Tales of an RSF Buyer (Part 3)

[raptorduck]

Wow, a bit of discussion about my wife. Not my intention to incite that.

I may not completely agree with her, but can understand her perspective. She is entitled to it. Spoiled is a relative term. We don’t have nannies or servants. Some friends do, others don’t.

Please don’t call me rich, I work for a living. That is a word better used for people with far more capital than I have. I do well enough to buy what I can buy and provide for a large extended family, but that does not mean what most people think that it means. I know enough people with obscene amounts of money to be clear that I am not one of them.

If I have to work for my money rather than my money working for me to support my lifestyle, then by definition, I am not rich. I live below my means, but I have to work to support my means. That is not rich. If I loose my job, Houston we have a problem. After a few years of cushion I need to find a similar job to support my lifestyle or start slashing expenses.

A rich person does not need a job to support a lavish lifestyle. Donald Trump does not need his job, nor Bill Gates, nor many ibankers who lived below their means, nor trust fund kids, nor an inventor who sold his invention for $500 million. There are of course lots of folks who don’t need jobs, because they live modestly and saved the little they did make. They are rich by another definition of rich, financial freedom. Lots of people who make gobs of money are not financially independent because they live above their means. I don’t live above my means, but I am not financially independent either.

My wife may appear spoiled, and while she collects shoes and handbags like some people collect baseball cards and while she may be stay-at-home, she is not a lazy person, quite the contrary. Heck, I can be spoiled too. I have a wasteful obession with nice cars and watches. Nobody is perfect. She wants what she wants, simple as that. I am trying to give her that as long as it is within my boundries and means.

Neither my wife nor I were born into any kind of wealth. We grew up poor actually (not middle class, lower class). I am not ashamed of that, so have no problem saying it in an open public forum. Nothing builds character like the gift of struggle. I paid attention in school and did well and went to gobs and gobs of college and grad school paid for from work study and scholarships (not rich daddi) and then worked my butt off and tried to make smart decisions. It has worked out so far.

She will talk to me again, I hope. 😉

[Aecetia]

Here is a toast to R.duck and his wife, may they find their dream home. I admire people who worked their way up. They truly epitomize the American dream.

[Aecetia]

Here is a toast to R.duck and his wife, may they find their dream home. I admire people who worked their way up. They truly epitomize the American dream.

[Aecetia]

Here is a toast to R.duck and his wife, may they find their dream home. I admire people who worked their way up. They truly epitomize the American dream.

[Aecetia]

Here is a toast to R.duck and his wife, may they find their dream home. I admire people who worked their way up. They truly epitomize the American dream.

[Aecetia]

Here is a toast to R.duck and his wife, may they find their dream home. I admire people who worked their way up. They truly epitomize the American dream.

[jpinpb]

raptor – I hope by my post you did not take offense. I did not mean to be in any way derogatory and I respect you for whatever wealth you have and from your posts I never sensed any form of arrogance or entitlement, but on the contrary, levelheaded and sure of what you want, and persistent, determined, all good qualities that I admire.

That said, I guess I might as well say that being I woman I understand the urge to have/own a house and that desire is strong in me. However, I also understand the value of money and that keeps me from getting a house if there’s a possibility that money will be lost. Work too hard for it. Don’t like losing it.

Still, that doesn’t mean if I found that special house, I wouldn’t want to buy it. It’s happened before. I’ve made offers that were not accepted. Walked away over 100k on one place. Funny thing is that the person who bought it has a NOD on it. Maybe I got lucky not buying it.

raptor, again she’s a lucky lady and hopefully she’ll realize the decision and small sacrifice to rent now may work out better in the long run.

[jpinpb]

raptor – I hope by my post you did not take offense. I did not mean to be in any way derogatory and I respect you for whatever wealth you have and from your posts I never sensed any form of arrogance or entitlement, but on the contrary, levelheaded and sure of what you want, and persistent, determined, all good qualities that I admire.

That said, I guess I might as well say that being I woman I understand the urge to have/own a house and that desire is strong in me. However, I also understand the value of money and that keeps me from getting a house if there’s a possibility that money will be lost. Work too hard for it. Don’t like losing it.

Still, that doesn’t mean if I found that special house, I wouldn’t want to buy it. It’s happened before. I’ve made offers that were not accepted. Walked away over 100k on one place. Funny thing is that the person who bought it has a NOD on it. Maybe I got lucky not buying it.

raptor, again she’s a lucky lady and hopefully she’ll realize the decision and small sacrifice to rent now may work out better in the long run.

[jpinpb]

raptor – I hope by my post you did not take offense. I did not mean to be in any way derogatory and I respect you for whatever wealth you have and from your posts I never sensed any form of arrogance or entitlement, but on the contrary, levelheaded and sure of what you want, and persistent, determined, all good qualities that I admire.

That said, I guess I might as well say that being I woman I understand the urge to have/own a house and that desire is strong in me. However, I also understand the value of money and that keeps me from getting a house if there’s a possibility that money will be lost. Work too hard for it. Don’t like losing it.

