship with very little confusion between you.

[davelj]

Marion,

Perhaps I’m wrong (it’s no skin off my back), but another thing I’ve noticed in my life is that 90% of women will spend an inordinate amount of time trying to convince someone that they’re in the 10% that don’t care about money… all evidence to the contrary. Case in point:

stin·gy (adj.)
1. reluctant to give or spend; not generous: He’s a stingy old miser.
2. scanty or meager: A stingy little income.

Seems like the word “stingy,” at bottom, is ALL about money. I think it’s pretty clear that your comments are not being “taken out of context.” You want to have your cake and eat it too. You want the guy to “impress you” with a “nice date” that, as you’ve already explained, you have no intentions of paying for. And, at the same time, you want us to believe that “you don’t care about money.” I must admit, you’ve got quite a challenge on your hands. Do you think this guy describes you as stingy despite the fact that he’s paid for “mostly” all of the dates? That’s a rhetorical question. Women, as a general rule, don’t pay. After all, they might label the man as “stingy.”

Here’s my suggestion: Tell the man that you’d like to go on a nice date and define for him precisely what “nice date” means. Since he’s told you that he’d like to sleep with you, tell him that he’ll be able to sleep with you in exchange for this nice date. I think you’ll be on the road toward a mutually beneficial relationship with very little confusion between you.

[davelj]

Marion,

Perhaps I’m wrong (it’s no skin off my back), but another thing I’ve noticed in my life is that 90% of women will spend an inordinate amount of time trying to convince someone that they’re in the 10% that don’t care about money… all evidence to the contrary. Case in point:

stin·gy (adj.)
1. reluctant to give or spend; not generous: He’s a stingy old miser.
2. scanty or meager: A stingy little income.

Seems like the word “stingy,” at bottom, is ALL about money. I think it’s pretty clear that your comments are not being “taken out of context.” You want to have your cake and eat it too. You want the guy to “impress you” with a “nice date” that, as you’ve already explained, you have no intentions of paying for. And, at the same time, you want us to believe that “you don’t care about money.” I must admit, you’ve got quite a challenge on your hands. Do you think this guy describes you as stingy despite the fact that he’s paid for “mostly” all of the dates? That’s a rhetorical question. Women, as a general rule, don’t pay. After all, they might label the man as “stingy.”

Here’s my suggestion: Tell the man that you’d like to go on a nice date and define for him precisely what “nice date” means. Since he’s told you that he’d like to sleep with you, tell him that he’ll be able to sleep with you in exchange for this nice date. I think you’ll be on the road toward a mutually beneficial relationship with very little confusion between you.

[scaredyclassic]

it may be worth noting that among various guides for players that it is advisable not to spend money on women because it shifts the balance of power to her–that is, the guy who tries to win the affection of a woman by spending money often gets nowehere, while the bad boy who keeps the woman guessing and who playfully insults her usually actually gets the girl. i think this tends to be true, that women are more attracted to you when you act like you don’t need them. might not be rue for you, but if this guy is playing the odds, the odds are he’s gottena bette response in general from women when he doesn’t try to buy their affection, when he acts like he can take em or leave em, has options, and that you shoudl be chasing him, not the other way around. i dont agree he’s necessarily been putt hrought he wringer, it’s really the only way to reliably get lots of action, statsitcially speaking, from women.

Drink Heavily.

[scaredyclassic]

it may be worth noting that among various guides for players that it is advisable not to spend money on women because it shifts the balance of power to her–that is, the guy who tries to win the affection of a woman by spending money often gets nowehere, while the bad boy who keeps the woman guessing and who playfully insults her usually actually gets the girl. i think this tends to be true, that women are more attracted to you when you act like you don’t need them. might not be rue for you, but if this guy is playing the odds, the odds are he’s gottena bette response in general from women when he doesn’t try to buy their affection, when he acts like he can take em or leave em, has options, and that you shoudl be chasing him, not the other way around. i dont agree he’s necessarily been putt hrought he wringer, it’s really the only way to reliably get lots of action, statsitcially speaking, from women.

Drink Heavily.

[scaredyclassic]

it may be worth noting that among various guides for players that it is advisable not to spend money on women because it shifts the balance of power to her–that is, the guy who tries to win the affection of a woman by spending money often gets nowehere, while the bad boy who keeps the woman guessing and who playfully insults her usually actually gets the girl. i think this tends to be true, that women are more attracted to you when you act like you don’t need them. might not be rue for you, but if this guy is playing the odds, the odds are he’s gottena bette response in general from women when he doesn’t try to buy their affection, when he acts like he can take em or leave em, has options, and that you shoudl be chasing him, not the other way around. i dont agree he’s necessarily been putt hrought he wringer, it’s really the only way to reliably get lots of action, statsitcially speaking, from women.

Drink Heavily.

[scaredyclassic]

it may be worth noting that among various guides for players that it is advisable not to spend money on women because it shifts the balance of power to her–that is, the guy who tries to win the affection of a woman by spending money often gets nowehere, while the bad boy who keeps the woman guessing and who playfully insults her usually actually gets the girl. i think this tends to be true, that women are more attracted to you when you act like you don’t need them. might not be rue for you, but if this guy is playing the odds, the odds are he’s gottena bette response in general from women when he doesn’t try to buy their affection, when he acts like he can take em or leave em, has options, and that you shoudl be chasing him, not the other way around. i dont agree he’s necessarily been putt hrought he wringer, it’s really the only way to reliably get lots of action, statsitcially speaking, from women.

Drink Heavily.

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