ot. what do adult kids owe parents if anything.

[FlyerInHi]

I meant adult kids.
Needy, demanding kids and parents create their own problems.

We have enough issues in the world already. No need to manufacture family issues.

I was a good kid growing up. Was not demanding even with food. Ate and liked everything that was served me with certain preferences of course. But never threw tamper tantrums and picked food out of my plate.

[NotCranky]

I agree with the “strange unit” concept. So when a potential new family member comes along It’s like star trek where they find new classes of beings, but somehow find ways of coexisting.

I think our kids should eventually resent us, if for nothing else, guiding them into at least 12 years of public school, or even private….I mean they deserve to take some time and say WTF did you do that to me for? Also for bitching about what they eat all the time or judging them for their stupid kid hobbies and elective interests that are never the ones we want them to take up. Pokemon cards, giving me a break! I am going to coach them in hating me in hopes that it helps them get through it sooner rather than later.

[NotCranky]

[quote=FlyerInHi]I meant adult kids.
Needy, demanding kids and parents create their own problems.

We have enough issues in the world already. No need to manufacture family issues.

I was a good kid growing up. Was not demanding even with food. Ate and liked everything that was served me with certain preferences of course. But never threw tamper tantrums and picked food out of my plate.[/quote]

I rocked the boat in the family I married into twice. Once really meant nothing in the end, once was very regrettable and my wife jumped in on my side, but over with now. None of my in-laws ever rock the boat much. Yeah, there is a lot of enabling in relationships , that’s not always a bad thing, you are blending human strengths and human weaknesses of people, you are not equal in all capacities. You can learn and grow from each other too. Not always the case, but it happens. I learn things as father that help me overcome weaknesses in my person that I would have never learned any other way. I will be reincarnated in a superior form due to having been a long term husband and father.

I could see someone really teaching you a lot , B.

[scaredyclassic]

[quote=FlyerInHi]I meant adult kids.
Needy, demanding kids and parents create their own problems.

We have enough issues in the world already. No need to manufacture family issues.

I was a good kid growing up. Was not demanding even with food. Ate and liked everything that was served me with certain preferences of course. But never threw tamper tantrums and picked food out of my plate.[/quote]

your very existence involves demanding neediness.

[FlyerInHi]

[quote=scaredyclassic]your very existence involves demanding neediness.[/quote]

yes, we maybe a bundle of nerves, but we have logic and reason.

Adults are not children. They shouldn’t throw little fits like teenagers.

[FlyerInHi]

[quote=Blogstar]

I could see someone really teaching you a lot , B.[/quote]

Over the years, I’ve learned to be more logical, detached and impassive. I don’t want to unlearn.

I’m also more empathetic, but at a distance. I don’t want craziness in my life.

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