Still, that doesn’t mean if I found that special house, I wouldn’t want to buy it. It’s happened before. I’ve made offers that were not accepted. Walked away over 100k on one place. Funny thing is that the person who bought it has a NOD on it. Maybe I got lucky not buying it.

raptor, again she’s a lucky lady and hopefully she’ll realize the decision and small sacrifice to rent now may work out better in the long run.

[jpinpb]

raptor – I hope by my post you did not take offense. I did not mean to be in any way derogatory and I respect you for whatever wealth you have and from your posts I never sensed any form of arrogance or entitlement, but on the contrary, levelheaded and sure of what you want, and persistent, determined, all good qualities that I admire.

That said, I guess I might as well say that being I woman I understand the urge to have/own a house and that desire is strong in me. However, I also understand the value of money and that keeps me from getting a house if there’s a possibility that money will be lost. Work too hard for it. Don’t like losing it.

Still, that doesn’t mean if I found that special house, I wouldn’t want to buy it. It’s happened before. I’ve made offers that were not accepted. Walked away over 100k on one place. Funny thing is that the person who bought it has a NOD on it. Maybe I got lucky not buying it.

raptor, again she’s a lucky lady and hopefully she’ll realize the decision and small sacrifice to rent now may work out better in the long run.

[jpinpb]

raptor – I hope by my post you did not take offense. I did not mean to be in any way derogatory and I respect you for whatever wealth you have and from your posts I never sensed any form of arrogance or entitlement, but on the contrary, levelheaded and sure of what you want, and persistent, determined, all good qualities that I admire.

That said, I guess I might as well say that being I woman I understand the urge to have/own a house and that desire is strong in me. However, I also understand the value of money and that keeps me from getting a house if there’s a possibility that money will be lost. Work too hard for it. Don’t like losing it.

Still, that doesn’t mean if I found that special house, I wouldn’t want to buy it. It’s happened before. I’ve made offers that were not accepted. Walked away over 100k on one place. Funny thing is that the person who bought it has a NOD on it. Maybe I got lucky not buying it.

raptor, again she’s a lucky lady and hopefully she’ll realize the decision and small sacrifice to rent now may work out better in the long run.

[NotCranky]

Like nost I am much more of a homebody than my wife. She still “withholds” more than I do and I find it intolerable from a psychological maturity and fairness point of view and ask her to snap out of it. Since she realizes this is her short coming she does. Of course being an amateur psychologist I educated her gradually. My wife is the best but we are not perfect and should try harder than to put the silent treatment on IMO. (or other types of withholding). It is not healthy for the relationship which is more important than a house. Not saying this is your experience RD just my 2cents. I’d ask her to snap the hell out of it though.
Maybe there is more to the story. My wife dislikes my biggest short coming, my modest temper;).

Maybe next time you go out into the market be prepared not to vacilate so much. If I were her I would have killed you.

Good luck Raptorduck

[NotCranky]

Like nost I am much more of a homebody than my wife. She still “withholds” more than I do and I find it intolerable from a psychological maturity and fairness point of view and ask her to snap out of it. Since she realizes this is her short coming she does. Of course being an amateur psychologist I educated her gradually. My wife is the best but we are not perfect and should try harder than to put the silent treatment on IMO. (or other types of withholding). It is not healthy for the relationship which is more important than a house. Not saying this is your experience RD just my 2cents. I’d ask her to snap the hell out of it though.
Maybe there is more to the story. My wife dislikes my biggest short coming, my modest temper;).

Maybe next time you go out into the market be prepared not to vacilate so much. If I were her I would have killed you.

Good luck Raptorduck

[NotCranky]

Like nost I am much more of a homebody than my wife. She still “withholds” more than I do and I find it intolerable from a psychological maturity and fairness point of view and ask her to snap out of it. Since she realizes this is her short coming she does. Of course being an amateur psychologist I educated her gradually. My wife is the best but we are not perfect and should try harder than to put the silent treatment on IMO. (or other types of withholding). It is not healthy for the relationship which is more important than a house. Not saying this is your experience RD just my 2cents. I’d ask her to snap the hell out of it though.
Maybe there is more to the story. My wife dislikes my biggest short coming, my modest temper;).

Maybe next time you go out into the market be prepared not to vacilate so much. If I were her I would have killed you.

Good luck Raptorduck

[NotCranky]

Like nost I am much more of a homebody than my wife. She still “withholds” more than I do and I find it intolerable from a psychological maturity and fairness point of view and ask her to snap out of it. Since she realizes this is her short coming she does. Of course being an amateur psychologist I educated her gradually. My wife is the best but we are not perfect and should try harder than to put the silent treatment on IMO. (or other types of withholding). It is not healthy for the relationship which is more important than a house. Not saying this is your experience RD just my 2cents. I’d ask her to snap the hell out of it though.
Maybe there is more to the story. My wife dislikes my biggest short coming, my modest temper;).

Maybe next time you go out into the market be prepared not to vacilate so much. If I were her I would have killed you.

Good luck Raptorduck

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