[quote=Allan from Fallbrook][quote=Blogstar]Participation trophy is probably the response to the jock ego trip, not the right response, but still. We are not very good at keep sports outcomes in perspective.[/quote]
Russ: Actually, it’s a result of these Helicopter Parents getting miffed that Little Johnny and Suzy aren’t being recognized as God’s precious and unique and talented snowflakes and demanding their according due.
Thus, everyone now gets a trophy, presumably for their ability to breathe air without assistance, whilst standing on a sideline.[/quote]
Yeah, but I have analyzed this. The reason they are miffed comes from their own childhood life experience where they found the jocks obnoxious and spoiled in general and like they were bag holders. The right way to deal with spoiled and obnoxious jock or course is to just blow it off like most people do. But some want trophies for everyone and we are a keep everybody happy kind of place.
When I coached U6 I tried to skip the trophy emphasize that the reward was actually Learning and playing the game. Not win or lose. Because it was U fricking 6. One parent wouldn’t have the trophy-less experience and she was clearly the least athletic person in our parent group, connection made.
On the other hand, the league was supposed to be non-competitive in U-fricken-6, that is 4-6 year olds.
I kind of bought into that in coaches training. But the helicopter competition freak parents and other coaches who were parents , couldn’t deal with that. Bunch of desperate vicious obnoxious people. The ultra nice , U-6 coordinator helicopter super achievement dad was as bad as any of them . I suspect there are a lot more wackos on this side then the trophy for everybody side, because it’s VERY broadly seen as normal. Don’t stop me from teaching my kid to be a killer win at all cost athlete he will need that so he grows up tough and competitive in life …maybe get a scholarship. I think these people are compensating too.Almost none of them seem all the amazing and yet there kids athletic outcome is this huge priority in life. How can a dad who coaches his kid from diapers not be called a helicopter parent?
