Affairs of the heart…

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Two questions for you finanically saavy men on here:

Here goes, one of the men I’m dating has brought up a pre-nup. Not thinking about marriage, just started dating him but he brought it up and made his position known. He’s in favor of one. So, he obviously has money. He asked me how I felt. What he needs to understand is I don’t give a…(you fill in the blank)about whatever money he has. For the questions:

1) How many of you would/have considered a prenup?

2) This is more of a concern rather than a question: I’ve been on about 4 dates with this guy in question and it’s been to the movies and a light lunch and a couple of drinks. He’s paid for mostly all.

Ok, I’m old fashioned and the way I see it, he should have tried to impress me by now. Traslation: a really nice date. Hasn’t happened yet. Upon his own prodding about what it would take to make me realize how much he likes me, I suggested that he impress me with that nice date. That’s where it got weird. His response was “he doesn’t want someone hanging around for the money” (although he was careful not to offend me). I was thinking wtf?? I just want a nice date with him footing the bill to show me his interest is real-although he professes up and down that it is. Not a trip to the beach where we run to the 7eleven for hot dogs and soda…

Am I being unreasonable?

Note: I do believe in a man and woman sharing cost when you move on to the dating someone regularly stage.

(this is an off-topic area so hope this post is ok).

[kewp]

1) No way in hell would I get married without a prenup. Especially in Shallow-fornia.

2) Maybe the guy is sick of gold-digging women? It costs zero dollars to really connect with someone on an emotional level, which might be what he’s looking for.

Btw, trying to buy a womans affection is considered a bad move these days. It lowers your market value and displays that one is open to manipulation.

[kewp]

1) No way in hell would I get married without a prenup. Especially in Shallow-fornia.

2) Maybe the guy is sick of gold-digging women? It costs zero dollars to really connect with someone on an emotional level, which might be what he’s looking for.

Btw, trying to buy a womans affection is considered a bad move these days. It lowers your market value and displays that one is open to manipulation.

[kewp]

1) No way in hell would I get married without a prenup. Especially in Shallow-fornia.

2) Maybe the guy is sick of gold-digging women? It costs zero dollars to really connect with someone on an emotional level, which might be what he’s looking for.

Btw, trying to buy a womans affection is considered a bad move these days. It lowers your market value and displays that one is open to manipulation.

[kewp]

1) No way in hell would I get married without a prenup. Especially in Shallow-fornia.

2) Maybe the guy is sick of gold-digging women? It costs zero dollars to really connect with someone on an emotional level, which might be what he’s looking for.

Btw, trying to buy a womans affection is considered a bad move these days. It lowers your market value and displays that one is open to manipulation.

[kewp]

1) No way in hell would I get married without a prenup. Especially in Shallow-fornia.

2) Maybe the guy is sick of gold-digging women? It costs zero dollars to really connect with someone on an emotional level, which might be what he’s looking for.

Btw, trying to buy a womans affection is considered a bad move these days. It lowers your market value and displays that one is open to manipulation.

[Anonymous]

to clarify: by a nice date, I don’t mean fancy, fancy with lots of money being spent. I just mean a nice restaurant, or maybe a trip to the zoo followed by a nice dinner. Just seems like he’s holding on tight to the purse springs…like maybe he doesn’t want to be taken for a ride. Well, I don’t want to be judged by some other woman’s behavior and it offends/concerns me a bit.

So, if I’m being unreasonable opinions welcome.

About pre-nups, he did ask me if I’d want a pre-nup myself if I had money to bring into a marriage and I did admit I would be inclined in that direction…but, why he would bring this up now I have no idea.

[Anonymous]

to clarify: by a nice date, I don’t mean fancy, fancy with lots of money being spent. I just mean a nice restaurant, or maybe a trip to the zoo followed by a nice dinner. Just seems like he’s holding on tight to the purse springs…like maybe he doesn’t want to be taken for a ride. Well, I don’t want to be judged by some other woman’s behavior and it offends/concerns me a bit.

So, if I’m being unreasonable opinions welcome.

About pre-nups, he did ask me if I’d want a pre-nup myself if I had money to bring into a marriage and I did admit I would be inclined in that direction…but, why he would bring this up now I have no idea.

[Anonymous]

to clarify: by a nice date, I don’t mean fancy, fancy with lots of money being spent. I just mean a nice restaurant, or maybe a trip to the zoo followed by a nice dinner. Just seems like he’s holding on tight to the purse springs…like maybe he doesn’t want to be taken for a ride. Well, I don’t want to be judged by some other woman’s behavior and it offends/concerns me a bit.

So, if I’m being unreasonable opinions welcome.

About pre-nups, he did ask me if I’d want a pre-nup myself if I had money to bring into a marriage and I did admit I would be inclined in that direction…but, why he would bring this up now I have no idea.

[Anonymous]

to clarify: by a nice date, I don’t mean fancy, fancy with lots of money being spent. I just mean a nice restaurant, or maybe a trip to the zoo followed by a nice dinner. Just seems like he’s holding on tight to the purse springs…like maybe he doesn’t want to be taken for a ride. Well, I don’t want to be judged by some other woman’s behavior and it offends/concerns me a bit.

So, if I’m being unreasonable opinions welcome.

About pre-nups, he did ask me if I’d want a pre-nup myself if I had money to bring into a marriage and I did admit I would be inclined in that direction…but, why he would bring this up now I have no idea.

[Anonymous]

to clarify: by a nice date, I don’t mean fancy, fancy with lots of money being spent. I just mean a nice restaurant, or maybe a trip to the zoo followed by a nice dinner. Just seems like he’s holding on tight to the purse springs…like maybe he doesn’t want to be taken for a ride. Well, I don’t want to be judged by some other woman’s behavior and it offends/concerns me a bit.

So, if I’m being unreasonable opinions welcome.

About pre-nups, he did ask me if I’d want a pre-nup myself if I had money to bring into a marriage and I did admit I would be inclined in that direction…but, why he would bring this up now I have no idea.

[Anonymous]

Kemp: “Btw, trying to buy a womans affection is considered a bad move these days. It lowers your market value and displays that one is open to manipulation.”

I would agree with that, but one nice date at a restaurant that charges less than $50 bucks for a plate and a nice excursion to the zoo or museum. “ONE” nice date. Is that too much to ask? Does that make me a gold-digger? If he could’t afford it, I wouldn’t even be concerned, but he obviously can.

[Anonymous]

Kemp: “Btw, trying to buy a womans affection is considered a bad move these days. It lowers your market value and displays that one is open to manipulation.”

I would agree with that, but one nice date at a restaurant that charges less than $50 bucks for a plate and a nice excursion to the zoo or museum. “ONE” nice date. Is that too much to ask? Does that make me a gold-digger? If he could’t afford it, I wouldn’t even be concerned, but he obviously can.

[Anonymous]

Kemp: “Btw, trying to buy a womans affection is considered a bad move these days. It lowers your market value and displays that one is open to manipulation.”

I would agree with that, but one nice date at a restaurant that charges less than $50 bucks for a plate and a nice excursion to the zoo or museum. “ONE” nice date. Is that too much to ask? Does that make me a gold-digger? If he could’t afford it, I wouldn’t even be concerned, but he obviously can.

[Anonymous]

Kemp: “Btw, trying to buy a womans affection is considered a bad move these days. It lowers your market value and displays that one is open to manipulation.”

I would agree with that, but one nice date at a restaurant that charges less than $50 bucks for a plate and a nice excursion to the zoo or museum. “ONE” nice date. Is that too much to ask? Does that make me a gold-digger? If he could’t afford it, I wouldn’t even be concerned, but he obviously can.

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