[UCGal]

Just for the record… different cancers have different stages… Patb’s mom had stage 5. My dad’s blood cancer had 3 stages (with stage 3 being terminal.) My brother and mom’s cancer’s had 4 stages.

Davelj – that’s interesting (and sad) about your mom. Both my dad and my brother had 2 unrelated malignancies… It’s considered very unusual. My brother beat melanoma (after removal of the cancer and lymph node) only to get a completely unrelated cancer. My dad beat prostate cancer after surgery and radiation – only to get a multiple myeloma – an unrelated blood cancer. In both cases the doctors expressed surpise that the cancer was unrelated – but determined they were 2nd malignancies.

My family is my own personal cancer cluster… 5 malignancies in 3 people out of a family of 5. Who needs an area in Carlsbad.

[UCGal]

Just for the record… different cancers have different stages… Patb’s mom had stage 5. My dad’s blood cancer had 3 stages (with stage 3 being terminal.) My brother and mom’s cancer’s had 4 stages.

Davelj – that’s interesting (and sad) about your mom. Both my dad and my brother had 2 unrelated malignancies… It’s considered very unusual. My brother beat melanoma (after removal of the cancer and lymph node) only to get a completely unrelated cancer. My dad beat prostate cancer after surgery and radiation – only to get a multiple myeloma – an unrelated blood cancer. In both cases the doctors expressed surpise that the cancer was unrelated – but determined they were 2nd malignancies.

My family is my own personal cancer cluster… 5 malignancies in 3 people out of a family of 5. Who needs an area in Carlsbad.

[UCGal]

Just for the record… different cancers have different stages… Patb’s mom had stage 5. My dad’s blood cancer had 3 stages (with stage 3 being terminal.) My brother and mom’s cancer’s had 4 stages.

Davelj – that’s interesting (and sad) about your mom. Both my dad and my brother had 2 unrelated malignancies… It’s considered very unusual. My brother beat melanoma (after removal of the cancer and lymph node) only to get a completely unrelated cancer. My dad beat prostate cancer after surgery and radiation – only to get a multiple myeloma – an unrelated blood cancer. In both cases the doctors expressed surpise that the cancer was unrelated – but determined they were 2nd malignancies.

My family is my own personal cancer cluster… 5 malignancies in 3 people out of a family of 5. Who needs an area in Carlsbad.

[UCGal]

Some distress in Santaluz…

http://www.sdlookup.com/MLS-080076710-14950_Encendido_San_Diego_CA_92127

This went back to the bank on Friday…

From fidelityasap.com

Sale Status: Back to Bene 09/10/2010
TS Number: CA09263377ED
ASAP Number: 3359077
Notice of Sale Amt: $3,089,615.60
Opening Bid Amt: $3,000,000.00
Sold Amt: $3,000,000.00

[UCGal]

Some distress in Santaluz…

http://www.sdlookup.com/MLS-080076710-14950_Encendido_San_Diego_CA_92127

This went back to the bank on Friday…

From fidelityasap.com

Sale Status: Back to Bene 09/10/2010
TS Number: CA09263377ED
ASAP Number: 3359077
Notice of Sale Amt: $3,089,615.60
Opening Bid Amt: $3,000,000.00
Sold Amt: $3,000,000.00

[UCGal]

Some distress in Santaluz…

http://www.sdlookup.com/MLS-080076710-14950_Encendido_San_Diego_CA_92127

This went back to the bank on Friday…

From fidelityasap.com

Sale Status: Back to Bene 09/10/2010
TS Number: CA09263377ED
ASAP Number: 3359077
Notice of Sale Amt: $3,089,615.60
Opening Bid Amt: $3,000,000.00
Sold Amt: $3,000,000.00

[UCGal]

Some distress in Santaluz…

http://www.sdlookup.com/MLS-080076710-14950_Encendido_San_Diego_CA_92127

This went back to the bank on Friday…

From fidelityasap.com

Sale Status: Back to Bene 09/10/2010
TS Number: CA09263377ED
ASAP Number: 3359077
Notice of Sale Amt: $3,089,615.60
Opening Bid Amt: $3,000,000.00
Sold Amt: $3,000,000.00

