looking for advice

[scaredyclassic]

dear manu.

I don’t know what the right thing to do is. I can tell you that this is more than a strict financial issue in some ways. My wife is a doctor. We have a bunch of kids. We have kind fo struggled along raising them and figuring out what our priorities are, lifestyle-wise, etc. I can tell you that for us, renting is the best mental deal. Without children, there really is nopoint to having so much house, in my opinion. Our house now is still tiny–and most of our kids end up sleeping on our floor by the end of the night after wandering in. we often joke we could live ina one room house. that’s a bit of an exaggeration, but really, you guys could be happy in many different places. To me, doctoring is hard, hard work, and you may want to take a break from it t one point, like my wife…just cause you can “make” the payments doesn’t mean that you want to work like a dog every month for the remainder of your existence here on earth. There is a lot to be said for living way wya way below your means, incluing your house payment, simply because of the freedome it affords you psychologically. You don’t feel like you are completely tied to your current situaiton in such an endless way. now this may not apply to you. there are plenty of doctors and lawyers who work work work and never look back. But I wouldn’t be surprised if the medical biz doesn’t wear you down after a while. particularly if you have childre, you will probably want to slow down. there is no reaon you couldn’t be extremely happy in a house that goes for 1.5 times your salaries, or even less…this is justa thought. I dont relaly know what this house “means” to you–whether the house itself is like some downpayment ona future happy family life. but the work the hassle, and worst of all, at leats for me, the financial uncertainty of what’s coming up aroun the bend, well, i just sleep better not being invovled in the real estate market lately and in the near future. i would like to buya place,if the paymetns feel right, and the situaiton feels just right. i know a grinding comute would NEVER feel right to me, at least. My opnion, based on what ir ea dhere,is to dump the place, even if you ahd to take a small loss. just my sense,basedon very limited info. dont know if this has any value at all for you,a nd I dont mean it in any kinds of mean way.

Drink Heavily.

[scaredyclassic]

dear manu.

I don’t know what the right thing to do is. I can tell you that this is more than a strict financial issue in some ways. My wife is a doctor. We have a bunch of kids. We have kind fo struggled along raising them and figuring out what our priorities are, lifestyle-wise, etc. I can tell you that for us, renting is the best mental deal. Without children, there really is nopoint to having so much house, in my opinion. Our house now is still tiny–and most of our kids end up sleeping on our floor by the end of the night after wandering in. we often joke we could live ina one room house. that’s a bit of an exaggeration, but really, you guys could be happy in many different places. To me, doctoring is hard, hard work, and you may want to take a break from it t one point, like my wife…just cause you can “make” the payments doesn’t mean that you want to work like a dog every month for the remainder of your existence here on earth. There is a lot to be said for living way wya way below your means, incluing your house payment, simply because of the freedome it affords you psychologically. You don’t feel like you are completely tied to your current situaiton in such an endless way. now this may not apply to you. there are plenty of doctors and lawyers who work work work and never look back. But I wouldn’t be surprised if the medical biz doesn’t wear you down after a while. particularly if you have childre, you will probably want to slow down. there is no reaon you couldn’t be extremely happy in a house that goes for 1.5 times your salaries, or even less…this is justa thought. I dont relaly know what this house “means” to you–whether the house itself is like some downpayment ona future happy family life. but the work the hassle, and worst of all, at leats for me, the financial uncertainty of what’s coming up aroun the bend, well, i just sleep better not being invovled in the real estate market lately and in the near future. i would like to buya place,if the paymetns feel right, and the situaiton feels just right. i know a grinding comute would NEVER feel right to me, at least. My opnion, based on what ir ea dhere,is to dump the place, even if you ahd to take a small loss. just my sense,basedon very limited info. dont know if this has any value at all for you,a nd I dont mean it in any kinds of mean way.

Drink Heavily.

[scaredyclassic]

dear manu.

