Affairs of the heart…

[XBoxBoy]

Marion,

Can I make a simple suggestion? Don’t worry about it at this stage. Don’t worry about the prenup, and don’t worry about a fancy date. But also don’t let yourself get too caught up with falling in love with him either. If you pressure him to take you on a nice date, then you won’t see the real him. Let him show what kind of guy he is on his own. Only after he’s done that, should you even start to think about stuff like prenups. 4 dates is way too soon to start wondering about finances and prenups.

XBoxBoy (Not one of the financially saavy, but oh well.)

[JWM in SD]

I’ll echo the sentiments of some of the others and add my own insights.

I don’t think you were out of line with wanting a “nice date”. As others have pointed out, some additional clarification was probably necessary. 5 – 7 years ago I was on the dating scence pretty frequently and ran into women who exhibited some of the same skittish qualities, and well beyond sometimes, so I don’t think this is exclusive to men.

When I was dating back then, I never did an expensive date until the 2nd or 3rd date when I felt there was some chemistry there. Even then, it was a place of my choosing. The way I looked at it, was that if there was a nice restaurant that had not been to before or really enjoyed, then why not take some company and share that experience. That being said, I wasn’t buying cristal and lobster. I think the most I ever spent, this was back in Chicago, was $150 for dinner at a Brazilian Churrascaria called Fogo de Chao. My date must have been suitably impressed because got married a year later and just had our first born son two weeks ago 😉

[JWM in SD]

I’ll echo the sentiments of some of the others and add my own insights.

I don’t think you were out of line with wanting a “nice date”. As others have pointed out, some additional clarification was probably necessary. 5 – 7 years ago I was on the dating scence pretty frequently and ran into women who exhibited some of the same skittish qualities, and well beyond sometimes, so I don’t think this is exclusive to men.

When I was dating back then, I never did an expensive date until the 2nd or 3rd date when I felt there was some chemistry there. Even then, it was a place of my choosing. The way I looked at it, was that if there was a nice restaurant that had not been to before or really enjoyed, then why not take some company and share that experience. That being said, I wasn’t buying cristal and lobster. I think the most I ever spent, this was back in Chicago, was $150 for dinner at a Brazilian Churrascaria called Fogo de Chao. My date must have been suitably impressed because got married a year later and just had our first born son two weeks ago 😉

[JWM in SD]

I’ll echo the sentiments of some of the others and add my own insights.

I don’t think you were out of line with wanting a “nice date”. As others have pointed out, some additional clarification was probably necessary. 5 – 7 years ago I was on the dating scence pretty frequently and ran into women who exhibited some of the same skittish qualities, and well beyond sometimes, so I don’t think this is exclusive to men.

When I was dating back then, I never did an expensive date until the 2nd or 3rd date when I felt there was some chemistry there. Even then, it was a place of my choosing. The way I looked at it, was that if there was a nice restaurant that had not been to before or really enjoyed, then why not take some company and share that experience. That being said, I wasn’t buying cristal and lobster. I think the most I ever spent, this was back in Chicago, was $150 for dinner at a Brazilian Churrascaria called Fogo de Chao. My date must have been suitably impressed because got married a year later and just had our first born son two weeks ago 😉

[JWM in SD]

I’ll echo the sentiments of some of the others and add my own insights.

I don’t think you were out of line with wanting a “nice date”. As others have pointed out, some additional clarification was probably necessary. 5 – 7 years ago I was on the dating scence pretty frequently and ran into women who exhibited some of the same skittish qualities, and well beyond sometimes, so I don’t think this is exclusive to men.

When I was dating back then, I never did an expensive date until the 2nd or 3rd date when I felt there was some chemistry there. Even then, it was a place of my choosing. The way I looked at it, was that if there was a nice restaurant that had not been to before or really enjoyed, then why not take some company and share that experience. That being said, I wasn’t buying cristal and lobster. I think the most I ever spent, this was back in Chicago, was $150 for dinner at a Brazilian Churrascaria called Fogo de Chao. My date must have been suitably impressed because got married a year later and just had our first born son two weeks ago 😉

[JWM in SD]

I’ll echo the sentiments of some of the others and add my own insights.

I don’t think you were out of line with wanting a “nice date”. As others have pointed out, some additional clarification was probably necessary. 5 – 7 years ago I was on the dating scence pretty frequently and ran into women who exhibited some of the same skittish qualities, and well beyond sometimes, so I don’t think this is exclusive to men.

When I was dating back then, I never did an expensive date until the 2nd or 3rd date when I felt there was some chemistry there. Even then, it was a place of my choosing. The way I looked at it, was that if there was a nice restaurant that had not been to before or really enjoyed, then why not take some company and share that experience. That being said, I wasn’t buying cristal and lobster. I think the most I ever spent, this was back in Chicago, was $150 for dinner at a Brazilian Churrascaria called Fogo de Chao. My date must have been suitably impressed because got married a year later and just had our first born son two weeks ago 😉

[Anonymous]

Dave: “So, to sum things up, in my opinion it seems like you two are made for each other. He’s pretending that he has enough wealth for it to matter whether or not a pre-nup is necessary, and you’re pretending to not care about the money he probably doesn’t have. But I’ve been wrong before.”

