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Since you appear to be one concerned with reputations and appearances (thus the search in RSF), you should know that Poway bills itself as “city in the country” and prides itself on the rural feel. It also is well known as the home to many of the area’s pro athletes, both baseball and football. Many execs live in the area.

Highlands Ranch Road is really on the edge of Rancho Bernardo and will be perceived as RB to many who visit there. RB, by contrast, has an entirely different reputation: “newly wed or almost dead”. 🙂

4S Ranch on the west end is changing that image somewhat.

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I wonder if your “whiteness” will rub off on my children?

Are you refering to Alex_Angel? When did that person say they were white/caucasian? Couldn’t they be Hispanic, Black, or even Asian? Does that show a prejudice on your part?

Just wondering out loud.

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I wonder if your “whiteness” will rub off on my children?

Are you refering to Alex_Angel? When did that person say they were white/caucasian? Couldn’t they be Hispanic, Black, or even Asian? Does that show a prejudice on your part?

Just wondering out loud.

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I wonder if your “whiteness” will rub off on my children?

Are you refering to Alex_Angel? When did that person say they were white/caucasian? Couldn’t they be Hispanic, Black, or even Asian? Does that show a prejudice on your part?

Just wondering out loud.

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I wonder if your “whiteness” will rub off on my children?

Are you refering to Alex_Angel? When did that person say they were white/caucasian? Couldn’t they be Hispanic, Black, or even Asian? Does that show a prejudice on your part?

Just wondering out loud.

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I wonder if your “whiteness” will rub off on my children?

Are you refering to Alex_Angel? When did that person say they were white/caucasian? Couldn’t they be Hispanic, Black, or even Asian? Does that show a prejudice on your part?

Just wondering out loud.

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Wow, TG, I really like the way you handle this. I think it is very, very smart. It matches the way we thought of things: kids are a 20-year commitment and our world revolved around them until they were grown. It pays off in the long run – my kids have turned out beautifully and have both stated that they really appreciate the way we raised them.

It scared my wife while our life was so kid-centric – she has told me she was afraid we wouldn’t adapt well as a couple when they left. She now knows those fears were unfounded.

One thing I will say on this topic: it amazed me how many families with single moms used me, married with kids of my own, as a surrogate dad for the kids. I didn’t particularly mind and they had great kids, but I hadn’t really anticipated it happening. It appears that when kids get to be 7 or 8, they really need a dad. I’m not smart enough to know why, but I saw it repeated several times. It seemed to be more of an issue with only childs, but not exclusively.

What I did have a problem with is when many of the single moms, later on, got clown bfs. I had grown attached to those kids and to watch some idiot buffoon his way through raising them drove me bonkers. This makes me think that TG’s method of keeping his kids entirely separate from his new relationships – however long term they are – is spot on. There is a chance they will like this new adult in their life, but they may also see it as interference in what’s left of their family cocoon. Nice work, TG. Kids first.

This may seem like a contradiction (I say kids need a father figure at age 7 or 8, then say keeping bfs separate is a good thing), but it’s not: I think the kids of single moms picked me, not the single moms. Big difference. Once the single moms noticed what was going on, they encouraged the relationship.

Life has many unexpected curves so I don’t fault those previously married single moms for being single. Sh!t happens. But what makes smoke come out my ears is when I hear of a single woman getting pregnant intentionally on her own so she can raise the child sans father. After my experience the last couple of decades, I think that is the most selfish and wrong thing she could do. And those kids will point out this glaring mistake 7 or 8 years down the road – and potentially even harbor bad feelings towards her for depriving them of a parent intentionally.

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Wow, TG, I really like the way you handle this. I think it is very, very smart. It matches the way we thought of things: kids are a 20-year commitment and our world revolved around them until they were grown. It pays off in the long run – my kids have turned out beautifully and have both stated that they really appreciate the way we raised them.

It scared my wife while our life was so kid-centric – she has told me she was afraid we wouldn’t adapt well as a couple when they left. She now knows those fears were unfounded.

One thing I will say on this topic: it amazed me how many families with single moms used me, married with kids of my own, as a surrogate dad for the kids. I didn’t particularly mind and they had great kids, but I hadn’t really anticipated it happening. It appears that when kids get to be 7 or 8, they really need a dad. I’m not smart enough to know why, but I saw it repeated several times. It seemed to be more of an issue with only childs, but not exclusively.

What I did have a problem with is when many of the single moms, later on, got clown bfs. I had grown attached to those kids and to watch some idiot buffoon his way through raising them drove me bonkers. This makes me think that TG’s method of keeping his kids entirely separate from his new relationships – however long term they are – is spot on. There is a chance they will like this new adult in their life, but they may also see it as interference in what’s left of their family cocoon. Nice work, TG. Kids first.

This may seem like a contradiction (I say kids need a father figure at age 7 or 8, then say keeping bfs separate is a good thing), but it’s not: I think the kids of single moms picked me, not the single moms. Big difference. Once the single moms noticed what was going on, they encouraged the relationship.

Life has many unexpected curves so I don’t fault those previously married single moms for being single. Sh!t happens. But what makes smoke come out my ears is when I hear of a single woman getting pregnant intentionally on her own so she can raise the child sans father. After my experience the last couple of decades, I think that is the most selfish and wrong thing she could do. And those kids will point out this glaring mistake 7 or 8 years down the road – and potentially even harbor bad feelings towards her for depriving them of a parent intentionally.

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Wow, TG, I really like the way you handle this. I think it is very, very smart. It matches the way we thought of things: kids are a 20-year commitment and our world revolved around them until they were grown. It pays off in the long run – my kids have turned out beautifully and have both stated that they really appreciate the way we raised them.

