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I’m one of those girls who practiced tae kwon do as a kid, and then migrated to aikido in my adulthood. I was one of the few girls who stuck for longer than a few months, and I vividly remember one girl who was using the testosterone imbalance to her advantage, practicing her flirting skills more than her punches. Needless to say, I would pound her whenever we sparred.

It was good preparation for going into male-dominated professions. However, I will also say that the same behavior (extremely decisive attitude, ability to think and articulate clearly and independently) gets interpreted very differently when exhibited by boys vs. girls. I try to steer towards environments where these qualities are appreciated in men and women. But there are still a lot of regressive enclaves (and you have to suss out certain personalities, even in the better places) where the ability to couch these strengths in diplomacy, request language vs. demands, willingness to convince others slowly rather than lay out all the logic and expect others to capitulate their clearly less defensible position…well, let’s just say that learning *persuasion* by means other than strict force or logic is one of the reasons I switched martial arts.

[edna_mode]

I’m one of those girls who practiced tae kwon do as a kid, and then migrated to aikido in my adulthood. I was one of the few girls who stuck for longer than a few months, and I vividly remember one girl who was using the testosterone imbalance to her advantage, practicing her flirting skills more than her punches. Needless to say, I would pound her whenever we sparred.

It was good preparation for going into male-dominated professions. However, I will also say that the same behavior (extremely decisive attitude, ability to think and articulate clearly and independently) gets interpreted very differently when exhibited by boys vs. girls. I try to steer towards environments where these qualities are appreciated in men and women. But there are still a lot of regressive enclaves (and you have to suss out certain personalities, even in the better places) where the ability to couch these strengths in diplomacy, request language vs. demands, willingness to convince others slowly rather than lay out all the logic and expect others to capitulate their clearly less defensible position…well, let’s just say that learning *persuasion* by means other than strict force or logic is one of the reasons I switched martial arts.

[edna_mode]

I’m one of those girls who practiced tae kwon do as a kid, and then migrated to aikido in my adulthood. I was one of the few girls who stuck for longer than a few months, and I vividly remember one girl who was using the testosterone imbalance to her advantage, practicing her flirting skills more than her punches. Needless to say, I would pound her whenever we sparred.

It was good preparation for going into male-dominated professions. However, I will also say that the same behavior (extremely decisive attitude, ability to think and articulate clearly and independently) gets interpreted very differently when exhibited by boys vs. girls. I try to steer towards environments where these qualities are appreciated in men and women. But there are still a lot of regressive enclaves (and you have to suss out certain personalities, even in the better places) where the ability to couch these strengths in diplomacy, request language vs. demands, willingness to convince others slowly rather than lay out all the logic and expect others to capitulate their clearly less defensible position…well, let’s just say that learning *persuasion* by means other than strict force or logic is one of the reasons I switched martial arts.

[edna_mode]

I’m one of those girls who practiced tae kwon do as a kid, and then migrated to aikido in my adulthood. I was one of the few girls who stuck for longer than a few months, and I vividly remember one girl who was using the testosterone imbalance to her advantage, practicing her flirting skills more than her punches. Needless to say, I would pound her whenever we sparred.

It was good preparation for going into male-dominated professions. However, I will also say that the same behavior (extremely decisive attitude, ability to think and articulate clearly and independently) gets interpreted very differently when exhibited by boys vs. girls. I try to steer towards environments where these qualities are appreciated in men and women. But there are still a lot of regressive enclaves (and you have to suss out certain personalities, even in the better places) where the ability to couch these strengths in diplomacy, request language vs. demands, willingness to convince others slowly rather than lay out all the logic and expect others to capitulate their clearly less defensible position…well, let’s just say that learning *persuasion* by means other than strict force or logic is one of the reasons I switched martial arts.

[edna_mode]

I’m one of those girls who practiced tae kwon do as a kid, and then migrated to aikido in my adulthood. I was one of the few girls who stuck for longer than a few months, and I vividly remember one girl who was using the testosterone imbalance to her advantage, practicing her flirting skills more than her punches. Needless to say, I would pound her whenever we sparred.

It was good preparation for going into male-dominated professions. However, I will also say that the same behavior (extremely decisive attitude, ability to think and articulate clearly and independently) gets interpreted very differently when exhibited by boys vs. girls. I try to steer towards environments where these qualities are appreciated in men and women. But there are still a lot of regressive enclaves (and you have to suss out certain personalities, even in the better places) where the ability to couch these strengths in diplomacy, request language vs. demands, willingness to convince others slowly rather than lay out all the logic and expect others to capitulate their clearly less defensible position…well, let’s just say that learning *persuasion* by means other than strict force or logic is one of the reasons I switched martial arts.

