Forum Replies Created
-
AuthorPosts
-
CBad
Participant[quote=CA renter]Men do not have to deal with pregnancy, childbirth, nursing, etc. [/quote]
Deal with?! Honey I consider my pregnancies, childbirths, and breastfeeding to be of the happiest points in my life! Seriously women need to embrace that which makes them women. I feel lucky that I am able to experience those marvelous things in my life.
Now come on, I know you have kids, do you really feel negativity or resentment towards those things or did the “deal with” verbiage just filter in to make a point? 🙂
Participant[quote=CA renter]Men do not have to deal with pregnancy, childbirth, nursing, etc. [/quote]
Deal with?! Honey I consider my pregnancies, childbirths, and breastfeeding to be of the happiest points in my life! Seriously women need to embrace that which makes them women. I feel lucky that I am able to experience those marvelous things in my life.
Now come on, I know you have kids, do you really feel negativity or resentment towards those things or did the “deal with” verbiage just filter in to make a point? 🙂
Participant[quote=CA renter]Men do not have to deal with pregnancy, childbirth, nursing, etc. [/quote]
Deal with?! Honey I consider my pregnancies, childbirths, and breastfeeding to be of the happiest points in my life! Seriously women need to embrace that which makes them women. I feel lucky that I am able to experience those marvelous things in my life.
Now come on, I know you have kids, do you really feel negativity or resentment towards those things or did the “deal with” verbiage just filter in to make a point? 🙂
Participant[quote=CA renter]Men do not have to deal with pregnancy, childbirth, nursing, etc. [/quote]
Deal with?! Honey I consider my pregnancies, childbirths, and breastfeeding to be of the happiest points in my life! Seriously women need to embrace that which makes them women. I feel lucky that I am able to experience those marvelous things in my life.
Now come on, I know you have kids, do you really feel negativity or resentment towards those things or did the “deal with” verbiage just filter in to make a point? 🙂
Participant[quote=CA renter]Men do not have to deal with pregnancy, childbirth, nursing, etc. [/quote]
Deal with?! Honey I consider my pregnancies, childbirths, and breastfeeding to be of the happiest points in my life! Seriously women need to embrace that which makes them women. I feel lucky that I am able to experience those marvelous things in my life.
Now come on, I know you have kids, do you really feel negativity or resentment towards those things or did the “deal with” verbiage just filter in to make a point? 🙂
Participant[quote=CBad]Women can “have it all” over the course of their life. The problem is when they want it all at once.[/quote]
Just quoting myself because people seem to be misunderstanding. Over the course of your entire life, you can have everything you want. But no, you can’t have it all at once. Men can’t have it all at once either (they usually get in trouble for having a wife and also having a girlfriend, no?). My husband has passed up great job opportunities and promotions because it would mean less time with his family. Life is all about choices.
What’s this obsession with having it all right now anyway? When I was single, dating, and going to college, I didn’t also want to be married, have kids, and work full time all at the same time. Life is different in different phases of your life. After my kids are grown I can join the peace corps, write a book, get a different degree, or move my way up, etc. but I don’t sit here whining that I can’t do those things right now.
Participant[quote=CBad]Women can “have it all” over the course of their life. The problem is when they want it all at once.[/quote]
Just quoting myself because people seem to be misunderstanding. Over the course of your entire life, you can have everything you want. But no, you can’t have it all at once. Men can’t have it all at once either (they usually get in trouble for having a wife and also having a girlfriend, no?). My husband has passed up great job opportunities and promotions because it would mean less time with his family. Life is all about choices.
What’s this obsession with having it all right now anyway? When I was single, dating, and going to college, I didn’t also want to be married, have kids, and work full time all at the same time. Life is different in different phases of your life. After my kids are grown I can join the peace corps, write a book, get a different degree, or move my way up, etc. but I don’t sit here whining that I can’t do those things right now.
Participant[quote=CBad]Women can “have it all” over the course of their life. The problem is when they want it all at once.[/quote]
Just quoting myself because people seem to be misunderstanding. Over the course of your entire life, you can have everything you want. But no, you can’t have it all at once. Men can’t have it all at once either (they usually get in trouble for having a wife and also having a girlfriend, no?). My husband has passed up great job opportunities and promotions because it would mean less time with his family. Life is all about choices.
What’s this obsession with having it all right now anyway? When I was single, dating, and going to college, I didn’t also want to be married, have kids, and work full time all at the same time. Life is different in different phases of your life. After my kids are grown I can join the peace corps, write a book, get a different degree, or move my way up, etc. but I don’t sit here whining that I can’t do those things right now.
Participant[quote=CBad]Women can “have it all” over the course of their life. The problem is when they want it all at once.[/quote]
Just quoting myself because people seem to be misunderstanding. Over the course of your entire life, you can have everything you want. But no, you can’t have it all at once. Men can’t have it all at once either (they usually get in trouble for having a wife and also having a girlfriend, no?). My husband has passed up great job opportunities and promotions because it would mean less time with his family. Life is all about choices.
What’s this obsession with having it all right now anyway? When I was single, dating, and going to college, I didn’t also want to be married, have kids, and work full time all at the same time. Life is different in different phases of your life. After my kids are grown I can join the peace corps, write a book, get a different degree, or move my way up, etc. but I don’t sit here whining that I can’t do those things right now.