I don’t know what the right thing to do is. I can tell you that this is more than a strict financial issue in some ways. My wife is a doctor. We have a bunch of kids. We have kind fo struggled along raising them and figuring out what our priorities are, lifestyle-wise, etc. I can tell you that for us, renting is the best mental deal. Without children, there really is nopoint to having so much house, in my opinion. Our house now is still tiny–and most of our kids end up sleeping on our floor by the end of the night after wandering in. we often joke we could live ina one room house. that’s a bit of an exaggeration, but really, you guys could be happy in many different places. To me, doctoring is hard, hard work, and you may want to take a break from it t one point, like my wife…just cause you can “make” the payments doesn’t mean that you want to work like a dog every month for the remainder of your existence here on earth. There is a lot to be said for living way wya way below your means, incluing your house payment, simply because of the freedome it affords you psychologically. You don’t feel like you are completely tied to your current situaiton in such an endless way. now this may not apply to you. there are plenty of doctors and lawyers who work work work and never look back. But I wouldn’t be surprised if the medical biz doesn’t wear you down after a while. particularly if you have childre, you will probably want to slow down. there is no reaon you couldn’t be extremely happy in a house that goes for 1.5 times your salaries, or even less…this is justa thought. I dont relaly know what this house “means” to you–whether the house itself is like some downpayment ona future happy family life. but the work the hassle, and worst of all, at leats for me, the financial uncertainty of what’s coming up aroun the bend, well, i just sleep better not being invovled in the real estate market lately and in the near future. i would like to buya place,if the paymetns feel right, and the situaiton feels just right. i know a grinding comute would NEVER feel right to me, at least. My opnion, based on what ir ea dhere,is to dump the place, even if you ahd to take a small loss. just my sense,basedon very limited info. dont know if this has any value at all for you,a nd I dont mean it in any kinds of mean way.

Drink Heavily.

[scaredyclassic]

dear manu.

I don’t know what the right thing to do is. I can tell you that this is more than a strict financial issue in some ways. My wife is a doctor. We have a bunch of kids. We have kind fo struggled along raising them and figuring out what our priorities are, lifestyle-wise, etc. I can tell you that for us, renting is the best mental deal. Without children, there really is nopoint to having so much house, in my opinion. Our house now is still tiny–and most of our kids end up sleeping on our floor by the end of the night after wandering in. we often joke we could live ina one room house. that’s a bit of an exaggeration, but really, you guys could be happy in many different places. To me, doctoring is hard, hard work, and you may want to take a break from it t one point, like my wife…just cause you can “make” the payments doesn’t mean that you want to work like a dog every month for the remainder of your existence here on earth. There is a lot to be said for living way wya way below your means, incluing your house payment, simply because of the freedome it affords you psychologically. You don’t feel like you are completely tied to your current situaiton in such an endless way. now this may not apply to you. there are plenty of doctors and lawyers who work work work and never look back. But I wouldn’t be surprised if the medical biz doesn’t wear you down after a while. particularly if you have childre, you will probably want to slow down. there is no reaon you couldn’t be extremely happy in a house that goes for 1.5 times your salaries, or even less…this is justa thought. I dont relaly know what this house “means” to you–whether the house itself is like some downpayment ona future happy family life. but the work the hassle, and worst of all, at leats for me, the financial uncertainty of what’s coming up aroun the bend, well, i just sleep better not being invovled in the real estate market lately and in the near future. i would like to buya place,if the paymetns feel right, and the situaiton feels just right. i know a grinding comute would NEVER feel right to me, at least. My opnion, based on what ir ea dhere,is to dump the place, even if you ahd to take a small loss. just my sense,basedon very limited info. dont know if this has any value at all for you,a nd I dont mean it in any kinds of mean way.

Drink Heavily.

