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Women can “have it all” over the course of their life. The problem is when they want it all at once. I disagree that you are permanently damaged when you leave the work force. That can be true with certain professions and obviously there may be a period of catching up. But I’ve known too many women who went back to work successfully or even went back to school or work part time while their kids were in school or after they left home and it led to successful careers. Would they have been further ahead had they worked the entire time? Yeah, maybe. It’s a trade off. I returned to the the work force when my kids were school aged but to a very flexible work from home programming job. Had I not left, would I be in management by now? Maybe (though I have zero desire, just trying to make a point). Heck if that were true I may have been laid off by now too. And my salary did not decrease going back, it increased because the pay scale had increased while I was out. I know I’m lucky in regards to my experience leaving/re-entering the work force but I’m not out of this world lucky. All I know is work or no work, my husband and kids are #1 and if the priorities shift and work shifts near the top….bye bye work.

And I really can’t comment on the husband’s role in all of this since he’s barely in the article. I’m sure he’s not without blame but there just isn’t any info. to go on. Typically though I find women are more apt to be irrational about a house and keeping up appearances for themselves and their children than men.

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Well said, PKMAN.

And if she didn’t work, the husband would have just been paying more alimony and child support.

And just maybe if she hadn’t worked or worked part time and had focused on putting her husband and children first, the divorce wouldn’t have happened. Just speculating. As a mother, I simply cannot understand the point of having children if this is what your life is like with them. Someone else does the bulk of the child care (and I’m sure always has since birth, infant, toddler, and preschool years) and you assist in taking them to activities and watching them perform sometimes. What’s the point? Get a dog. Plus, when did she ever spend time with her husband throughout this daily schedule? Not surprising that it ended in divorce. Lots of women HAVE TO work just to make ends meet for their family but she wasn’t one of them. I bet the husband’s new wife pays a lot more attention to him and his needs. Again, just speculating….

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Well said, PKMAN.

And if she didn’t work, the husband would have just been paying more alimony and child support.

And just maybe if she hadn’t worked or worked part time and had focused on putting her husband and children first, the divorce wouldn’t have happened. Just speculating. As a mother, I simply cannot understand the point of having children if this is what your life is like with them. Someone else does the bulk of the child care (and I’m sure always has since birth, infant, toddler, and preschool years) and you assist in taking them to activities and watching them perform sometimes. What’s the point? Get a dog. Plus, when did she ever spend time with her husband throughout this daily schedule? Not surprising that it ended in divorce. Lots of women HAVE TO work just to make ends meet for their family but she wasn’t one of them. I bet the husband’s new wife pays a lot more attention to him and his needs. Again, just speculating….

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Well said, PKMAN.

And if she didn’t work, the husband would have just been paying more alimony and child support.

And just maybe if she hadn’t worked or worked part time and had focused on putting her husband and children first, the divorce wouldn’t have happened. Just speculating. As a mother, I simply cannot understand the point of having children if this is what your life is like with them. Someone else does the bulk of the child care (and I’m sure always has since birth, infant, toddler, and preschool years) and you assist in taking them to activities and watching them perform sometimes. What’s the point? Get a dog. Plus, when did she ever spend time with her husband throughout this daily schedule? Not surprising that it ended in divorce. Lots of women HAVE TO work just to make ends meet for their family but she wasn’t one of them. I bet the husband’s new wife pays a lot more attention to him and his needs. Again, just speculating….

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Well said, PKMAN.

And if she didn’t work, the husband would have just been paying more alimony and child support.

And just maybe if she hadn’t worked or worked part time and had focused on putting her husband and children first, the divorce wouldn’t have happened. Just speculating. As a mother, I simply cannot understand the point of having children if this is what your life is like with them. Someone else does the bulk of the child care (and I’m sure always has since birth, infant, toddler, and preschool years) and you assist in taking them to activities and watching them perform sometimes. What’s the point? Get a dog. Plus, when did she ever spend time with her husband throughout this daily schedule? Not surprising that it ended in divorce. Lots of women HAVE TO work just to make ends meet for their family but she wasn’t one of them. I bet the husband’s new wife pays a lot more attention to him and his needs. Again, just speculating….

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Well said, PKMAN.

And if she didn’t work, the husband would have just been paying more alimony and child support.

And just maybe if she hadn’t worked or worked part time and had focused on putting her husband and children first, the divorce wouldn’t have happened. Just speculating. As a mother, I simply cannot understand the point of having children if this is what your life is like with them. Someone else does the bulk of the child care (and I’m sure always has since birth, infant, toddler, and preschool years) and you assist in taking them to activities and watching them perform sometimes. What’s the point? Get a dog. Plus, when did she ever spend time with her husband throughout this daily schedule? Not surprising that it ended in divorce. Lots of women HAVE TO work just to make ends meet for their family but she wasn’t one of them. I bet the husband’s new wife pays a lot more attention to him and his needs. Again, just speculating….

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The magical thinking that life will be better after the recession. She has a job, I don’t know how the recession ending will help her out.

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Don’t you see her getting remarried and falling back into the cushy double income lifestyle again? And I bet this time she goes for someone with more money. This lady is never going to do the right thing for herself and her kids. I think it’s sick that she would risk everything for this facade. The problem is that she has raised her kids to be materialistic junkies and is afraid to disappoint them (but mostly herself) by selling the house and adjusting their lifestyle to fit her current income. Seriously, cry me a river about how you are just hanging on yet you just have to buy new clothes for your party in the Hamptons and just have to buy those earrings. Why not assign the kids chores like cleaning the pool, shoveling snow, mowing the lawn, etc. which is all outsourced? Oh that’s right, they are overscheduled with activities that you won’t compromise. How about rent out a room or two in the house you won’t sell? Oops, forgot, it’s busy being repainted. How about selling one of the cars? No, you need one SUV for shuffling the kids around and the convertible the drive to parties to meet your next paycheck…I mean husband.