Participant[quote=CBad]Women can “have it all” over the course of their life. The problem is when they want it all at once.[/quote]
Just quoting myself because people seem to be misunderstanding. Over the course of your entire life, you can have everything you want. But no, you can’t have it all at once. Men can’t have it all at once either (they usually get in trouble for having a wife and also having a girlfriend, no?). My husband has passed up great job opportunities and promotions because it would mean less time with his family. Life is all about choices.
What’s this obsession with having it all right now anyway? When I was single, dating, and going to college, I didn’t also want to be married, have kids, and work full time all at the same time. Life is different in different phases of your life. After my kids are grown I can join the peace corps, write a book, get a different degree, or move my way up, etc. but I don’t sit here whining that I can’t do those things right now.
ParticipantWomen can “have it all” over the course of their life. The problem is when they want it all at once. I disagree that you are permanently damaged when you leave the work force. That can be true with certain professions and obviously there may be a period of catching up. But I’ve known too many women who went back to work successfully or even went back to school or work part time while their kids were in school or after they left home and it led to successful careers. Would they have been further ahead had they worked the entire time? Yeah, maybe. It’s a trade off. I returned to the the work force when my kids were school aged but to a very flexible work from home programming job. Had I not left, would I be in management by now? Maybe (though I have zero desire, just trying to make a point). Heck if that were true I may have been laid off by now too. And my salary did not decrease going back, it increased because the pay scale had increased while I was out. I know I’m lucky in regards to my experience leaving/re-entering the work force but I’m not out of this world lucky. All I know is work or no work, my husband and kids are #1 and if the priorities shift and work shifts near the top….bye bye work.
And I really can’t comment on the husband’s role in all of this since he’s barely in the article. I’m sure he’s not without blame but there just isn’t any info. to go on. Typically though I find women are more apt to be irrational about a house and keeping up appearances for themselves and their children than men.
ParticipantWomen can “have it all” over the course of their life. The problem is when they want it all at once. I disagree that you are permanently damaged when you leave the work force. That can be true with certain professions and obviously there may be a period of catching up. But I’ve known too many women who went back to work successfully or even went back to school or work part time while their kids were in school or after they left home and it led to successful careers. Would they have been further ahead had they worked the entire time? Yeah, maybe. It’s a trade off. I returned to the the work force when my kids were school aged but to a very flexible work from home programming job. Had I not left, would I be in management by now? Maybe (though I have zero desire, just trying to make a point). Heck if that were true I may have been laid off by now too. And my salary did not decrease going back, it increased because the pay scale had increased while I was out. I know I’m lucky in regards to my experience leaving/re-entering the work force but I’m not out of this world lucky. All I know is work or no work, my husband and kids are #1 and if the priorities shift and work shifts near the top….bye bye work.
And I really can’t comment on the husband’s role in all of this since he’s barely in the article. I’m sure he’s not without blame but there just isn’t any info. to go on. Typically though I find women are more apt to be irrational about a house and keeping up appearances for themselves and their children than men.
ParticipantWomen can “have it all” over the course of their life. The problem is when they want it all at once. I disagree that you are permanently damaged when you leave the work force. That can be true with certain professions and obviously there may be a period of catching up. But I’ve known too many women who went back to work successfully or even went back to school or work part time while their kids were in school or after they left home and it led to successful careers. Would they have been further ahead had they worked the entire time? Yeah, maybe. It’s a trade off. I returned to the the work force when my kids were school aged but to a very flexible work from home programming job. Had I not left, would I be in management by now? Maybe (though I have zero desire, just trying to make a point). Heck if that were true I may have been laid off by now too. And my salary did not decrease going back, it increased because the pay scale had increased while I was out. I know I’m lucky in regards to my experience leaving/re-entering the work force but I’m not out of this world lucky. All I know is work or no work, my husband and kids are #1 and if the priorities shift and work shifts near the top….bye bye work.
And I really can’t comment on the husband’s role in all of this since he’s barely in the article. I’m sure he’s not without blame but there just isn’t any info. to go on. Typically though I find women are more apt to be irrational about a house and keeping up appearances for themselves and their children than men.
ParticipantWomen can “have it all” over the course of their life. The problem is when they want it all at once. I disagree that you are permanently damaged when you leave the work force. That can be true with certain professions and obviously there may be a period of catching up. But I’ve known too many women who went back to work successfully or even went back to school or work part time while their kids were in school or after they left home and it led to successful careers. Would they have been further ahead had they worked the entire time? Yeah, maybe. It’s a trade off. I returned to the the work force when my kids were school aged but to a very flexible work from home programming job. Had I not left, would I be in management by now? Maybe (though I have zero desire, just trying to make a point). Heck if that were true I may have been laid off by now too. And my salary did not decrease going back, it increased because the pay scale had increased while I was out. I know I’m lucky in regards to my experience leaving/re-entering the work force but I’m not out of this world lucky. All I know is work or no work, my husband and kids are #1 and if the priorities shift and work shifts near the top….bye bye work.
And I really can’t comment on the husband’s role in all of this since he’s barely in the article. I’m sure he’s not without blame but there just isn’t any info. to go on. Typically though I find women are more apt to be irrational about a house and keeping up appearances for themselves and their children than men.
-
AuthorPosts