[manu]

dear publicdefender,
you totally got it!!! This is the answer I was looking for.
I feel exactly the way you are saying.
I realized after living in this Country for 3 years that I don`t need that much to live. When I first moved here I was so excited about this new experience abroad, being able to be with my husband full time after living apart for years, getting married. Well I was so excited that all the consumistic approach to life that you breath all over USA just got to me in a moment of euphoria.
Everybody was living the American dream, my husband could afford to upgrade and soon I was going to make big money too so we figured “why not?”.
But I come from Europe where, as everybody knows, people live all their lives in the smallest places because of prices and overpopulation, even the rich. My husband grew up really poor so was forced to live the same way.
We don`t need all this, expecially all the headaches that come with it.
I am really convinced that I want to sell this house, even at a loss. I am sure whatever we loose we can make back in a few years if even.
The problem is that my husband is too busy with his job and has no clue about what it is going on and would not sell at a loss.
The worst part is that he bought this place for me because he though it was my dream house and now I am asking him to sell at a loss after all the trouble of the remodelling and the money we spent in it. He thinks I am totally delusional!
He listened to me the first time and we had this terrible time with the house and now I am asking for something that sounds even worse!
It is really hard to push the subject because tecnically he is the business man and he feels he knows better and he doesn`t listen!
Also most of our relationship problems have been caused by the fact that we never seem to agree on anything so I really have to be diplomatic and gentle without forcing the discussion.
We have been talking about selling from the beginning but he is a perfectionist and would not feel like the house was ever ready for market..and there goes another project!!
Until I started to work last year and all the projects got to a forced end (I was the only one dealing with contractors) and we haven`t talked about selling because we got too busy with each others work and interpersonal problems.
Last september, after finding this site I brought that up again and only now I have some more flexible schedule and I can arrange for us to see realtors.
After we talked to the realtor yesterday I think he has a better idea about how bad the market got. I am hoping he will be more open for discussion.
We just met with another one today.
He knew our house as he previewed before we bought it. He sold the house next door in 2005 for 1650000.
That house is sort of comparable in size but has no views which really are the selling point for our house, no horse facility, one less garage and half of the usable lot we have.
He came, looked around, was very impressed with the work we had done. He is going to let me know on Saturday what he thinks we should market it for.
I just want to get the house on the market as soon as possible…as long as my husband lets me to.

Thanks again for your sinceer answer

Manu

[manu]

dear publicdefender,
you totally got it!!! This is the answer I was looking for.
I feel exactly the way you are saying.
I realized after living in this Country for 3 years that I don`t need that much to live. When I first moved here I was so excited about this new experience abroad, being able to be with my husband full time after living apart for years, getting married. Well I was so excited that all the consumistic approach to life that you breath all over USA just got to me in a moment of euphoria.
Everybody was living the American dream, my husband could afford to upgrade and soon I was going to make big money too so we figured “why not?”.
But I come from Europe where, as everybody knows, people live all their lives in the smallest places because of prices and overpopulation, even the rich. My husband grew up really poor so was forced to live the same way.
We don`t need all this, expecially all the headaches that come with it.
I am really convinced that I want to sell this house, even at a loss. I am sure whatever we loose we can make back in a few years if even.
The problem is that my husband is too busy with his job and has no clue about what it is going on and would not sell at a loss.
The worst part is that he bought this place for me because he though it was my dream house and now I am asking him to sell at a loss after all the trouble of the remodelling and the money we spent in it. He thinks I am totally delusional!
He listened to me the first time and we had this terrible time with the house and now I am asking for something that sounds even worse!
It is really hard to push the subject because tecnically he is the business man and he feels he knows better and he doesn`t listen!
Also most of our relationship problems have been caused by the fact that we never seem to agree on anything so I really have to be diplomatic and gentle without forcing the discussion.
We have been talking about selling from the beginning but he is a perfectionist and would not feel like the house was ever ready for market..and there goes another project!!
Until I started to work last year and all the projects got to a forced end (I was the only one dealing with contractors) and we haven`t talked about selling because we got too busy with each others work and interpersonal problems.
Last september, after finding this site I brought that up again and only now I have some more flexible schedule and I can arrange for us to see realtors.
After we talked to the realtor yesterday I think he has a better idea about how bad the market got. I am hoping he will be more open for discussion.
We just met with another one today.
He knew our house as he previewed before we bought it. He sold the house next door in 2005 for 1650000.
That house is sort of comparable in size but has no views which really are the selling point for our house, no horse facility, one less garage and half of the usable lot we have.
He came, looked around, was very impressed with the work we had done. He is going to let me know on Saturday what he thinks we should market it for.
I just want to get the house on the market as soon as possible…as long as my husband lets me to.

