[UCGal]

We’ve been in this situation a few times. Like AN, I believe that you take care of family – that’s part of being family.

The closest situation to yours was when my husbands grown nephew wanted to get established on the west coast. We set the following rules:
– 6 months rent free, after that rent would be $200/month.
– Chores: dinner prep 1 night per week, mopping kitchen floor 1 x week. (Why should the two adults who had jobs do ALL the work… we all contribute.)
– I was not responsible for his laundry – he had to do his own laundry.
– Standard rules that applied to all of us… If you make a mess in a common area – you clean up the mess. Do what you want with your own room.

It worked well for us. Rules and set expectations help everyone involved.

[UCGal]

We’ve been in this situation a few times. Like AN, I believe that you take care of family – that’s part of being family.

The closest situation to yours was when my husbands grown nephew wanted to get established on the west coast. We set the following rules:
– 6 months rent free, after that rent would be $200/month.
– Chores: dinner prep 1 night per week, mopping kitchen floor 1 x week. (Why should the two adults who had jobs do ALL the work… we all contribute.)
– I was not responsible for his laundry – he had to do his own laundry.
– Standard rules that applied to all of us… If you make a mess in a common area – you clean up the mess. Do what you want with your own room.

It worked well for us. Rules and set expectations help everyone involved.

[UCGal]

We’ve been in this situation a few times. Like AN, I believe that you take care of family – that’s part of being family.

The closest situation to yours was when my husbands grown nephew wanted to get established on the west coast. We set the following rules:
– 6 months rent free, after that rent would be $200/month.
– Chores: dinner prep 1 night per week, mopping kitchen floor 1 x week. (Why should the two adults who had jobs do ALL the work… we all contribute.)
– I was not responsible for his laundry – he had to do his own laundry.
– Standard rules that applied to all of us… If you make a mess in a common area – you clean up the mess. Do what you want with your own room.

It worked well for us. Rules and set expectations help everyone involved.

[UCGal]

That’s interesting about the dimmable bulbs… We have them in two lights that we use the dimmers on… Yes, the buzz if it’s below a certain point – but they work..

but our dimmers are the typical triacs – that clip the waves to reduce the power.

[UCGal]

That’s interesting about the dimmable bulbs… We have them in two lights that we use the dimmers on… Yes, the buzz if it’s below a certain point – but they work..

but our dimmers are the typical triacs – that clip the waves to reduce the power.

[UCGal]

That’s interesting about the dimmable bulbs… We have them in two lights that we use the dimmers on… Yes, the buzz if it’s below a certain point – but they work..

but our dimmers are the typical triacs – that clip the waves to reduce the power.

[UCGal]

That’s interesting about the dimmable bulbs… We have them in two lights that we use the dimmers on… Yes, the buzz if it’s below a certain point – but they work..

but our dimmers are the typical triacs – that clip the waves to reduce the power.

[UCGal]

That’s interesting about the dimmable bulbs… We have them in two lights that we use the dimmers on… Yes, the buzz if it’s below a certain point – but they work..

but our dimmers are the typical triacs – that clip the waves to reduce the power.

[UCGal]

I grew up in San Diego, lived 3 years in Bellingham WA, and close to 12 in suburban Philly.

All have good points and less ideal points.

I loved Bellingham – it’s close to Vancouver BC and Seattle. It’s a university town. It’s GORGEOUS. It snows 1-2 times a year, but not bad. It drizzles the rest of the year, except for the 2 glorious months in the summer. The culture is similar to CA in that it’s ethnically diverse, tolerant of different ethnicities, and a lot of “crunchy” eco aware types.

Suburban PA – great colleges – too many to name. Affordable housing. Great public schools for your kids. (Not so much within Philly on that last one.) I agree with a previous post that the Jersey shore is over-rated compared to San Diego beaches… but it has more “carnival” type stuff on the boardwalk. Culturally it’s very different than CA – people are less overtly friendly and stick in their clans. There is more overt racism with people not really reacting if someone says something offensive…

San Diego. Expensive, but the best weather and beaches. I moved out of here because there is a lot of superficialness here: (you’re no one till you have the 3 B’s: Beach home, Beemer, Blonde trophy wife/date). But the superficialness is countered with great beaches, a year round outdoor lifestyle, and a friendly attitude among most of those you meet.

I was happy in all 3 places. I moved back to San Diego for family reasons, but would have been happy staying in metro Philly or Bellingham, WA.

[UCGal]

I grew up in San Diego, lived 3 years in Bellingham WA, and close to 12 in suburban Philly.

All have good points and less ideal points.

I loved Bellingham – it’s close to Vancouver BC and Seattle. It’s a university town. It’s GORGEOUS. It snows 1-2 times a year, but not bad. It drizzles the rest of the year, except for the 2 glorious months in the summer. The culture is similar to CA in that it’s ethnically diverse, tolerant of different ethnicities, and a lot of “crunchy” eco aware types.

Suburban PA – great colleges – too many to name. Affordable housing. Great public schools for your kids. (Not so much within Philly on that last one.) I agree with a previous post that the Jersey shore is over-rated compared to San Diego beaches… but it has more “carnival” type stuff on the boardwalk. Culturally it’s very different than CA – people are less overtly friendly and stick in their clans. There is more overt racism with people not really reacting if someone says something offensive…

San Diego. Expensive, but the best weather and beaches. I moved out of here because there is a lot of superficialness here: (you’re no one till you have the 3 B’s: Beach home, Beemer, Blonde trophy wife/date). But the superficialness is countered with great beaches, a year round outdoor lifestyle, and a friendly attitude among most of those you meet.