[UCGal]

Some distress in Santaluz…

http://www.sdlookup.com/MLS-080076710-14950_Encendido_San_Diego_CA_92127

This went back to the bank on Friday…

From fidelityasap.com

Sale Status: Back to Bene 09/10/2010
TS Number: CA09263377ED
ASAP Number: 3359077
Notice of Sale Amt: $3,089,615.60
Opening Bid Amt: $3,000,000.00
Sold Amt: $3,000,000.00

[UCGal]

[quote=bearishgurl]
I don’t think I would be able to tolerate the side effects of strong chemotherapy which affects your healthy cells as well as (hopefully) your cancer cells. I’ve just seen too much strife in this regard.[/quote]

Different people react to the typical chemo differently. My mom tolerated chemo pretty well. She would be sick for a day or two after each treatment – then have 3 weeks of feeling normal… rinse and repeat. The chemo had a positive effect on slowing/limiting the growth or her cancer. My brother was the opposite (on the same drugs). He got horribly sick and the tumor still grew rapidly. Not everyone reacts to chemo the same. But his wishes were life extension at all costs. My sister and I had to honor those choices even though it wasn’t the choice we’d make for ourselves.

And as noted – my dad’s treatment was referred to as chemo but was a completely different set of drugs – not what you’d think of as chemo. No hair loss, no puking, no loss of appetite. He was planning a round the world trip with his wife – and wouldn’t have been doing this if he’d felt sick from chemo.

[UCGal]

[quote=bearishgurl]
I don’t think I would be able to tolerate the side effects of strong chemotherapy which affects your healthy cells as well as (hopefully) your cancer cells. I’ve just seen too much strife in this regard.[/quote]

Different people react to the typical chemo differently. My mom tolerated chemo pretty well. She would be sick for a day or two after each treatment – then have 3 weeks of feeling normal… rinse and repeat. The chemo had a positive effect on slowing/limiting the growth or her cancer. My brother was the opposite (on the same drugs). He got horribly sick and the tumor still grew rapidly. Not everyone reacts to chemo the same. But his wishes were life extension at all costs. My sister and I had to honor those choices even though it wasn’t the choice we’d make for ourselves.

And as noted – my dad’s treatment was referred to as chemo but was a completely different set of drugs – not what you’d think of as chemo. No hair loss, no puking, no loss of appetite. He was planning a round the world trip with his wife – and wouldn’t have been doing this if he’d felt sick from chemo.

[UCGal]

[quote=bearishgurl]
I don’t think I would be able to tolerate the side effects of strong chemotherapy which affects your healthy cells as well as (hopefully) your cancer cells. I’ve just seen too much strife in this regard.[/quote]

Different people react to the typical chemo differently. My mom tolerated chemo pretty well. She would be sick for a day or two after each treatment – then have 3 weeks of feeling normal… rinse and repeat. The chemo had a positive effect on slowing/limiting the growth or her cancer. My brother was the opposite (on the same drugs). He got horribly sick and the tumor still grew rapidly. Not everyone reacts to chemo the same. But his wishes were life extension at all costs. My sister and I had to honor those choices even though it wasn’t the choice we’d make for ourselves.

And as noted – my dad’s treatment was referred to as chemo but was a completely different set of drugs – not what you’d think of as chemo. No hair loss, no puking, no loss of appetite. He was planning a round the world trip with his wife – and wouldn’t have been doing this if he’d felt sick from chemo.

[UCGal]

[quote=bearishgurl]
I don’t think I would be able to tolerate the side effects of strong chemotherapy which affects your healthy cells as well as (hopefully) your cancer cells. I’ve just seen too much strife in this regard.[/quote]

Different people react to the typical chemo differently. My mom tolerated chemo pretty well. She would be sick for a day or two after each treatment – then have 3 weeks of feeling normal… rinse and repeat. The chemo had a positive effect on slowing/limiting the growth or her cancer. My brother was the opposite (on the same drugs). He got horribly sick and the tumor still grew rapidly. Not everyone reacts to chemo the same. But his wishes were life extension at all costs. My sister and I had to honor those choices even though it wasn’t the choice we’d make for ourselves.

