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Participant[quote=ltsdd]”…the worker wore a gown, gloves, mask and shield”
Ebola is likely to be more easily transmitted than we’re led to believe.[/quote]
The authorities routinely say it’s not easily transmissible…that is expected, they don’t want to start a panic.
People are panicking as it is, imagine if they went out and said “Oh btw don’t touch anything because you could get Ebola and die” LMAO!
From what I have read Ebola is able to survive on surfaces contacted by the infected for days in the right environment. It can then enter through microcracks in the skin when another person contacts that same surface.
And Ebola is supposed to be an exceptionally small virus so it requires an extremely microscopic breach in the skin to enter.
Of course, in the grand scheme of things it is still not a pandemic stage since 1 or 2 people contracting the virus means nothing really. But the potential for a pandemic is what is concerning.
ParticipantThe latest trend is getting multiple rings 😀
Participant[quote=FlyerInHi]
The old man is not shallow either. He bought her a $500,000 townhouse, $100,000 to decorate it. A $130,000 Mercedes and a $60,000 lexus suv because the Mercedes is too much to drive everyday. Even bought a house for her mom. The guy put everything in her name and even wants to help the mom start a business.
[/quote]oh yes, i’ve heard of that website… seekingarrangement.com I believe?
Participant[quote=CDMA ENG]
DUDE! Now I am wondering about your rationality! 25K for a fairy tale wedding? LOL! Hardly a fairy tale wedding. [/quote]Dude. It’s all relative. For some $25k is small potatoes, for some it’s a huge amount. You cannot make a blanket statement like that. Each person’s financial circumstances are different.
I dislike weddings for many reasons… that’s a whole other topic but if I had my wish I would just go quietly to a courthouse and get married for the cost of the court fees, then probably have a ceremony with close friends in my backyard. Nothing more required.
I hate the wedding industry and it’s practices of price gouging… inflating all costs by 300% and frankly suckering their customers into paying.
Yes, if my partner wanted a $25k or $30k wedding I would acquiesce but only if they had something financially to contribute towards it.
And if my partner had not only nothing to contribute but on the other hand had only liabilities to bring into the marriage I would never agree to it at all.
ParticipantI earn close to $130k/yr and also have a liquid net worth in the six figures but the women I have dated have always been those that not only don’t have 2 nickels to rub together and very low to low income ($35k-50k/yr) and average looking, those were the only women I connected with for whatever reason but I did not mind there was a huge disconnect in socio-economic status, as long as they treated me well I was OK with it, maybe I am naive I don’t know…
But in this particular case with my ex, not only did she earn half my income, had no significant money in the bank, had $30,000 of car loans, student loans etc. making her net worth NEGATIVE $20k or so – it was a bit uncomfortable to me as I usually stay away from people whose net worth is in the negative if they are in their 30s. Well, I liked her enough that I thought that if I want to be with her I just have to be ready to absorb the $30k in liabilities from her side.
But that wasn’t enough for her, she still wanted her $25k fairy tale wedding, at least a $5k ring (to her I was getting off cheap as her friends had received $15k rings), wanted to honeymoon in the Maldives etc. etc. I was disturbed by this as these expectations from someone who does not have any money in the bank is just too much!
Now, in addition to the above she is being sued for fraud and could possibly have an additional $70-100k of liability added.
And she wonders why I bailed on her. Do you see how absolutely irrational this woman is? LOL!
Participant[quote=Blogstar] NO 4 EVER MARRIES AN 8….EVER. No 8 EVER MARRIES A 4.
[/quote]Are you really sure about that? I know a guy who is literally obese and not good looking at all by any stretch of the imagination. He was a Software Engineer making I would guess at least $150k/yr. He was however he married a smoking hot Asian girl but she makes good money herself – possibly around $80-90k/yr. Yes, it’s true that he wined and dined her to the extreme and he is a BIG spender in that regard.
But how is this even an equal match? He is probably a 2 looks wise, she is probably an 8. And her explanation was that she married him because he was a nice guy and treats her right. So, are you sure that these superficial characteristics like looks and money are what people use to find each other or is there something more deep that connects us together?