And you’re wrong now. I don’t care about the money. But, I care about “stingy”. It probably is because someone took him to the cleaners.

One poster on here said they shouldn’t have to “impress” a woman. I said impressed, but I don’t want it to be taken out of context. I’ts not so much I want to be “impressed” as much as I want a man to demonstrate to me I’m worth the effort of being taken somewhere nice and worthwhile.

Oh, and he didn’t have a problem stating how much he wants to have me in bed…

[Anonymous]

Dave: “So, to sum things up, in my opinion it seems like you two are made for each other. He’s pretending that he has enough wealth for it to matter whether or not a pre-nup is necessary, and you’re pretending to not care about the money he probably doesn’t have. But I’ve been wrong before.”

And you’re wrong now. I don’t care about the money. But, I care about “stingy”. It probably is because someone took him to the cleaners.

One poster on here said they shouldn’t have to “impress” a woman. I said impressed, but I don’t want it to be taken out of context. I’ts not so much I want to be “impressed” as much as I want a man to demonstrate to me I’m worth the effort of being taken somewhere nice and worthwhile.

Oh, and he didn’t have a problem stating how much he wants to have me in bed…

[Anonymous]

Dave: “So, to sum things up, in my opinion it seems like you two are made for each other. He’s pretending that he has enough wealth for it to matter whether or not a pre-nup is necessary, and you’re pretending to not care about the money he probably doesn’t have. But I’ve been wrong before.”

And you’re wrong now. I don’t care about the money. But, I care about “stingy”. It probably is because someone took him to the cleaners.

One poster on here said they shouldn’t have to “impress” a woman. I said impressed, but I don’t want it to be taken out of context. I’ts not so much I want to be “impressed” as much as I want a man to demonstrate to me I’m worth the effort of being taken somewhere nice and worthwhile.

Oh, and he didn’t have a problem stating how much he wants to have me in bed…

[Anonymous]

Dave: “So, to sum things up, in my opinion it seems like you two are made for each other. He’s pretending that he has enough wealth for it to matter whether or not a pre-nup is necessary, and you’re pretending to not care about the money he probably doesn’t have. But I’ve been wrong before.”

And you’re wrong now. I don’t care about the money. But, I care about “stingy”. It probably is because someone took him to the cleaners.

One poster on here said they shouldn’t have to “impress” a woman. I said impressed, but I don’t want it to be taken out of context. I’ts not so much I want to be “impressed” as much as I want a man to demonstrate to me I’m worth the effort of being taken somewhere nice and worthwhile.

Oh, and he didn’t have a problem stating how much he wants to have me in bed…

[Anonymous]

Dave: “So, to sum things up, in my opinion it seems like you two are made for each other. He’s pretending that he has enough wealth for it to matter whether or not a pre-nup is necessary, and you’re pretending to not care about the money he probably doesn’t have. But I’ve been wrong before.”

And you’re wrong now. I don’t care about the money. But, I care about “stingy”. It probably is because someone took him to the cleaners.

One poster on here said they shouldn’t have to “impress” a woman. I said impressed, but I don’t want it to be taken out of context. I’ts not so much I want to be “impressed” as much as I want a man to demonstrate to me I’m worth the effort of being taken somewhere nice and worthwhile.

Oh, and he didn’t have a problem stating how much he wants to have me in bed…

[Anonymous]

JWM: “I think the most I ever spent, this was back in Chicago, was $150 for dinner at a Brazilian Churrascaria called Fogo de Chao. My date must have been suitably impressed because got married a year later and just had our first born son two weeks ago ;-)”

JWM, congrats on your son! Pretty nice ending there so far. 🙂

[Anonymous]

JWM: “I think the most I ever spent, this was back in Chicago, was $150 for dinner at a Brazilian Churrascaria called Fogo de Chao. My date must have been suitably impressed because got married a year later and just had our first born son two weeks ago ;-)”

JWM, congrats on your son! Pretty nice ending there so far. 🙂

[Anonymous]

JWM: “I think the most I ever spent, this was back in Chicago, was $150 for dinner at a Brazilian Churrascaria called Fogo de Chao. My date must have been suitably impressed because got married a year later and just had our first born son two weeks ago ;-)”

JWM, congrats on your son! Pretty nice ending there so far. 🙂

[Anonymous]

JWM: “I think the most I ever spent, this was back in Chicago, was $150 for dinner at a Brazilian Churrascaria called Fogo de Chao. My date must have been suitably impressed because got married a year later and just had our first born son two weeks ago ;-)”

JWM, congrats on your son! Pretty nice ending there so far. 🙂

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