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October 12, 2014 at 1:42 PM #778608October 12, 2014 at 1:43 PM #778609
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ParticipantNow that I ponder it I’m thinking maybe there is an absolute scale.
We just get desperate and sometimes mismatch.
October 12, 2014 at 1:49 PM #778610Participant[quote=njtosd][quote=Blogstar]
You don’t get it, Brian. I knew you wouldn’t. NO 4 EVER MARRIES AN 8….EVER. No 8 EVER MARRIES A 4.
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None of you get it. There is no absolute scale – to each his own. Hopefully you’ve all found people who’ve made you happy (and hopefully kev374 will as well, although he needs to mentally cut this one loose and move on). You guys (and from what I’ve seen of this discussion, it’s mostly guys) should skip the ego trip and spend more time figuring out what makes you happy. Hopefully you don’t discover that happiness is having a vacuous but well turned out wife on your arm, but I guess “to each his own is beautiful” – thanks to scaredy for that full quote – hadn’t ever heard it before. Life’s too short to spend it trying to impress others.[/quote]
I don’t think I said that. I do think some people are much better at spotting value in the gene pool than others. I’d say my wife is a much better reproduce than she might seem. Dogged, smart, good birther, loyal.
October 12, 2014 at 1:57 PM #778611FlyerInHi
GuestSome people may value kindness over beauty or intelligence. So the resulting index would differ.
Are there universal criticia of valuation? And are we all rational in the valuation process, if there even is such.
October 12, 2014 at 2:44 PM #778612zk
Participant[quote=FlyerInHi] Anyway, I choose to see her side rather than just reduce her situation to that of a kept woman.
She’s very intelligent and capable. I thInk her intrinsic worth is quite high.[/quote]
Choosing to see it doesn’t make it true.
October 12, 2014 at 2:48 PM #778613GuestWe all choose our reality. That’s why there’s always someone for everyone.
October 12, 2014 at 3:22 PM #778615Participant[quote=FlyerInHi]We all choose our reality. That’s why there’s always someone for everyone.[/quote]
Oh there’s a number all right.
In the same way we actually cannot just be whatever we want, we cannot have whoever we want.
October 12, 2014 at 3:24 PM #778616Participant[quote=FlyerInHi]We all choose our reality. That’s why there’s always someone for everyone.[/quote]
Reality actually chooses us in regard to mating.
October 12, 2014 at 3:25 PM #778617Participant[quote=FlyerInHi]We all choose our reality. That’s why there’s always someone for everyone.[/quote]
In the old days matchmakers sorted through the numbers …now we have delusional buyers and sellers
October 12, 2014 at 4:04 PM #778619GuestI agree with you scaredy.
Too complex. I need help sorting it out. When is your website up? I want to enter my data and get my rating.
October 12, 2014 at 4:04 PM #778618flyer
ParticipantNot all beautiful women are vacuous gold diggers, just as not all handsome men are shallow trophy wife collectors, and I have to agree, to each his/her own when choosing a partner for all of the right
reasons–love, happiness, achieving life goals, etc., etc.The wedding, the ring, the fabulous honeymoon, the great house, and all of the “stuff” are nice, and we’ve all been there, but, IMO, what makes the relationship lasting and beautiful is the deeper bond that’s been forged by things that money can’t buy.
October 12, 2014 at 4:15 PM #778620Participant[quote=flyer]Not all beautiful women are vacuous gold diggers, just as not all handsome men are shallow trophy wife collectors, and I have to agree, to each his/her own when choosing a partner for all of the right
reasons–love, happiness, achieving life goals, etc., etc.The wedding, the ring, the fabulous honeymoon, the great house, and all of the “stuff” are nice, and we’ve all been there, but, IMO, what makes the relationship lasting and beautiful is the deeper bond that’s been forged by things that money can’t buy.[/quote]
We choose in part on an irrational level. The numbers lie deep in our DNA: a certain curve …A certain expression. A man’s knees. A tone. A certain beard and we are off to the races.
We are all songbirds in the spring…
October 12, 2014 at 4:16 PM #778621ParticipantFrankly I am amazed at how pretty and smart my kids girlfriend is…
October 12, 2014 at 4:50 PM #778622GuestI think the life of Bob McDonnell, the former governor of VA is very illustrative to this conversation.
A handsome telegenic guy who could become president. A wife who didn’t age so well, but who apparently had it all. Yet she wanted luxury accessories and an expensive wedding for her daughter. She compromised her family so that her husband could borrow a luxury car and wear a lousy low-end Rolex watch.
Sad ending? Or well-deserved comeuppance?
October 12, 2014 at 5:03 PM #778623Participant[quote=FlyerInHi]We all choose our reality. That’s why there’s always someone for everyone.[/quote]
Nonsense. We don’t choose our reality. Unless we’re schizophrenic. And even in that case, we don’t really choose it. Except maybe on a subconscious level. In any case, the schizophrenic’s chosen reality is “his” reality, but it’s not reality.
You can make things happen and change some things. But most of reality is outside your control. And it’s reality, whether you choose it or not.
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