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December 10, 2007 at 4:04 PM #113523December 10, 2007 at 4:15 PM #113332
JWM in SD
ParticipantI’ll echo the sentiments of some of the others and add my own insights.
I don’t think you were out of line with wanting a “nice date”. As others have pointed out, some additional clarification was probably necessary. 5 – 7 years ago I was on the dating scence pretty frequently and ran into women who exhibited some of the same skittish qualities, and well beyond sometimes, so I don’t think this is exclusive to men.
When I was dating back then, I never did an expensive date until the 2nd or 3rd date when I felt there was some chemistry there. Even then, it was a place of my choosing. The way I looked at it, was that if there was a nice restaurant that had not been to before or really enjoyed, then why not take some company and share that experience. That being said, I wasn’t buying cristal and lobster. I think the most I ever spent, this was back in Chicago, was $150 for dinner at a Brazilian Churrascaria called Fogo de Chao. My date must have been suitably impressed because got married a year later and just had our first born son two weeks ago 😉
December 10, 2007 at 4:15 PM #113451ParticipantI’ll echo the sentiments of some of the others and add my own insights.
I don’t think you were out of line with wanting a “nice date”. As others have pointed out, some additional clarification was probably necessary. 5 – 7 years ago I was on the dating scence pretty frequently and ran into women who exhibited some of the same skittish qualities, and well beyond sometimes, so I don’t think this is exclusive to men.
When I was dating back then, I never did an expensive date until the 2nd or 3rd date when I felt there was some chemistry there. Even then, it was a place of my choosing. The way I looked at it, was that if there was a nice restaurant that had not been to before or really enjoyed, then why not take some company and share that experience. That being said, I wasn’t buying cristal and lobster. I think the most I ever spent, this was back in Chicago, was $150 for dinner at a Brazilian Churrascaria called Fogo de Chao. My date must have been suitably impressed because got married a year later and just had our first born son two weeks ago 😉
December 10, 2007 at 4:15 PM #113495ParticipantI’ll echo the sentiments of some of the others and add my own insights.
I don’t think you were out of line with wanting a “nice date”. As others have pointed out, some additional clarification was probably necessary. 5 – 7 years ago I was on the dating scence pretty frequently and ran into women who exhibited some of the same skittish qualities, and well beyond sometimes, so I don’t think this is exclusive to men.
When I was dating back then, I never did an expensive date until the 2nd or 3rd date when I felt there was some chemistry there. Even then, it was a place of my choosing. The way I looked at it, was that if there was a nice restaurant that had not been to before or really enjoyed, then why not take some company and share that experience. That being said, I wasn’t buying cristal and lobster. I think the most I ever spent, this was back in Chicago, was $150 for dinner at a Brazilian Churrascaria called Fogo de Chao. My date must have been suitably impressed because got married a year later and just had our first born son two weeks ago 😉
December 10, 2007 at 4:15 PM #113499ParticipantI’ll echo the sentiments of some of the others and add my own insights.
I don’t think you were out of line with wanting a “nice date”. As others have pointed out, some additional clarification was probably necessary. 5 – 7 years ago I was on the dating scence pretty frequently and ran into women who exhibited some of the same skittish qualities, and well beyond sometimes, so I don’t think this is exclusive to men.
When I was dating back then, I never did an expensive date until the 2nd or 3rd date when I felt there was some chemistry there. Even then, it was a place of my choosing. The way I looked at it, was that if there was a nice restaurant that had not been to before or really enjoyed, then why not take some company and share that experience. That being said, I wasn’t buying cristal and lobster. I think the most I ever spent, this was back in Chicago, was $150 for dinner at a Brazilian Churrascaria called Fogo de Chao. My date must have been suitably impressed because got married a year later and just had our first born son two weeks ago 😉
December 10, 2007 at 4:15 PM #113533ParticipantI’ll echo the sentiments of some of the others and add my own insights.
I don’t think you were out of line with wanting a “nice date”. As others have pointed out, some additional clarification was probably necessary. 5 – 7 years ago I was on the dating scence pretty frequently and ran into women who exhibited some of the same skittish qualities, and well beyond sometimes, so I don’t think this is exclusive to men.
When I was dating back then, I never did an expensive date until the 2nd or 3rd date when I felt there was some chemistry there. Even then, it was a place of my choosing. The way I looked at it, was that if there was a nice restaurant that had not been to before or really enjoyed, then why not take some company and share that experience. That being said, I wasn’t buying cristal and lobster. I think the most I ever spent, this was back in Chicago, was $150 for dinner at a Brazilian Churrascaria called Fogo de Chao. My date must have been suitably impressed because got married a year later and just had our first born son two weeks ago 😉
December 10, 2007 at 4:17 PM #113337Anonymous
GuestDave: “So, to sum things up, in my opinion it seems like you two are made for each other. He’s pretending that he has enough wealth for it to matter whether or not a pre-nup is necessary, and you’re pretending to not care about the money he probably doesn’t have. But I’ve been wrong before.”