And as noted – my dad’s treatment was referred to as chemo but was a completely different set of drugs – not what you’d think of as chemo. No hair loss, no puking, no loss of appetite. He was planning a round the world trip with his wife – and wouldn’t have been doing this if he’d felt sick from chemo.

[UCGal]

[quote=bearishgurl]
I don’t think I would be able to tolerate the side effects of strong chemotherapy which affects your healthy cells as well as (hopefully) your cancer cells. I’ve just seen too much strife in this regard.[/quote]

Different people react to the typical chemo differently. My mom tolerated chemo pretty well. She would be sick for a day or two after each treatment – then have 3 weeks of feeling normal… rinse and repeat. The chemo had a positive effect on slowing/limiting the growth or her cancer. My brother was the opposite (on the same drugs). He got horribly sick and the tumor still grew rapidly. Not everyone reacts to chemo the same. But his wishes were life extension at all costs. My sister and I had to honor those choices even though it wasn’t the choice we’d make for ourselves.

And as noted – my dad’s treatment was referred to as chemo but was a completely different set of drugs – not what you’d think of as chemo. No hair loss, no puking, no loss of appetite. He was planning a round the world trip with his wife – and wouldn’t have been doing this if he’d felt sick from chemo.

[UCGal]

[quote=bearishgurl][quote=joec] . . . It’d be nice if government just comes out and start saying we have to ration health care like every other country. If you have cancer or some other terminal illness, well, that’s just too bad.

Of course, I’ll be upset when this happens to me, but health care costs are insane in this country and I’ll just live with it being my “time”….[/quote]

joec, I agree with this, as unpopular as it might sound. I believe Americans are very over-procedured and over-medicated when it comes to cancer. If you’re diagnosed at stage 4, there is no cure! It’s dicey for a Stage 3 cancer patient to ultimately survive it. After everything I’ve witnessed, if I should find myself with a stage 4 diagnosis, I will go out *sans treatment* quietly and gracefully. What’s the point? And why destroy the quality of my life in my final months and leave my heirs with all the bills and paperwork?[/quote]

Hmmm. I see what you’re saying, but having seen 3 family members be dx’d and die of cancer in the past few years I can add some perspective.

Even a person with a terminal dx may benefit from some chemo – and not all chemo is the same.

In 1999, my mom was dx’d with stage 3C ovarian cancer. By doing chemo she stayed alive long enough to see me get married and meet her first grandchild, my son. But her quality of life was bad at times – especially at the end. She died in 2002. Without chemo she likely would have died in 2000. Was it worth it… I’m not sure. But she felt it was.

My brother was dx’d in August 2007 with a very rare cancer – neuroendocrine carcinoma. This was his second malignancy. He’d previously had melanoma and beat it with surgical removal and skin grafts. His cancer was aggressive and terminal. In his case the chemo was suggested to *improve* his quality of life by reducing the tumors. Unfortunately it didn’t work and he did not respond well to chemo. We urged him to seek hospice, but he insisted on continued surgeries and spent his final month in the ICU of the hospital having emergency surgery after emergency surgery. He died in Dec 2007. I would NOT have made the same choices because his cancer was extremely aggresive and the life extending benefits of the cancer and surgery came at too high a cost, physically. But it’s hard for someone who’d in their 40’s to say “enough – I’m ready to die.”

My dad was dx’d with stage 3 multiple myeloma, also in August 2007. (In this particular cancer stage 3 is terminal.) BUT – the chemo was not the typical chemo – it was steroids and thalidomide (yes, the drug that was pulled from the market because of the birth defects.) In this case doing the chemo did not cause all the typical chemo side effects (hair loss, illness, loss of appetite). But it did offer a chance to extend his life by 2-3 years. Unfortunately, the steroids reduced his immune system – he got a cold that turned into septic pneumonia overnight – and died in Oct 2007.

