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[quote=ocrenter][quote=flyer]Just a question out of curiosity, and not at all meant to be rude–but with all of the discussion on this thread about Asian households, priorities, saving “face,” etc., I was just wondering what happens in said households if, after all of the planning, sacrifice, etc., etc, the kids end up not measuring up to the familial expectations?

What happens if they can’t get into their chosen college, or land their chosen position, or, you name it–are they ostracized forever?

I think most of us have extremely high aspirations for ourselves and our children, but we also realize things don’t always go as planned, and I hope, for the kids sake, everyone realizes that.[/quote]

a lot are ostracized forever. the number of excommunicated 2nd generation Asian children are huge. all of this is brushed under the rug to save face.[/quote]

Nah, failure simply is not allowed… Can’t do math… 100 hours of kumon… Got a 97% on the CAASP test. Not good enough, why not 99%…..Grounded for 1 week. Get a B+ in grade school. holy cow, there goes your kid’s chances of going to harvard medical.

Me? I’m going to change my kid’s last name….Much easier that way…

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[quote=flyer]Just a question out of curiosity, and not at all meant to be rude–but with all of the discussion on this thread about Asian households, priorities, saving “face,” etc., I was just wondering what happens in said households if, after all of the planning, sacrifice, etc., etc, the kids end up not measuring up to the familial expectations?

What happens if they can’t get into their chosen college, or land their chosen position, or, you name it–are they ostracized forever?

I think most of us have extremely high aspirations for ourselves and our children, but we also realize things don’t always go as planned, and I hope, for the kids sake, everyone realizes that.[/quote]

Well that’s easy. You disown your kids… Just kidding.

I think we’re being sarcastic about this. You hope for the best but if things don’t go as planned oh well. In america, you can be a pretty big fvckup and still do pretty well.

Just look at me!

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[quote=bearishgurl][quote=yuhtey][quote=flu]

Lol. She recommends buying in chula vista.

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yes, and she’s being very culturally insensitive about it, too.[/quote]

Uhh, yuhtey? (You too, flu.) Where exactly on this thread have I recommended to you to buy your first home in Chula Vista?

I actually feel Chula Vista is not for you, primarily due to its “blueness.” We have plenty of custom homes, large lots and wealth down here … we just don’t flaunt it (much akin to the attitude of longtime La Jollans). So, that’s not the problem. The problem here is that your kind would not fit in in these parts, mostly due to your overt intolerant attitude and besides, I feel you would be miserable.

I now feel that you would do best in a relatively plain vanilla walled-in brick enclave of all brick mcmansions, all on one-acre lots surrounding a man-made lake smack dab in the middle of TX (length of commute be damned). The good news is that you can probably afford this! And who knows, you may be able to snag a new construction home to your liking!

Now, all you need to do is get yourself transferred over there stat and buy yourself a nice new $65K jacked-up 4×4 dualie doublecab one-ton-plus pick-em-up truck with shiny chrome Smittybuilt tubular siderails and hang whatever your little heart desires on the tow hitch to go house-hunting in. Don’t be bashful! Fill the back window and bumper with all your tea party and assorted right-wing bumper stickers! ‘Careful how you talk to the locals ’round there, though … even when doing something innocuous … like pumping gas! You might quickly find yourself in an unexpected shitstorm for saying the wrong thing to the wrong person at the wrong time. And I can assure you that there won’t be time for you to fix it.[/quote]

I don’t really know if you talked about chula vista on this thread because I am not really reading every post on this thread that is posted by anyone. I am merely regurgitating the virtues of chula vista that normally gets posted when a Carmel valley thread is started in the past about how overpriced it is, how many stucco boxes it has, tract homes, lizards, and homes with too many walls, oh and how it use to be a home for migrant workers I think you mentioned too.. It’s like preemptively predicting and posting what each poster is going to post even before they post about it. Kinda like the inside joke about Santee only being 10minutes from LJ and how it really should be called La Jolla adjunct.

And the best part of all this? The most vocal comments about said overpriced areas usually comes from LETDITA’s. For a refreshing course on what that means please refer to the Piggington Weekly Issue #2 (now cancelled)

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[quote=yuhtey][quote=flu]

Lol. She recommends buying in chula vista.

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yes, and she’s being very culturally insensitive about it, too.[/quote]

Here’s a thread for you. I’m sure you’ll enjoy it. It’s about carmel valley….

http://piggington.com/expensive_mcmansion_sale

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Nope

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[quote=yuhtey]bear girl, i just think the input thus far has been piecemeal and scattered. just… where exactly are you taking me on this journey to south county? what is the end game – are there going to be pit-bulls and mastiffs?[/quote]

Lol. She recommends buying in chula vista.

Have fun. If you have to get so many opnions on where you should live, you really aren’t ready to buy.

