You need to speak to attorney immediately and find out how divorce would affect your assets including the money you took from the sale of your home.
Four years ago, when I was in the middle of chemotherapy for cancer my wife filed for divorce and I was stunned and unprepared to say the least. When a woman says to you that she wants a divorce don’t ignore her. Maybe you want one too given how she feels about you.
Can I also mention that I am now very happily re-married, and I met my new wife on Yahoo! so she doesn’t think the internet is evil at all. To top it off, my new wife is very clever with money and real estate and together we have made up for my financial setbacks during divorce many times over.
Sorry for your trouble, but get some legal counsel TODAY.