OT: Dating Someone with Children

[NotCranky]

Watch out! I got really attached to the mom and the kids for four years and then had to finally throw the towel on the mom and me.We were two idiots together. We did not marry though so that was good. It meant the end of pretty strong bonds with kids too. It was like breaking up with my family. Awful experience. Careful guys and gals. I think the kids are better of for knowing me because I treated them better than either of their biological parents did IMO.
Still it would probably have been better if she were a good single mom a la temeculaguy’s model.

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cheese, I wish we could just stick to housing and economics on this website, I suggest reading Dr. Laura for you, Marion.

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cheese, I wish we could just stick to housing and economics on this website, I suggest reading Dr. Laura for you, Marion.

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cheese, I wish we could just stick to housing and economics on this website, I suggest reading Dr. Laura for you, Marion.

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cheese, I wish we could just stick to housing and economics on this website, I suggest reading Dr. Laura for you, Marion.

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cheese, I wish we could just stick to housing and economics on this website, I suggest reading Dr. Laura for you, Marion.

[moneymaker]

Yes it is selfish! I could go on but why bother

[moneymaker]

Yes it is selfish! I could go on but why bother

[moneymaker]

Yes it is selfish! I could go on but why bother

[moneymaker]

Yes it is selfish! I could go on but why bother

[moneymaker]

Yes it is selfish! I could go on but why bother

[Anonymous]

I know it’s selfish.

I think out loud a lot. It tends to help clarify my thought on certain issues. Some of that thinking ends up in topics here on Piggington.

Cooperthedog, while I appreciate your perspective, your comment about me being anti-kid like davelj is incorrect. Raising 3 or 4, etc. with the two of my own would be a bit much for me right now. Hence my nervousness when I am approached by single dads. It’s normal. I was recently approached, he had 3 young kids. Honestly, I couldn’t deal. I would prefer to be cautious, thing things through thoroughly and identify my limitations than rush in and ruin somebody’s life.

bugs: Here’s the question you should be asking yourself – are you looking for a co-parent to help you raise your kids according to your shared values, or are you merely looking to fill a hole in your own personal life? If it’s the former then maybe you’ll have the interest to learn how to raise a blended family. If it’s the latter then bringing a guy into your household will only serve to divide your time and your loyalties to your own kids. You’d be doing everyone a huge favor by exercising some restraint.

I like what you had to say, Bugs and I agree completely. I HAVE asked myself that question, I just haven’t answered yet. 🙂

I actually like TG’s philosophy. Since my boys don’t see anyone I choose to date anyway unless it turns serious (and it hasn’t so far), I’m already living that philosophy. Like another poster pointed out, it does make sense.

I enjoy reading the different perspective on this topic.

[Anonymous]

I know it’s selfish.

I think out loud a lot. It tends to help clarify my thought on certain issues. Some of that thinking ends up in topics here on Piggington.

Cooperthedog, while I appreciate your perspective, your comment about me being anti-kid like davelj is incorrect. Raising 3 or 4, etc. with the two of my own would be a bit much for me right now. Hence my nervousness when I am approached by single dads. It’s normal. I was recently approached, he had 3 young kids. Honestly, I couldn’t deal. I would prefer to be cautious, thing things through thoroughly and identify my limitations than rush in and ruin somebody’s life.

bugs: Here’s the question you should be asking yourself – are you looking for a co-parent to help you raise your kids according to your shared values, or are you merely looking to fill a hole in your own personal life? If it’s the former then maybe you’ll have the interest to learn how to raise a blended family. If it’s the latter then bringing a guy into your household will only serve to divide your time and your loyalties to your own kids. You’d be doing everyone a huge favor by exercising some restraint.

I like what you had to say, Bugs and I agree completely. I HAVE asked myself that question, I just haven’t answered yet. 🙂

I actually like TG’s philosophy. Since my boys don’t see anyone I choose to date anyway unless it turns serious (and it hasn’t so far), I’m already living that philosophy. Like another poster pointed out, it does make sense.

I enjoy reading the different perspective on this topic.

[Anonymous]

I know it’s selfish.

I think out loud a lot. It tends to help clarify my thought on certain issues. Some of that thinking ends up in topics here on Piggington.

Cooperthedog, while I appreciate your perspective, your comment about me being anti-kid like davelj is incorrect. Raising 3 or 4, etc. with the two of my own would be a bit much for me right now. Hence my nervousness when I am approached by single dads. It’s normal. I was recently approached, he had 3 young kids. Honestly, I couldn’t deal. I would prefer to be cautious, thing things through thoroughly and identify my limitations than rush in and ruin somebody’s life.

bugs: Here’s the question you should be asking yourself – are you looking for a co-parent to help you raise your kids according to your shared values, or are you merely looking to fill a hole in your own personal life? If it’s the former then maybe you’ll have the interest to learn how to raise a blended family. If it’s the latter then bringing a guy into your household will only serve to divide your time and your loyalties to your own kids. You’d be doing everyone a huge favor by exercising some restraint.

I like what you had to say, Bugs and I agree completely. I HAVE asked myself that question, I just haven’t answered yet. 🙂

I actually like TG’s philosophy. Since my boys don’t see anyone I choose to date anyway unless it turns serious (and it hasn’t so far), I’m already living that philosophy. Like another poster pointed out, it does make sense.

I enjoy reading the different perspective on this topic.

[Anonymous]

I know it’s selfish.

I think out loud a lot. It tends to help clarify my thought on certain issues. Some of that thinking ends up in topics here on Piggington.

Cooperthedog, while I appreciate your perspective, your comment about me being anti-kid like davelj is incorrect. Raising 3 or 4, etc. with the two of my own would be a bit much for me right now. Hence my nervousness when I am approached by single dads. It’s normal. I was recently approached, he had 3 young kids. Honestly, I couldn’t deal. I would prefer to be cautious, thing things through thoroughly and identify my limitations than rush in and ruin somebody’s life.

bugs: Here’s the question you should be asking yourself – are you looking for a co-parent to help you raise your kids according to your shared values, or are you merely looking to fill a hole in your own personal life? If it’s the former then maybe you’ll have the interest to learn how to raise a blended family. If it’s the latter then bringing a guy into your household will only serve to divide your time and your loyalties to your own kids. You’d be doing everyone a huge favor by exercising some restraint.

I like what you had to say, Bugs and I agree completely. I HAVE asked myself that question, I just haven’t answered yet. 🙂

I actually like TG’s philosophy. Since my boys don’t see anyone I choose to date anyway unless it turns serious (and it hasn’t so far), I’m already living that philosophy. Like another poster pointed out, it does make sense.

I enjoy reading the different perspective on this topic.

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