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Ah… I remember now….. San Diego Jewish Academy off of Carmel Creek Road..

http://www.sdja.com/admissions/tuition/

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[quote=yuhtey]if i’m not jewish, can i send my kids to a private jewish school? what about catholic without being catholic?[/quote]

Of course you can. Plenty of Asian moms in Carmel valley send their kids to JCC and I forget the Jewish private school off if Carmel creek road.

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[quote=AN][quote=flu][quote=AN][quote=yuhtey]the only positive about mira mesa is that wings n things. mmmm.

i love all the CV folks trying to tell me that, because it’s not to my taste, that i “just can’t afford it” and that it’s above my class. has my point been proven without me saying anything?[/quote]
Wings n Things? That’s some nasty shit. Been there once and never been back. Now I’m understanding where all of these rants are coming from.[/quote]

I am envious Mira Mesa has a chick fil a..and the only IHOP around. Granted it’s no Snooze.but you don’t have to deal with the snooze lines.[/quote]Chick Fil-A and IHOP? How white are you? You should be envious that we have Mana BBQ,Tofu House, and now 85 degrees :-P.[/quote]

Now stop right there. Chick fil a just rocks. Its the only place that still isn’t afraid to use msg. Even Chinese restaurants stopped using msg…

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[quote=AN][quote=flu][quote=AN]Probably at least 100 metal detectors. That’s why it’s called the ghetto.[/quote]

One thousand billion! It’s war zone![/quote]
I take that back, metal detectors are so 2009. The school has been retrofitted to be one giant magnet. If you bring anything metal w/in the premises, it just get stuck to the ground.[/quote]

In Carmel valley, we wouldn’t even let you get close to the schools. The cops would have pulled you over.

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[quote=yuhtey]so basically, the people of CV… they are open-minded enough to invest their money even in places like mira mesa… that’s so down-to-earth. the investment money supports the little guy too. that’s touching.[/quote]

I wouldn’t.mind living in Sorrento valley if I didn’t have kids or if I wanted to send my kids to a private school. But I don’t want to send my kids to a private school. I have an excuse. I am an Asian tiger parent that expects the best school district and I like the plethora of violin teachers. Lol.

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[quote=AN][quote=yuhtey]the only positive about mira mesa is that wings n things. mmmm.

i love all the CV folks trying to tell me that, because it’s not to my taste, that i “just can’t afford it” and that it’s above my class. has my point been proven without me saying anything?[/quote]
Wings n Things? That’s some nasty shit. Been there once and never been back. Now I’m understanding where all of these rants are coming from.[/quote]

I am envious Mira Mesa has a chick fil a..and the only IHOP around. Granted it’s no Snooze.but you don’t have to deal with the snooze lines.

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[quote=njtosd][quote=yuhtey]the only positive about mira mesa is that wings n things. mmmm.

i love all the CV folks trying to tell me that, because it’s not to my taste, that i “just can’t afford it” and that it’s above my class. has my point been proven without me saying anything?[/quote]

You’re the only one whose mentioned your “class”. And if it’s not to your taste why are you keeping such close track of theCV RE offerings?[/quote]

Sigh..new money newbies have so much to learn.

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[quote=AN]Probably at least 100 metal detectors. That’s why it’s called the ghetto.[/quote]

One thousand billion! It’s war zone!

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[quote=yuhtey]the only positive about mira mesa is that wings n things. mmmm.

i love all the CV folks trying to tell me that, because it’s not to my taste, that i “just can’t afford it” and that it’s above my class. has my point been proven without me saying anything?[/quote]

Well, most of the people here don’t live in Carmel v. And I didn’t say you couldnt afford to live in Carmel valley. You just seem to have unrealistic expectations give the current market conditions and location and size you expect to be able to buy.

It’d like complaining that Porsche wants a $25k markup for the GT4 and calling it a shit car because with the markup it is almost the same price of a 911s. Sorry, the GT4 might be overpriced and overly expensive, but a shit car it is not. In fact, the fact that they can find buyers at $25k above says there is a market for it. Whether you want to play in that game or not is completely up to you.

That, and whether you want to admit it or not, you do have a snobbery thing going on too. Above the snob level of I would say your typical carmel valley home owner below $1.1 million such that people in that category would think you are a snob… But below the snobbery of the homeowners that buy the $1.5+ homes. Perhaps that’s why you think the way you do, because your own snobbery makes you gravitate towards those even worse. You are in the wrong crowd, most likely out of choice, because the other crowd, you probably think you are too good for. So like I said, enjoy renting.

You see, I live in Carmel valley. But unlike you, I don’t thumb my nose at Mira Mesa. In fact as far as investment goes, it did quite well. So perhaps call me old fashion, but I look at Mira Mesa purely in terms $$$$$.

Oh snap, shit sorry AN. Never mind, Mira Mesa sucks… Never.mind…

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