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  • May 31, 2011 at 9:34 AM #701319
    briansd1
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    [quote=eavesdropper][quote=briansd1]Bob Schieffer said be nice to your kids. They will be the ones choosing the nursing homes.[/quote]

    Not worried about that, Brian. I’ve been convinced for years that euthanasia will become legal when the majority of baby boomers reach age 68 or 70.

    Mark my words. Most of us didn’t raise our kids with a strong sense of responsibility to others, including the family unit. Where would we expect them to get it? From watching old episodes of “The Waltons” or “Little House on the Prairie”? “The Real McCoys”?

    Nah, our goose is cooked (geese are cooked?). Payback’s gonna be a bitch for the “Me” generation.[/quote]

    I will need euthanasia for sure. I hope it’s available when I’m out of it.

    May 31, 2011 at 10:17 AM #700136
    NotCranky
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    It’s good to have a family business on the side. The more awful the better. Then the kids never have an excuse not to have job and motivation to get a better one.

    May 31, 2011 at 10:17 AM #700234
    NotCranky
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    It’s good to have a family business on the side. The more awful the better. Then the kids never have an excuse not to have job and motivation to get a better one.

    May 31, 2011 at 10:17 AM #700822
    NotCranky
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    It’s good to have a family business on the side. The more awful the better. Then the kids never have an excuse not to have job and motivation to get a better one.

    May 31, 2011 at 10:17 AM #700970
    NotCranky
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    It’s good to have a family business on the side. The more awful the better. Then the kids never have an excuse not to have job and motivation to get a better one.

    May 31, 2011 at 10:17 AM #701329
    NotCranky
    Participant

    It’s good to have a family business on the side. The more awful the better. Then the kids never have an excuse not to have job and motivation to get a better one.

    May 31, 2011 at 10:42 AM #700141
    barnaby33
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    It’s not like your South American counterparts who are trying to become independent. For many SoCal young people, there is often no reason to become independent if their (now tired) “boomer” parents have the “ultimate” accomodations. Why not spend that rent $$ on yourself?

    Yet again, fail.

    May 31, 2011 at 10:42 AM #700239
    barnaby33
    Participant

    It’s not like your South American counterparts who are trying to become independent. For many SoCal young people, there is often no reason to become independent if their (now tired) “boomer” parents have the “ultimate” accomodations. Why not spend that rent $$ on yourself?

    Yet again, fail.

    May 31, 2011 at 10:42 AM #700827
    barnaby33
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    It’s not like your South American counterparts who are trying to become independent. For many SoCal young people, there is often no reason to become independent if their (now tired) “boomer” parents have the “ultimate” accomodations. Why not spend that rent $$ on yourself?

    Yet again, fail.

    May 31, 2011 at 10:42 AM #700975
    barnaby33
    Participant

    It’s not like your South American counterparts who are trying to become independent. For many SoCal young people, there is often no reason to become independent if their (now tired) “boomer” parents have the “ultimate” accomodations. Why not spend that rent $$ on yourself?

    Yet again, fail.

    May 31, 2011 at 10:42 AM #701334
    barnaby33
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    It’s not like your South American counterparts who are trying to become independent. For many SoCal young people, there is often no reason to become independent if their (now tired) “boomer” parents have the “ultimate” accomodations. Why not spend that rent $$ on yourself?

    Yet again, fail.

    May 31, 2011 at 11:32 AM #700156
    UCGal
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    My parents must have been from the same school as eaves’ and CAR’s…

    I knew from a young age that at 18 I had better be in school, full time, in a degree that would get me a job… or working. And if it was the latter, I could live at home, with rules, if I contributed to the household. Otherwise I could use my earnings to pay my own way.

    I chose the last option because I wasn’t ready for college. Best decision I ever made. Eventually I went to school, and my parents did help me with tuition/books. But there were strings attached.

    Prior to turning 18 – it was understood that chores came before fun. That was a non-negotiable. The line that all my friends were out playing didn’t cut it with my parents.

    Because of these chores and responsibilities my siblings and I were pretty self reliant when we moved out. We could all cook, change oil on a car, knew basic sewing (mending), knew how to do laundry and cleaning, could do basic repairs… (chores incorporated all these things.).

    I’m raising my kids with the same expectations. And they’re getting one more lesson – care for elderly family. We take care of my in-laws… and the boys are part of that process… helping their grandmother with her trash, keeping an eye on grandpa if she needs some time to get stuff done, etc.

    I won’t kick my kids out if they are contributing to the household. I’ll do it in a heartbeat if they start acting entitled to life on a silver platter. I’m fine with multi-generational family. But, IMO, if parents do their job right, the kids *want* to move out at some point to try life outside the nest. My job as a parent is to give them the skills and motivation to survive on their own. If they’re sitting at home, while I shelter, feed, do laundry… practically wipe their butt – I’m not doing my job.

    As far as 18 being an arbitrary age… Yes… but it’s the age you can *legally* kick them out if they don’t follow the household rules.