[edna_mode]

@ flu: I used to hop money around different banks and start new ccs for the bonuses. But I decided finally that the ongoing time cost of keeping track of all these account AFTER the bonus needed to be amortized into what the bonus was. For example, a CD generates income that you only need to check twice: upon closing the CD and when you do your taxes. But these “you must do 10 transactions a month to get 4%” checking accounts suck, even with me using automatic transfers to achieve that high transaction level, became too troublesome to me because I also insisted on balancing the accounts every month. I realized I don’t enjoy balancing 6 accounts every month.

Also, the banks are counting on you to screw something up and nail you with fees. I decided I needed to spend more time trying to figure out what a diversified portfolio means these days when so many previously orthogonal asset classes have become correlated. This is part of why I won’t do business with Chase ever again, because I had a horrific experience with customer service both through their bank and cc. Long story short: I discovered I needed to report them to the Comptroller of the Currency (their regulatory agency) and send a letter directly to the CEO to get any useful action after 8 attempts to engage them.

Just one person’s thoughts; I love the stories, though!

[edna_mode]

@ flu: I used to hop money around different banks and start new ccs for the bonuses. But I decided finally that the ongoing time cost of keeping track of all these account AFTER the bonus needed to be amortized into what the bonus was. For example, a CD generates income that you only need to check twice: upon closing the CD and when you do your taxes. But these “you must do 10 transactions a month to get 4%” checking accounts suck, even with me using automatic transfers to achieve that high transaction level, became too troublesome to me because I also insisted on balancing the accounts every month. I realized I don’t enjoy balancing 6 accounts every month.

Also, the banks are counting on you to screw something up and nail you with fees. I decided I needed to spend more time trying to figure out what a diversified portfolio means these days when so many previously orthogonal asset classes have become correlated. This is part of why I won’t do business with Chase ever again, because I had a horrific experience with customer service both through their bank and cc. Long story short: I discovered I needed to report them to the Comptroller of the Currency (their regulatory agency) and send a letter directly to the CEO to get any useful action after 8 attempts to engage them.

Just one person’s thoughts; I love the stories, though!

[edna_mode]

@ flu: I used to hop money around different banks and start new ccs for the bonuses. But I decided finally that the ongoing time cost of keeping track of all these account AFTER the bonus needed to be amortized into what the bonus was. For example, a CD generates income that you only need to check twice: upon closing the CD and when you do your taxes. But these “you must do 10 transactions a month to get 4%” checking accounts suck, even with me using automatic transfers to achieve that high transaction level, became too troublesome to me because I also insisted on balancing the accounts every month. I realized I don’t enjoy balancing 6 accounts every month.

Also, the banks are counting on you to screw something up and nail you with fees. I decided I needed to spend more time trying to figure out what a diversified portfolio means these days when so many previously orthogonal asset classes have become correlated. This is part of why I won’t do business with Chase ever again, because I had a horrific experience with customer service both through their bank and cc. Long story short: I discovered I needed to report them to the Comptroller of the Currency (their regulatory agency) and send a letter directly to the CEO to get any useful action after 8 attempts to engage them.

Just one person’s thoughts; I love the stories, though!

[edna_mode]

@ flu: I used to hop money around different banks and start new ccs for the bonuses. But I decided finally that the ongoing time cost of keeping track of all these account AFTER the bonus needed to be amortized into what the bonus was. For example, a CD generates income that you only need to check twice: upon closing the CD and when you do your taxes. But these “you must do 10 transactions a month to get 4%” checking accounts suck, even with me using automatic transfers to achieve that high transaction level, became too troublesome to me because I also insisted on balancing the accounts every month. I realized I don’t enjoy balancing 6 accounts every month.

Also, the banks are counting on you to screw something up and nail you with fees. I decided I needed to spend more time trying to figure out what a diversified portfolio means these days when so many previously orthogonal asset classes have become correlated. This is part of why I won’t do business with Chase ever again, because I had a horrific experience with customer service both through their bank and cc. Long story short: I discovered I needed to report them to the Comptroller of the Currency (their regulatory agency) and send a letter directly to the CEO to get any useful action after 8 attempts to engage them.

Just one person’s thoughts; I love the stories, though!

[edna_mode]

@ flu: I used to hop money around different banks and start new ccs for the bonuses. But I decided finally that the ongoing time cost of keeping track of all these account AFTER the bonus needed to be amortized into what the bonus was. For example, a CD generates income that you only need to check twice: upon closing the CD and when you do your taxes. But these “you must do 10 transactions a month to get 4%” checking accounts suck, even with me using automatic transfers to achieve that high transaction level, became too troublesome to me because I also insisted on balancing the accounts every month. I realized I don’t enjoy balancing 6 accounts every month.

