Money issues are one of the biggies in marital relationships.
My guess is that she perceives that you are headed down a path of no return and she’s not going to go there.
One alternative (assuming money is the only issue). Find a way to split your finances. Agree on the shared areas and cooperate – maybe groceries, utilities, rent, etc. You manage yours the way you see fit and allow her to do what she chooses with hers. It sounds difficult but I know some folks who do this successfully.
Just moved from Portland to Orange county. Not the kind of shift one makes without having a better job to go to.
Anyway, bought in Portland in late ’02 and we did very well with the sale last month. Just on the cusp of a slowdown in the Portland market. We didn’t cash out to the tune of $500k like the folks here in OC but I’m pretty happy and feel like we are really lucky.
We’re renting here in Orange county and I’ve been walking around the neighborhood looking at the home sale flyers and I’m noticing lots of price reductions just in the last month. We’re going to sit tight even though the apartment is a bit noisier than I prefer.
If the job goes well we’ll keep an eye on things over the next couple of years. I tend to think that it’s going to be a wild ride down.