    May 31, 2011 at 11:32 AM #700254
    UCGal
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    My parents must have been from the same school as eaves’ and CAR’s…

    I knew from a young age that at 18 I had better be in school, full time, in a degree that would get me a job… or working. And if it was the latter, I could live at home, with rules, if I contributed to the household. Otherwise I could use my earnings to pay my own way.

    I chose the last option because I wasn’t ready for college. Best decision I ever made. Eventually I went to school, and my parents did help me with tuition/books. But there were strings attached.

    Prior to turning 18 – it was understood that chores came before fun. That was a non-negotiable. The line that all my friends were out playing didn’t cut it with my parents.

    Because of these chores and responsibilities my siblings and I were pretty self reliant when we moved out. We could all cook, change oil on a car, knew basic sewing (mending), knew how to do laundry and cleaning, could do basic repairs… (chores incorporated all these things.).

    I’m raising my kids with the same expectations. And they’re getting one more lesson – care for elderly family. We take care of my in-laws… and the boys are part of that process… helping their grandmother with her trash, keeping an eye on grandpa if she needs some time to get stuff done, etc.

    I won’t kick my kids out if they are contributing to the household. I’ll do it in a heartbeat if they start acting entitled to life on a silver platter. I’m fine with multi-generational family. But, IMO, if parents do their job right, the kids *want* to move out at some point to try life outside the nest. My job as a parent is to give them the skills and motivation to survive on their own. If they’re sitting at home, while I shelter, feed, do laundry… practically wipe their butt – I’m not doing my job.

    As far as 18 being an arbitrary age… Yes… but it’s the age you can *legally* kick them out if they don’t follow the household rules.

    May 31, 2011 at 11:32 AM #700842
    UCGal
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    My parents must have been from the same school as eaves’ and CAR’s…

    I knew from a young age that at 18 I had better be in school, full time, in a degree that would get me a job… or working. And if it was the latter, I could live at home, with rules, if I contributed to the household. Otherwise I could use my earnings to pay my own way.

    I chose the last option because I wasn’t ready for college. Best decision I ever made. Eventually I went to school, and my parents did help me with tuition/books. But there were strings attached.

    Prior to turning 18 – it was understood that chores came before fun. That was a non-negotiable. The line that all my friends were out playing didn’t cut it with my parents.

    Because of these chores and responsibilities my siblings and I were pretty self reliant when we moved out. We could all cook, change oil on a car, knew basic sewing (mending), knew how to do laundry and cleaning, could do basic repairs… (chores incorporated all these things.).

    I’m raising my kids with the same expectations. And they’re getting one more lesson – care for elderly family. We take care of my in-laws… and the boys are part of that process… helping their grandmother with her trash, keeping an eye on grandpa if she needs some time to get stuff done, etc.

    I won’t kick my kids out if they are contributing to the household. I’ll do it in a heartbeat if they start acting entitled to life on a silver platter. I’m fine with multi-generational family. But, IMO, if parents do their job right, the kids *want* to move out at some point to try life outside the nest. My job as a parent is to give them the skills and motivation to survive on their own. If they’re sitting at home, while I shelter, feed, do laundry… practically wipe their butt – I’m not doing my job.

    As far as 18 being an arbitrary age… Yes… but it’s the age you can *legally* kick them out if they don’t follow the household rules.

    May 31, 2011 at 11:32 AM #700990
    UCGal
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    My parents must have been from the same school as eaves’ and CAR’s…

    I knew from a young age that at 18 I had better be in school, full time, in a degree that would get me a job… or working. And if it was the latter, I could live at home, with rules, if I contributed to the household. Otherwise I could use my earnings to pay my own way.

    I chose the last option because I wasn’t ready for college. Best decision I ever made. Eventually I went to school, and my parents did help me with tuition/books. But there were strings attached.

    Prior to turning 18 – it was understood that chores came before fun. That was a non-negotiable. The line that all my friends were out playing didn’t cut it with my parents.

    Because of these chores and responsibilities my siblings and I were pretty self reliant when we moved out. We could all cook, change oil on a car, knew basic sewing (mending), knew how to do laundry and cleaning, could do basic repairs… (chores incorporated all these things.).

    I’m raising my kids with the same expectations. And they’re getting one more lesson – care for elderly family. We take care of my in-laws… and the boys are part of that process… helping their grandmother with her trash, keeping an eye on grandpa if she needs some time to get stuff done, etc.

    I won’t kick my kids out if they are contributing to the household. I’ll do it in a heartbeat if they start acting entitled to life on a silver platter. I’m fine with multi-generational family. But, IMO, if parents do their job right, the kids *want* to move out at some point to try life outside the nest. My job as a parent is to give them the skills and motivation to survive on their own. If they’re sitting at home, while I shelter, feed, do laundry… practically wipe their butt – I’m not doing my job.

    As far as 18 being an arbitrary age… Yes… but it’s the age you can *legally* kick them out if they don’t follow the household rules.

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