I honestly don’t think it’s limited to Asian culture. My dad was extremely strict w/us. He would not allow sleepovers or playdates. Unheard of. He was dictatorial. No way would there be any sports. We were supposed to study. We were not allowed to date while in high school. My dad was very old school Italian. We grew up resenting him. I couldn’t wait until I was 18 so I could move out, which I did.
I know a few Asian people. One woman from Singapore fits the description in the article. She is running her children’s lives. They have absolutely no autonomy. They would be lost w/out her. She made herself indispensible. They have no thought of their own. While they do good in schools, they do not get straight As. They are like robots.
As for her behavior, it is so stereotypical that you have to laugh. One child was forced to play the violin. Two of the children are studying Chinese. She HAS to live in a new McMansion in 4S Ranch. They have to have new cars every 2 years and they must be high-end vehicles. Even the child old enough to drive has a new car. She divorced her first husband who was in sales so she can upgrade to someone who has a PhD.
Now does this translate to happiness? Every time I see her, she is miserable. The most unhappy person I’ve ever met. She is always stressed. She complains about struggling financially, clearly b/c she is living way beyond her means, even w/her 6 figure husband. She makes everyone around her miserable w/her yelling and complaining. She calls the shots about everything and the burden of this pressure is crushing her psyche. She has NO friends. She is competing w/everyone, but I NEVER see her socialize, not even at work. She is very solitary.
Whenever I read crap like this I just remember that most of the people I knew with parent like her are usually the most fVcked up, unhappy people I know.
My first gf (white) had parents like this, she is now a porn star. I suppose if it really is all about the money then maybe she is successful, but I dont really think so. I doubt her ‘chinese’ mother does either.
Stardivarius
I havent seen you post around hear so welcome. Its great to learn we have another great mind and well rounded Pigg amongst us. You sound like you had a great Mom. While you dont need to be told this, cherish her always!
sdr
Whenever I read crap like this I just remember that most of the people I knew with parent like her are usually the most fVcked up, unhappy people I know.
My first gf (white) had parents like this, she is now a porn star. I suppose if it really is all about the money then maybe she is successful, but I dont really think so. I doubt her ‘chinese’ mother does either.
Stardivarius
I havent seen you post around hear so welcome. Its great to learn we have another great mind and well rounded Pigg amongst us. You sound like you had a great Mom. While you dont need to be told this, cherish her always!
sdr
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