OT: Engagement Rings

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Maybe that’s why the female Piggs find your posts so offensive, dave. You’re generalizing based on the people **you** seem to associate with. That has nothing to do with how real, quality women behave. Most women are not gold-diggers.

I’m going to have to have my head examined after this because I am actually going to defend davelj here..

First off, I don’t want the Piggington women to take what I am saying badly. Right off the bat, I have to say that women, who don’t get into shopping and yield to all that merchandising crap, are actually a ‘pretty rare breed’ (don’t feel bad about it, it puts you in more rarefied company). This can be demonstrated that the merchandising effort targeting women still continues (men are targeted far less). Women, who are ‘gold diggers’ and those that are nearly so, don’t make it obvious when in good company (It would scare off the men and women friends of men would notify their guy friends to stay away from these women. It is also perceived as being in bad taste.). The truth only comes out after knowing someone for a while.

If you still think that there are many women such as the ‘Piggington’ women, remember your mother-in-law:

As for me, my mother-in-law (big consumer-type who really likes fancy labels and thinks love is shown in the price tags of gifts) made my husband buy a ring and made us have a traditional wedding.

that’s pretty close to home for it to be a rare occurrence.

This doesn’t mean that davelj doesn’t get misogynistic at times though..

[Diego Mamani]

[quote=davelj]while receiving nothing of equal value in return[/quote]

Are you kidding? You are buying an option! Anthropology is a great field, but you need to talk to an economist about things of value (they are fellow social scientists, after all).

What really bothers me is that women still expect to receive diamonds, even though we know that the diamond trade generates a whole deal of violence in Africa. Teenaged boys (sometimes women and girls too) are mutilated or killed, entire populations are displaced, weak governments finally collapse and chaos ensues, etc., etc.

Isn’t it time girls say, “hey, to hell with tradition, I don’t want a gift that causes so much blooshed”?

[Diego Mamani]

[quote=davelj]while receiving nothing of equal value in return[/quote]

Are you kidding? You are buying an option! Anthropology is a great field, but you need to talk to an economist about things of value (they are fellow social scientists, after all).

What really bothers me is that women still expect to receive diamonds, even though we know that the diamond trade generates a whole deal of violence in Africa. Teenaged boys (sometimes women and girls too) are mutilated or killed, entire populations are displaced, weak governments finally collapse and chaos ensues, etc., etc.

Isn’t it time girls say, “hey, to hell with tradition, I don’t want a gift that causes so much blooshed”?

[Diego Mamani]

[quote=davelj]while receiving nothing of equal value in return[/quote]

Are you kidding? You are buying an option! Anthropology is a great field, but you need to talk to an economist about things of value (they are fellow social scientists, after all).

What really bothers me is that women still expect to receive diamonds, even though we know that the diamond trade generates a whole deal of violence in Africa. Teenaged boys (sometimes women and girls too) are mutilated or killed, entire populations are displaced, weak governments finally collapse and chaos ensues, etc., etc.

Isn’t it time girls say, “hey, to hell with tradition, I don’t want a gift that causes so much blooshed”?

[Diego Mamani]

[quote=davelj]while receiving nothing of equal value in return[/quote]

Are you kidding? You are buying an option! Anthropology is a great field, but you need to talk to an economist about things of value (they are fellow social scientists, after all).

What really bothers me is that women still expect to receive diamonds, even though we know that the diamond trade generates a whole deal of violence in Africa. Teenaged boys (sometimes women and girls too) are mutilated or killed, entire populations are displaced, weak governments finally collapse and chaos ensues, etc., etc.

Isn’t it time girls say, “hey, to hell with tradition, I don’t want a gift that causes so much blooshed”?

[Diego Mamani]

[quote=davelj]while receiving nothing of equal value in return[/quote]

Are you kidding? You are buying an option! Anthropology is a great field, but you need to talk to an economist about things of value (they are fellow social scientists, after all).

What really bothers me is that women still expect to receive diamonds, even though we know that the diamond trade generates a whole deal of violence in Africa. Teenaged boys (sometimes women and girls too) are mutilated or killed, entire populations are displaced, weak governments finally collapse and chaos ensues, etc., etc.

Isn’t it time girls say, “hey, to hell with tradition, I don’t want a gift that causes so much blooshed”?

[scaredyclassic]

a big gold brick would be a much better marriage gift than a diamond. More desirable brides would get bigger bricks.

[scaredyclassic]

a big gold brick would be a much better marriage gift than a diamond. More desirable brides would get bigger bricks.

[scaredyclassic]

a big gold brick would be a much better marriage gift than a diamond. More desirable brides would get bigger bricks.