In my mother’s case – I would make the same initial choice to do chemo and get a few more years. But would have done hospice at the end. In my dad’s case – I also would have done the thalidomide chemo because it didn’t make him sick and had less of a quality of life impact. In my brother’s case – I would not have pursued the chemo’s and surgery because the chemo made him so terribly ill (much sicker than my mother got) and the cancer continued to grow even with chemo. In other words the chemo had all negatives and no positives.

To say that once you have a terminal dx you should stop all treatment is pretty broad. If someone has AIDS should you not give them the drugs that keep it at bay and extend life? Can you tell a parent of young kids that they should not do whatever it takes to extend their time with their kids? Where does the line get drawn?

End of life choices are very personal. Having had to honor and discuss DNR choices with family members and medical personel, I’m not willing to say a government or insurance company should be the final arbitor.

[UCGal]

[quote=bearishgurl][quote=joec] . . . It’d be nice if government just comes out and start saying we have to ration health care like every other country. If you have cancer or some other terminal illness, well, that’s just too bad.

Of course, I’ll be upset when this happens to me, but health care costs are insane in this country and I’ll just live with it being my “time”….[/quote]

joec, I agree with this, as unpopular as it might sound. I believe Americans are very over-procedured and over-medicated when it comes to cancer. If you’re diagnosed at stage 4, there is no cure! It’s dicey for a Stage 3 cancer patient to ultimately survive it. After everything I’ve witnessed, if I should find myself with a stage 4 diagnosis, I will go out *sans treatment* quietly and gracefully. What’s the point? And why destroy the quality of my life in my final months and leave my heirs with all the bills and paperwork?[/quote]

Hmmm. I see what you’re saying, but having seen 3 family members be dx’d and die of cancer in the past few years I can add some perspective.

Even a person with a terminal dx may benefit from some chemo – and not all chemo is the same.

In 1999, my mom was dx’d with stage 3C ovarian cancer. By doing chemo she stayed alive long enough to see me get married and meet her first grandchild, my son. But her quality of life was bad at times – especially at the end. She died in 2002. Without chemo she likely would have died in 2000. Was it worth it… I’m not sure. But she felt it was.

My brother was dx’d in August 2007 with a very rare cancer – neuroendocrine carcinoma. This was his second malignancy. He’d previously had melanoma and beat it with surgical removal and skin grafts. His cancer was aggressive and terminal. In his case the chemo was suggested to *improve* his quality of life by reducing the tumors. Unfortunately it didn’t work and he did not respond well to chemo. We urged him to seek hospice, but he insisted on continued surgeries and spent his final month in the ICU of the hospital having emergency surgery after emergency surgery. He died in Dec 2007. I would NOT have made the same choices because his cancer was extremely aggresive and the life extending benefits of the cancer and surgery came at too high a cost, physically. But it’s hard for someone who’d in their 40’s to say “enough – I’m ready to die.”

My dad was dx’d with stage 3 multiple myeloma, also in August 2007. (In this particular cancer stage 3 is terminal.) BUT – the chemo was not the typical chemo – it was steroids and thalidomide (yes, the drug that was pulled from the market because of the birth defects.) In this case doing the chemo did not cause all the typical chemo side effects (hair loss, illness, loss of appetite). But it did offer a chance to extend his life by 2-3 years. Unfortunately, the steroids reduced his immune system – he got a cold that turned into septic pneumonia overnight – and died in Oct 2007.

In my mother’s case – I would make the same initial choice to do chemo and get a few more years. But would have done hospice at the end. In my dad’s case – I also would have done the thalidomide chemo because it didn’t make him sick and had less of a quality of life impact. In my brother’s case – I would not have pursued the chemo’s and surgery because the chemo made him so terribly ill (much sicker than my mother got) and the cancer continued to grow even with chemo. In other words the chemo had all negatives and no positives.

To say that once you have a terminal dx you should stop all treatment is pretty broad. If someone has AIDS should you not give them the drugs that keep it at bay and extend life? Can you tell a parent of young kids that they should not do whatever it takes to extend their time with their kids? Where does the line get drawn?

End of life choices are very personal. Having had to honor and discuss DNR choices with family members and medical personel, I’m not willing to say a government or insurance company should be the final arbitor.

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