It scared my wife while our life was so kid-centric – she has told me she was afraid we wouldn’t adapt well as a couple when they left. She now knows those fears were unfounded.

One thing I will say on this topic: it amazed me how many families with single moms used me, married with kids of my own, as a surrogate dad for the kids. I didn’t particularly mind and they had great kids, but I hadn’t really anticipated it happening. It appears that when kids get to be 7 or 8, they really need a dad. I’m not smart enough to know why, but I saw it repeated several times. It seemed to be more of an issue with only childs, but not exclusively.

What I did have a problem with is when many of the single moms, later on, got clown bfs. I had grown attached to those kids and to watch some idiot buffoon his way through raising them drove me bonkers. This makes me think that TG’s method of keeping his kids entirely separate from his new relationships – however long term they are – is spot on. There is a chance they will like this new adult in their life, but they may also see it as interference in what’s left of their family cocoon. Nice work, TG. Kids first.

This may seem like a contradiction (I say kids need a father figure at age 7 or 8, then say keeping bfs separate is a good thing), but it’s not: I think the kids of single moms picked me, not the single moms. Big difference. Once the single moms noticed what was going on, they encouraged the relationship.

Life has many unexpected curves so I don’t fault those previously married single moms for being single. Sh!t happens. But what makes smoke come out my ears is when I hear of a single woman getting pregnant intentionally on her own so she can raise the child sans father. After my experience the last couple of decades, I think that is the most selfish and wrong thing she could do. And those kids will point out this glaring mistake 7 or 8 years down the road – and potentially even harbor bad feelings towards her for depriving them of a parent intentionally.

[svelte]

Wow, TG, I really like the way you handle this. I think it is very, very smart. It matches the way we thought of things: kids are a 20-year commitment and our world revolved around them until they were grown. It pays off in the long run – my kids have turned out beautifully and have both stated that they really appreciate the way we raised them.

It scared my wife while our life was so kid-centric – she has told me she was afraid we wouldn’t adapt well as a couple when they left. She now knows those fears were unfounded.

One thing I will say on this topic: it amazed me how many families with single moms used me, married with kids of my own, as a surrogate dad for the kids. I didn’t particularly mind and they had great kids, but I hadn’t really anticipated it happening. It appears that when kids get to be 7 or 8, they really need a dad. I’m not smart enough to know why, but I saw it repeated several times. It seemed to be more of an issue with only childs, but not exclusively.

What I did have a problem with is when many of the single moms, later on, got clown bfs. I had grown attached to those kids and to watch some idiot buffoon his way through raising them drove me bonkers. This makes me think that TG’s method of keeping his kids entirely separate from his new relationships – however long term they are – is spot on. There is a chance they will like this new adult in their life, but they may also see it as interference in what’s left of their family cocoon. Nice work, TG. Kids first.

This may seem like a contradiction (I say kids need a father figure at age 7 or 8, then say keeping bfs separate is a good thing), but it’s not: I think the kids of single moms picked me, not the single moms. Big difference. Once the single moms noticed what was going on, they encouraged the relationship.

Life has many unexpected curves so I don’t fault those previously married single moms for being single. Sh!t happens. But what makes smoke come out my ears is when I hear of a single woman getting pregnant intentionally on her own so she can raise the child sans father. After my experience the last couple of decades, I think that is the most selfish and wrong thing she could do. And those kids will point out this glaring mistake 7 or 8 years down the road – and potentially even harbor bad feelings towards her for depriving them of a parent intentionally.

[svelte]

Wow, TG, I really like the way you handle this. I think it is very, very smart. It matches the way we thought of things: kids are a 20-year commitment and our world revolved around them until they were grown. It pays off in the long run – my kids have turned out beautifully and have both stated that they really appreciate the way we raised them.

It scared my wife while our life was so kid-centric – she has told me she was afraid we wouldn’t adapt well as a couple when they left. She now knows those fears were unfounded.

One thing I will say on this topic: it amazed me how many families with single moms used me, married with kids of my own, as a surrogate dad for the kids. I didn’t particularly mind and they had great kids, but I hadn’t really anticipated it happening. It appears that when kids get to be 7 or 8, they really need a dad. I’m not smart enough to know why, but I saw it repeated several times. It seemed to be more of an issue with only childs, but not exclusively.

What I did have a problem with is when many of the single moms, later on, got clown bfs. I had grown attached to those kids and to watch some idiot buffoon his way through raising them drove me bonkers. This makes me think that TG’s method of keeping his kids entirely separate from his new relationships – however long term they are – is spot on. There is a chance they will like this new adult in their life, but they may also see it as interference in what’s left of their family cocoon. Nice work, TG. Kids first.

This may seem like a contradiction (I say kids need a father figure at age 7 or 8, then say keeping bfs separate is a good thing), but it’s not: I think the kids of single moms picked me, not the single moms. Big difference. Once the single moms noticed what was going on, they encouraged the relationship.

Life has many unexpected curves so I don’t fault those previously married single moms for being single. Sh!t happens. But what makes smoke come out my ears is when I hear of a single woman getting pregnant intentionally on her own so she can raise the child sans father. After my experience the last couple of decades, I think that is the most selfish and wrong thing she could do. And those kids will point out this glaring mistake 7 or 8 years down the road – and potentially even harbor bad feelings towards her for depriving them of a parent intentionally.

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I absolutely love that name. It was on our top 10 list when we were picking out female names.

It’s a winner.

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I absolutely love that name. It was on our top 10 list when we were picking out female names.

It’s a winner.

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I absolutely love that name. It was on our top 10 list when we were picking out female names.

It’s a winner.

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I absolutely love that name. It was on our top 10 list when we were picking out female names.

It’s a winner.

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