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The magical thinking that life will be better after the recession. She has a job, I don’t know how the recession ending will help her out.

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Don’t you see her getting remarried and falling back into the cushy double income lifestyle again? And I bet this time she goes for someone with more money. This lady is never going to do the right thing for herself and her kids. I think it’s sick that she would risk everything for this facade. The problem is that she has raised her kids to be materialistic junkies and is afraid to disappoint them (but mostly herself) by selling the house and adjusting their lifestyle to fit her current income. Seriously, cry me a river about how you are just hanging on yet you just have to buy new clothes for your party in the Hamptons and just have to buy those earrings. Why not assign the kids chores like cleaning the pool, shoveling snow, mowing the lawn, etc. which is all outsourced? Oh that’s right, they are overscheduled with activities that you won’t compromise. How about rent out a room or two in the house you won’t sell? Oops, forgot, it’s busy being repainted. How about selling one of the cars? No, you need one SUV for shuffling the kids around and the convertible the drive to parties to meet your next paycheck…I mean husband.

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The magical thinking that life will be better after the recession. She has a job, I don’t know how the recession ending will help her out.

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Don’t you see her getting remarried and falling back into the cushy double income lifestyle again? And I bet this time she goes for someone with more money. This lady is never going to do the right thing for herself and her kids. I think it’s sick that she would risk everything for this facade. The problem is that she has raised her kids to be materialistic junkies and is afraid to disappoint them (but mostly herself) by selling the house and adjusting their lifestyle to fit her current income. Seriously, cry me a river about how you are just hanging on yet you just have to buy new clothes for your party in the Hamptons and just have to buy those earrings. Why not assign the kids chores like cleaning the pool, shoveling snow, mowing the lawn, etc. which is all outsourced? Oh that’s right, they are overscheduled with activities that you won’t compromise. How about rent out a room or two in the house you won’t sell? Oops, forgot, it’s busy being repainted. How about selling one of the cars? No, you need one SUV for shuffling the kids around and the convertible the drive to parties to meet your next paycheck…I mean husband.

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The magical thinking that life will be better after the recession. She has a job, I don’t know how the recession ending will help her out.

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Don’t you see her getting remarried and falling back into the cushy double income lifestyle again? And I bet this time she goes for someone with more money. This lady is never going to do the right thing for herself and her kids. I think it’s sick that she would risk everything for this facade. The problem is that she has raised her kids to be materialistic junkies and is afraid to disappoint them (but mostly herself) by selling the house and adjusting their lifestyle to fit her current income. Seriously, cry me a river about how you are just hanging on yet you just have to buy new clothes for your party in the Hamptons and just have to buy those earrings. Why not assign the kids chores like cleaning the pool, shoveling snow, mowing the lawn, etc. which is all outsourced? Oh that’s right, they are overscheduled with activities that you won’t compromise. How about rent out a room or two in the house you won’t sell? Oops, forgot, it’s busy being repainted. How about selling one of the cars? No, you need one SUV for shuffling the kids around and the convertible the drive to parties to meet your next paycheck…I mean husband.

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The magical thinking that life will be better after the recession. She has a job, I don’t know how the recession ending will help her out.

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Don’t you see her getting remarried and falling back into the cushy double income lifestyle again? And I bet this time she goes for someone with more money. This lady is never going to do the right thing for herself and her kids. I think it’s sick that she would risk everything for this facade. The problem is that she has raised her kids to be materialistic junkies and is afraid to disappoint them (but mostly herself) by selling the house and adjusting their lifestyle to fit her current income. Seriously, cry me a river about how you are just hanging on yet you just have to buy new clothes for your party in the Hamptons and just have to buy those earrings. Why not assign the kids chores like cleaning the pool, shoveling snow, mowing the lawn, etc. which is all outsourced? Oh that’s right, they are overscheduled with activities that you won’t compromise. How about rent out a room or two in the house you won’t sell? Oops, forgot, it’s busy being repainted. How about selling one of the cars? No, you need one SUV for shuffling the kids around and the convertible the drive to parties to meet your next paycheck…I mean husband.

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Not much you can do but try to enforce the 3 day rule (um, what is this business that the truck can sit there and not move for 6 days in a row??). You might want to try and bribe him depending on how much it is worth to you I guess?

If he is ill tempered maybe he and the girlfriend will soon break up and your problem will be solved.

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Not much you can do but try to enforce the 3 day rule (um, what is this business that the truck can sit there and not move for 6 days in a row??). You might want to try and bribe him depending on how much it is worth to you I guess?

If he is ill tempered maybe he and the girlfriend will soon break up and your problem will be solved.

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Not much you can do but try to enforce the 3 day rule (um, what is this business that the truck can sit there and not move for 6 days in a row??). You might want to try and bribe him depending on how much it is worth to you I guess?

If he is ill tempered maybe he and the girlfriend will soon break up and your problem will be solved.

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Not much you can do but try to enforce the 3 day rule (um, what is this business that the truck can sit there and not move for 6 days in a row??). You might want to try and bribe him depending on how much it is worth to you I guess?

If he is ill tempered maybe he and the girlfriend will soon break up and your problem will be solved.

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