And you’re wrong now. I don’t care about the money. But, I care about “stingy”. It probably is because someone took him to the cleaners.
One poster on here said they shouldn’t have to “impress” a woman. I said impressed, but I don’t want it to be taken out of context. I’ts not so much I want to be “impressed” as much as I want a man to demonstrate to me I’m worth the effort of being taken somewhere nice and worthwhile.
Oh, and he didn’t have a problem stating how much he wants to have me in bed…
December 10, 2007 at 4:17 PM #113456GuestDave: “So, to sum things up, in my opinion it seems like you two are made for each other. He’s pretending that he has enough wealth for it to matter whether or not a pre-nup is necessary, and you’re pretending to not care about the money he probably doesn’t have. But I’ve been wrong before.”
And you’re wrong now. I don’t care about the money. But, I care about “stingy”. It probably is because someone took him to the cleaners.
One poster on here said they shouldn’t have to “impress” a woman. I said impressed, but I don’t want it to be taken out of context. I’ts not so much I want to be “impressed” as much as I want a man to demonstrate to me I’m worth the effort of being taken somewhere nice and worthwhile.
Oh, and he didn’t have a problem stating how much he wants to have me in bed…
December 10, 2007 at 4:17 PM #113500GuestDave: “So, to sum things up, in my opinion it seems like you two are made for each other. He’s pretending that he has enough wealth for it to matter whether or not a pre-nup is necessary, and you’re pretending to not care about the money he probably doesn’t have. But I’ve been wrong before.”
And you’re wrong now. I don’t care about the money. But, I care about “stingy”. It probably is because someone took him to the cleaners.
One poster on here said they shouldn’t have to “impress” a woman. I said impressed, but I don’t want it to be taken out of context. I’ts not so much I want to be “impressed” as much as I want a man to demonstrate to me I’m worth the effort of being taken somewhere nice and worthwhile.
Oh, and he didn’t have a problem stating how much he wants to have me in bed…
December 10, 2007 at 4:17 PM #113504GuestDave: “So, to sum things up, in my opinion it seems like you two are made for each other. He’s pretending that he has enough wealth for it to matter whether or not a pre-nup is necessary, and you’re pretending to not care about the money he probably doesn’t have. But I’ve been wrong before.”
And you’re wrong now. I don’t care about the money. But, I care about “stingy”. It probably is because someone took him to the cleaners.
One poster on here said they shouldn’t have to “impress” a woman. I said impressed, but I don’t want it to be taken out of context. I’ts not so much I want to be “impressed” as much as I want a man to demonstrate to me I’m worth the effort of being taken somewhere nice and worthwhile.
Oh, and he didn’t have a problem stating how much he wants to have me in bed…
December 10, 2007 at 4:17 PM #113538GuestDave: “So, to sum things up, in my opinion it seems like you two are made for each other. He’s pretending that he has enough wealth for it to matter whether or not a pre-nup is necessary, and you’re pretending to not care about the money he probably doesn’t have. But I’ve been wrong before.”
And you’re wrong now. I don’t care about the money. But, I care about “stingy”. It probably is because someone took him to the cleaners.
One poster on here said they shouldn’t have to “impress” a woman. I said impressed, but I don’t want it to be taken out of context. I’ts not so much I want to be “impressed” as much as I want a man to demonstrate to me I’m worth the effort of being taken somewhere nice and worthwhile.
Oh, and he didn’t have a problem stating how much he wants to have me in bed…
December 10, 2007 at 4:21 PM #113342GuestJWM: “I think the most I ever spent, this was back in Chicago, was $150 for dinner at a Brazilian Churrascaria called Fogo de Chao. My date must have been suitably impressed because got married a year later and just had our first born son two weeks ago ;-)”
JWM, congrats on your son! Pretty nice ending there so far. 🙂
December 10, 2007 at 4:21 PM #113461GuestJWM: “I think the most I ever spent, this was back in Chicago, was $150 for dinner at a Brazilian Churrascaria called Fogo de Chao. My date must have been suitably impressed because got married a year later and just had our first born son two weeks ago ;-)”
JWM, congrats on your son! Pretty nice ending there so far. 🙂
December 10, 2007 at 4:21 PM #113505GuestJWM: “I think the most I ever spent, this was back in Chicago, was $150 for dinner at a Brazilian Churrascaria called Fogo de Chao. My date must have been suitably impressed because got married a year later and just had our first born son two weeks ago ;-)”
JWM, congrats on your son! Pretty nice ending there so far. 🙂
December 10, 2007 at 4:21 PM #113509GuestJWM: “I think the most I ever spent, this was back in Chicago, was $150 for dinner at a Brazilian Churrascaria called Fogo de Chao. My date must have been suitably impressed because got married a year later and just had our first born son two weeks ago ;-)”
JWM, congrats on your son! Pretty nice ending there so far. 🙂
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