Also, the banks are counting on you to screw something up and nail you with fees. I decided I needed to spend more time trying to figure out what a diversified portfolio means these days when so many previously orthogonal asset classes have become correlated. This is part of why I won’t do business with Chase ever again, because I had a horrific experience with customer service both through their bank and cc. Long story short: I discovered I needed to report them to the Comptroller of the Currency (their regulatory agency) and send a letter directly to the CEO to get any useful action after 8 attempts to engage them.

Just one person’s thoughts; I love the stories, though!

[edna_mode]

OK, feng shui aside, why are so many kitchens designed with such poor layout? they put the stove, sink and fridge in a line maximizing how many steps you have to take to do anything. some put the stove, dishwasher and fridge in such a way you can’t open more than one (you try putting leftovers away while another person does the dishes); others put a fridge AT THE TOP OF THE STAIRS to the basement (try catching that round object that has spoinged out of the veggie drawer); others put the dishwasher so that it blocks the one path OUT of the kitchen.

and don’t even get me started on what kind of sadistic designer thinks it was ever ok to put the laundry FAR AWAY from where all the laundry is generated, i.e. the bedrooms and bathrooms. that is changing, but it really doesn’t jibe with the way people live.

and how the heck do handicapped people find anywhere to live?

[edna_mode]

OK, feng shui aside, why are so many kitchens designed with such poor layout? they put the stove, sink and fridge in a line maximizing how many steps you have to take to do anything. some put the stove, dishwasher and fridge in such a way you can’t open more than one (you try putting leftovers away while another person does the dishes); others put a fridge AT THE TOP OF THE STAIRS to the basement (try catching that round object that has spoinged out of the veggie drawer); others put the dishwasher so that it blocks the one path OUT of the kitchen.

and don’t even get me started on what kind of sadistic designer thinks it was ever ok to put the laundry FAR AWAY from where all the laundry is generated, i.e. the bedrooms and bathrooms. that is changing, but it really doesn’t jibe with the way people live.

and how the heck do handicapped people find anywhere to live?

[edna_mode]

OK, feng shui aside, why are so many kitchens designed with such poor layout? they put the stove, sink and fridge in a line maximizing how many steps you have to take to do anything. some put the stove, dishwasher and fridge in such a way you can’t open more than one (you try putting leftovers away while another person does the dishes); others put a fridge AT THE TOP OF THE STAIRS to the basement (try catching that round object that has spoinged out of the veggie drawer); others put the dishwasher so that it blocks the one path OUT of the kitchen.

and don’t even get me started on what kind of sadistic designer thinks it was ever ok to put the laundry FAR AWAY from where all the laundry is generated, i.e. the bedrooms and bathrooms. that is changing, but it really doesn’t jibe with the way people live.

and how the heck do handicapped people find anywhere to live?

[edna_mode]

OK, feng shui aside, why are so many kitchens designed with such poor layout? they put the stove, sink and fridge in a line maximizing how many steps you have to take to do anything. some put the stove, dishwasher and fridge in such a way you can’t open more than one (you try putting leftovers away while another person does the dishes); others put a fridge AT THE TOP OF THE STAIRS to the basement (try catching that round object that has spoinged out of the veggie drawer); others put the dishwasher so that it blocks the one path OUT of the kitchen.

and don’t even get me started on what kind of sadistic designer thinks it was ever ok to put the laundry FAR AWAY from where all the laundry is generated, i.e. the bedrooms and bathrooms. that is changing, but it really doesn’t jibe with the way people live.

and how the heck do handicapped people find anywhere to live?

[edna_mode]

OK, feng shui aside, why are so many kitchens designed with such poor layout? they put the stove, sink and fridge in a line maximizing how many steps you have to take to do anything. some put the stove, dishwasher and fridge in such a way you can’t open more than one (you try putting leftovers away while another person does the dishes); others put a fridge AT THE TOP OF THE STAIRS to the basement (try catching that round object that has spoinged out of the veggie drawer); others put the dishwasher so that it blocks the one path OUT of the kitchen.

and don’t even get me started on what kind of sadistic designer thinks it was ever ok to put the laundry FAR AWAY from where all the laundry is generated, i.e. the bedrooms and bathrooms. that is changing, but it really doesn’t jibe with the way people live.

and how the heck do handicapped people find anywhere to live?

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