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[quote=CA renter][quote=njtosd][quote=CA renter]Sounds like you’re going to be great parents, CE (but stay away from that soda!). I like your ideas here. Don’t worry too much about the food; you can make a hobby out of cooking with the family (that’s what we do, since we also love good food, unfortunately).

This will be such an awesome experience for you guys! :)[/quote]

OK – I have to agree that soda isn’t great. And maybe I am sensitive because I developed a morning Diet Pepsi habit in college before I started on (the more caffeinated) coffee. But why does this thread put so much more emphasis on soda than, say, alcohol and/or smoking? Plus, I feel like the biggest battle we face is not soda but staying fun and cheerful in the face of unfathomably messy rooms, mountains of laundry, homework, bills and (for example) my 12 year old’s incessant drumming. Sometimes I go to bed at night and realize I was a real buzz kill for most of the day. Staying positive in light of all the commotion is a daily challenge . . .[/quote]

Mountains and mountains of laundry! Where does it all come from?!?

Totally hear you on trying to be happy and fun while attempting to rear decent kids in a relatively clean, organized home. It’s especially difficult when dad gets to be the fun guy, so mom is the only one doing all the disciplining throughout the day.

The kids on our street were all discussing their parents in our backyard one day, and we overheard them saying: “Dads are all fun and awesomeness!!! They are so awesome and fun! Moms are all about rules and cleaning.” Of course, the dads thought it was great, not so much for us moms. 🙁

As for the soda, my DH drank soda daily as a kid, and I drank plenty in my teens and young adult years, too. But that stuff is pure junk. My MIL is a lifelong drinker of diet Pepsi, and she’s had a lot of bone problems (hip and back surgeries), in addition to being obese, even though she eats very little. I’m pretty convinced her poor diet (what she does eat is lacking in nutrition and there’s not nearly enough produce), smoking, and Pepsi habits are to blame.

It’s one thing to have a soda a couple of times a year when you go to a movie or something, but daily drinking is just so bad for you, IMHO, that we don’t have soda at our house except for what is reserved for parties and guests.

Some stuff about diet soda being bad, too:

http://healthyliving.msn.com/health-wellness/7-side-effects-of-drinking-diet-soda%5B/quote%5D

I have a secret trick that cuts laundry by 50%.

I wear my clothes twice as long.

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I think it’s OK to curse. I curse and my kids dont. They’re probably appalled by the way I sound. Kind of like how utterly revolted I was by my parents smoking. Blech. I remember my brother and I pretending to gag and choke and my folks laughing about it. Ah, the old days

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Not sure but couldn’t stop reading.

No other books read.

However it’s a 6 vol. Autobiography. I read vol. 1 and just ordered vol 2

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I like kids more now that I have some. Usually I ask one i first meet nowadays

So. How’s your childhood going?

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I hate dogs.

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it sounds kind of scary but it’s actually kind of hugely entertaining. as long as you hold it together.

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I tell my brother to the nearest dollar our household income now and then. i have always told my kids to the dollar exactly how much money i make.

my brother doesnt tell me.

sometimes i tell my mom but she seems embarrassed tot alk about it. i never knew what my dad made. recently my mom said he never earned over a certain amount. she gave me a limit to work off of. i would have thought hed earned more than that.

it’s difficult to remember with inflation what certain amounts even mean.

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i am led to believe from my son that real estate is not as stable as I thought. the earth’s crust is basically floating on a molten core, it’s moving, actually, and changing at a fairly rapid pace. The actual words he used i think were “floating crap”, basically floating dirt. i also had thought real estate was a pretty stable thing, but now im not so sure. so i wouldnt invest in this stuff too heavily, as it is floating an d unmoored to the deeper middle earth, and also because i think the future is in something else.

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[quote=CA renter][quote=scaredyclassic]Death. End of life planning[/quote]

Yes!!!

I’ve known perfectly intelligent, rational people who didn’t have trusts or wills set up, even when there were multiple kids and possible issues to deal with. Crazy![/quote]

Death. Advance directives.

I want no drastic measures taken. I want to die at home, or perhaps in court.

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Be awesome

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For the last 12 years I have never taken off more than 1 consecutive week about 2 weeks a year max.

I am taking 3 consecutive weeks off this july.

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Death. End of life planning

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Relax. Hard to ever fully relax

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Let me give an example… I am expecting my first born within the next 30 days. Because of that I know within the next 18 months I need to start changing my ways. I need to start drinking less soda… Stop playing any significant amount of video games… Watch less TV… Why? Because I didn’t want my child to develop these bad habits or use me as excuse to indulge in certain behaviors.

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You probably have it nailed as far as what will happen, but not the why. You won’t be influencing your child’s habits for at least the first year or two by playing video games. The reason you’ll give most of this stuff up is that you don’t want to be a dick of a partner. The one thing that shocked me when my kids were born is how damn time consuming they are. They suck up just about every available minute. Even when they’re sleeping.

Congratulations. I hope your experience matches mine, and your kids are the most fulfilling thing that ever happens to you.[/quote]

In this vein I’d submit that being in very good physical condition really helps. Never too late. Speed agility strength endurance all useful.

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