Participant[quote=Blogstar]If you are at all sincere about it, you should never marry someone who doesn’t believe in the water seeks it’s own level idea. Even if they think they are marrying up, that silly notion is only going to last for so long.[/quote]
What exactly is the definition of “your level” though… is it money, looks, education, something else? This is highly subjective depending on what exactly what each individual values the most in life.
Participantthanks for your input CA renter! 🙂
about the Bay Area, it’s not for me. While living in the city itself is definitely awesome that is hugely far fetched considering the cost.
More than likely I will be relegated to one of the horrible suburbs of that area such as Fremont..which in my opinion is a dump! And a VERY expensive dump at that! My buddy pays $2100/mo for his 1 bd there. Frankly I would not pay even $1000/mo to live in that sh!thole.
Another place San Jose, just plain sucks in my opinion. It is such a depressing place that I would just get bored out of my mind. Night life in San Jose consists of 1 street called Santana Row which I felt is a the very definition of a joke!
Again, if I had that kind of money I would just stay put in Southern California as I FAR prefer it to Northern California in every single way.
Atlanta is a very dynamic city. We have a guy in our office right now from ATL, a remote consultant who works for us..he is visiting our local office at the moment, and we’ve been talking. He absolutely loves it in ATL. Most people in ATL and elsewhere in the country I have spoken to absolutely love the place. The only people who diss ATL are those SPECIFICALLY from CA.
But to each his own, that´s why we have choice 🙂
Edit – and about the relationship thing, I didn’t say I was fully over her. I said I was trying to move on and I just don’t need any link with her even through a mutual friend…especially one that is leaking my info to her. My ex has a slightly stalker type personality and that is not comforting to note if I meet someone new. Read this thread again and do note the type of email she wrote me after 6 months and you will realize this yourself 😉
ParticipantIt’s not over dramatic. I have already told my friends that they can choose to be friends with her if they choose. I took the mature option of keeping all people involved as friends on FB including my ex. My ex was the one who has been incredibly immature by sending me a unwarranted hate mail 6 months later.
And I can choose to be friends (OR NOT) with whoever I wish. And I choose not to be friends with whoever is mutual friends with my ex for the simple reason that I do not care to disclose intimate details about my life to people outside my close circle. What is so unreasonable or overdramatic about that?
I choose not to have that common link to my ex since I don’t want my news feed coming into hers or her news feed coming into mine through common friends…especially moving forward when I meet someone new.
I don’t believe my ex is a good person…she is very manipulative and a liar. I don’t want to be friends with anyone who thinks such a person’s friendship is that important at the cost of making me – someone who has been a very close friend to them for over a decade – uncomfortable!!!
In addition my ex has demonstrated that she is a bit irrational and crazy. I don’t really want to have a link to that even if that link is a passive link through a friend.
ParticipantMy friends are history… I blocked them from my FB. Good riddance!
Participantlmao! these days they are even charging for carry-ons 😀 Nothing in life is free!
Would like to thank everyone who responded to the thread. I agree FB has made relationships, regardless of kind, more complicated.
However, I find FB useful to easily keep in touch with some old friends in other parts of the country and world.
These friends of mine who choose to continue contact with my ex, well I will be blocking them as well and putting an end to our 10 year friendship. I just don’t need to be in contact with anyone who still patronizes my ex…especially since all my exes friend’s and family summarily booted me off FB.
Participant[quote=joec]
Have fun chasing tail![/quote]I would but i’m 40 unfortunately not 25 🙁 Things at this age are a bit different.
ParticipantActually she is the one who unfriended me because she does not want to read my posts and see how much fun I am having (her exact words).
Now, the more interesting concern is if I should unfriend my long time friends (close friends I have known for over a decade) because they continue to choose to maintain a close friendship with her despite knowing what I am going through.
They also leaked all my private info to her and I am unsure if they will do that again in the future. In addition in FB if they comment on my post I believe it would be visible to my ex as well even if me and ex are not friends.
I thought the best thing is to unfriend the friends as well since I want no connection with my ex whatsoever going forward.
ParticipantSometimes I feel I should respond with my point of view but other times I feel there is no point starting some sort of adversarial dialogue.
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