[scaredyclassic]

a big gold brick would be a much better marriage gift than a diamond. More desirable brides would get bigger bricks.

[scaredyclassic]

a big gold brick would be a much better marriage gift than a diamond. More desirable brides would get bigger bricks.

[UCGal]

I offered to buy one for my husband. He declined.
He did accept the fact that I wanted a sapphire rather than a diamond (my birthstone is sapphire.) It was WAAAY cheaper because of this. (We knew we were going to get married from about date 3 or 4… Just waited a decent time to make sure.)

I would have been fine with no ring. That said – I wear my engagement ring fulltime… It’s silly sentimental. I’ve been wearing it for more than 10 years. It’s stupid, but it reminds me of our bond every time I look at it. Sappy, I know. And I’m not the sappy type.

I’m curious Dave… how old are you?
My husband was a lifelong bachelor… He was 47 when we got married. He’d never been married… never fully committed to living with anyone prior – although he’d been “virtually” living with 2 long term girlfriends prior to me. (Serially, not parallel)

I was reasonably content being single too – I was 38 when we got married – first marriage for me. I’d wanted kids – but had pretty much put that aside by the time I met my husband.

We both had comfortable, happy lives as single people prior to marriage. That said – we’re happy together… although there’s less freedom post kids. But our kids are great and we have no regrets.

Dogs can learn new tricks… You never know. LOL.

[UCGal]

I offered to buy one for my husband. He declined.
He did accept the fact that I wanted a sapphire rather than a diamond (my birthstone is sapphire.) It was WAAAY cheaper because of this. (We knew we were going to get married from about date 3 or 4… Just waited a decent time to make sure.)

I would have been fine with no ring. That said – I wear my engagement ring fulltime… It’s silly sentimental. I’ve been wearing it for more than 10 years. It’s stupid, but it reminds me of our bond every time I look at it. Sappy, I know. And I’m not the sappy type.

I’m curious Dave… how old are you?
My husband was a lifelong bachelor… He was 47 when we got married. He’d never been married… never fully committed to living with anyone prior – although he’d been “virtually” living with 2 long term girlfriends prior to me. (Serially, not parallel)

I was reasonably content being single too – I was 38 when we got married – first marriage for me. I’d wanted kids – but had pretty much put that aside by the time I met my husband.

We both had comfortable, happy lives as single people prior to marriage. That said – we’re happy together… although there’s less freedom post kids. But our kids are great and we have no regrets.

Dogs can learn new tricks… You never know. LOL.

[UCGal]

I offered to buy one for my husband. He declined.
He did accept the fact that I wanted a sapphire rather than a diamond (my birthstone is sapphire.) It was WAAAY cheaper because of this. (We knew we were going to get married from about date 3 or 4… Just waited a decent time to make sure.)

I would have been fine with no ring. That said – I wear my engagement ring fulltime… It’s silly sentimental. I’ve been wearing it for more than 10 years. It’s stupid, but it reminds me of our bond every time I look at it. Sappy, I know. And I’m not the sappy type.

I’m curious Dave… how old are you?
My husband was a lifelong bachelor… He was 47 when we got married. He’d never been married… never fully committed to living with anyone prior – although he’d been “virtually” living with 2 long term girlfriends prior to me. (Serially, not parallel)

I was reasonably content being single too – I was 38 when we got married – first marriage for me. I’d wanted kids – but had pretty much put that aside by the time I met my husband.

We both had comfortable, happy lives as single people prior to marriage. That said – we’re happy together… although there’s less freedom post kids. But our kids are great and we have no regrets.

Dogs can learn new tricks… You never know. LOL.

[UCGal]

I offered to buy one for my husband. He declined.
He did accept the fact that I wanted a sapphire rather than a diamond (my birthstone is sapphire.) It was WAAAY cheaper because of this. (We knew we were going to get married from about date 3 or 4… Just waited a decent time to make sure.)

I would have been fine with no ring. That said – I wear my engagement ring fulltime… It’s silly sentimental. I’ve been wearing it for more than 10 years. It’s stupid, but it reminds me of our bond every time I look at it. Sappy, I know. And I’m not the sappy type.

I’m curious Dave… how old are you?
My husband was a lifelong bachelor… He was 47 when we got married. He’d never been married… never fully committed to living with anyone prior – although he’d been “virtually” living with 2 long term girlfriends prior to me. (Serially, not parallel)

I was reasonably content being single too – I was 38 when we got married – first marriage for me. I’d wanted kids – but had pretty much put that aside by the time I met my husband.

We both had comfortable, happy lives as single people prior to marriage. That said – we’re happy together… although there’s less freedom post kids. But our kids are great and we have no regrets.

Dogs can learn new tricks… You never know. LOL.

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