I was happy in all 3 places. I moved back to San Diego for family reasons, but would have been happy staying in metro Philly or Bellingham, WA.

[UCGal]

I grew up in San Diego, lived 3 years in Bellingham WA, and close to 12 in suburban Philly.

All have good points and less ideal points.

I loved Bellingham – it’s close to Vancouver BC and Seattle. It’s a university town. It’s GORGEOUS. It snows 1-2 times a year, but not bad. It drizzles the rest of the year, except for the 2 glorious months in the summer. The culture is similar to CA in that it’s ethnically diverse, tolerant of different ethnicities, and a lot of “crunchy” eco aware types.

Suburban PA – great colleges – too many to name. Affordable housing. Great public schools for your kids. (Not so much within Philly on that last one.) I agree with a previous post that the Jersey shore is over-rated compared to San Diego beaches… but it has more “carnival” type stuff on the boardwalk. Culturally it’s very different than CA – people are less overtly friendly and stick in their clans. There is more overt racism with people not really reacting if someone says something offensive…

San Diego. Expensive, but the best weather and beaches. I moved out of here because there is a lot of superficialness here: (you’re no one till you have the 3 B’s: Beach home, Beemer, Blonde trophy wife/date). But the superficialness is countered with great beaches, a year round outdoor lifestyle, and a friendly attitude among most of those you meet.

I was happy in all 3 places. I moved back to San Diego for family reasons, but would have been happy staying in metro Philly or Bellingham, WA.

[UCGal]

I grew up in San Diego, lived 3 years in Bellingham WA, and close to 12 in suburban Philly.

All have good points and less ideal points.

I loved Bellingham – it’s close to Vancouver BC and Seattle. It’s a university town. It’s GORGEOUS. It snows 1-2 times a year, but not bad. It drizzles the rest of the year, except for the 2 glorious months in the summer. The culture is similar to CA in that it’s ethnically diverse, tolerant of different ethnicities, and a lot of “crunchy” eco aware types.

Suburban PA – great colleges – too many to name. Affordable housing. Great public schools for your kids. (Not so much within Philly on that last one.) I agree with a previous post that the Jersey shore is over-rated compared to San Diego beaches… but it has more “carnival” type stuff on the boardwalk. Culturally it’s very different than CA – people are less overtly friendly and stick in their clans. There is more overt racism with people not really reacting if someone says something offensive…

San Diego. Expensive, but the best weather and beaches. I moved out of here because there is a lot of superficialness here: (you’re no one till you have the 3 B’s: Beach home, Beemer, Blonde trophy wife/date). But the superficialness is countered with great beaches, a year round outdoor lifestyle, and a friendly attitude among most of those you meet.

I was happy in all 3 places. I moved back to San Diego for family reasons, but would have been happy staying in metro Philly or Bellingham, WA.

[UCGal]

I grew up in San Diego, lived 3 years in Bellingham WA, and close to 12 in suburban Philly.

All have good points and less ideal points.

I loved Bellingham – it’s close to Vancouver BC and Seattle. It’s a university town. It’s GORGEOUS. It snows 1-2 times a year, but not bad. It drizzles the rest of the year, except for the 2 glorious months in the summer. The culture is similar to CA in that it’s ethnically diverse, tolerant of different ethnicities, and a lot of “crunchy” eco aware types.

Suburban PA – great colleges – too many to name. Affordable housing. Great public schools for your kids. (Not so much within Philly on that last one.) I agree with a previous post that the Jersey shore is over-rated compared to San Diego beaches… but it has more “carnival” type stuff on the boardwalk. Culturally it’s very different than CA – people are less overtly friendly and stick in their clans. There is more overt racism with people not really reacting if someone says something offensive…

San Diego. Expensive, but the best weather and beaches. I moved out of here because there is a lot of superficialness here: (you’re no one till you have the 3 B’s: Beach home, Beemer, Blonde trophy wife/date). But the superficialness is countered with great beaches, a year round outdoor lifestyle, and a friendly attitude among most of those you meet.

I was happy in all 3 places. I moved back to San Diego for family reasons, but would have been happy staying in metro Philly or Bellingham, WA.

[UCGal]

[quote=poway_seller]Wife caved in the cold last night and turned on the heater to 78 (felt like 85) in the master bedroom (also in kid’s room). My efforts have been somewhat reversed. I tried the socks and extra blanket thing and she wasn’t having any of it. told me I could go to the guest room with socks and an extra blanket if I wanted, but she was turning on the heat.
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78 degrees wow.

Does she keep the thermostat at 78 degrees during the cooling season – or set it lower when the AC is running.

(Thats a pet peeve of mine – people who over-heat in the winter because it’s too cold… then cool to a super low temp in the summer because it’s too hot.)

[UCGal]

[quote=poway_seller]Wife caved in the cold last night and turned on the heater to 78 (felt like 85) in the master bedroom (also in kid’s room). My efforts have been somewhat reversed. I tried the socks and extra blanket thing and she wasn’t having any of it. told me I could go to the guest room with socks and an extra blanket if I wanted, but she was turning on the heat.
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78 degrees wow.

Does she keep the thermostat at 78 degrees during the cooling season – or set it lower when the AC is running.

(Thats a pet peeve of mine – people who over-heat in the winter because it’s too cold… then cool to a super low temp in the summer because it’s too hot.)

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