Thanks again for your sinceer answer

Manu

[manu]

dear publicdefender,
you totally got it!!! This is the answer I was looking for.
I feel exactly the way you are saying.
I realized after living in this Country for 3 years that I don`t need that much to live. When I first moved here I was so excited about this new experience abroad, being able to be with my husband full time after living apart for years, getting married. Well I was so excited that all the consumistic approach to life that you breath all over USA just got to me in a moment of euphoria.
Everybody was living the American dream, my husband could afford to upgrade and soon I was going to make big money too so we figured “why not?”.
But I come from Europe where, as everybody knows, people live all their lives in the smallest places because of prices and overpopulation, even the rich. My husband grew up really poor so was forced to live the same way.
We don`t need all this, expecially all the headaches that come with it.
I am really convinced that I want to sell this house, even at a loss. I am sure whatever we loose we can make back in a few years if even.
The problem is that my husband is too busy with his job and has no clue about what it is going on and would not sell at a loss.
The worst part is that he bought this place for me because he though it was my dream house and now I am asking him to sell at a loss after all the trouble of the remodelling and the money we spent in it. He thinks I am totally delusional!
He listened to me the first time and we had this terrible time with the house and now I am asking for something that sounds even worse!
It is really hard to push the subject because tecnically he is the business man and he feels he knows better and he doesn`t listen!
Also most of our relationship problems have been caused by the fact that we never seem to agree on anything so I really have to be diplomatic and gentle without forcing the discussion.
We have been talking about selling from the beginning but he is a perfectionist and would not feel like the house was ever ready for market..and there goes another project!!
Until I started to work last year and all the projects got to a forced end (I was the only one dealing with contractors) and we haven`t talked about selling because we got too busy with each others work and interpersonal problems.
Last september, after finding this site I brought that up again and only now I have some more flexible schedule and I can arrange for us to see realtors.
After we talked to the realtor yesterday I think he has a better idea about how bad the market got. I am hoping he will be more open for discussion.
We just met with another one today.
He knew our house as he previewed before we bought it. He sold the house next door in 2005 for 1650000.
That house is sort of comparable in size but has no views which really are the selling point for our house, no horse facility, one less garage and half of the usable lot we have.
He came, looked around, was very impressed with the work we had done. He is going to let me know on Saturday what he thinks we should market it for.
I just want to get the house on the market as soon as possible…as long as my husband lets me to.

Thanks again for your sinceer answer

Manu

[manu]

dear publicdefender,
you totally got it!!! This is the answer I was looking for.
I feel exactly the way you are saying.
I realized after living in this Country for 3 years that I don`t need that much to live. When I first moved here I was so excited about this new experience abroad, being able to be with my husband full time after living apart for years, getting married. Well I was so excited that all the consumistic approach to life that you breath all over USA just got to me in a moment of euphoria.
Everybody was living the American dream, my husband could afford to upgrade and soon I was going to make big money too so we figured “why not?”.
But I come from Europe where, as everybody knows, people live all their lives in the smallest places because of prices and overpopulation, even the rich. My husband grew up really poor so was forced to live the same way.
We don`t need all this, expecially all the headaches that come with it.
I am really convinced that I want to sell this house, even at a loss. I am sure whatever we loose we can make back in a few years if even.
The problem is that my husband is too busy with his job and has no clue about what it is going on and would not sell at a loss.
The worst part is that he bought this place for me because he though it was my dream house and now I am asking him to sell at a loss after all the trouble of the remodelling and the money we spent in it. He thinks I am totally delusional!
He listened to me the first time and we had this terrible time with the house and now I am asking for something that sounds even worse!
It is really hard to push the subject because tecnically he is the business man and he feels he knows better and he doesn`t listen!
Also most of our relationship problems have been caused by the fact that we never seem to agree on anything so I really have to be diplomatic and gentle without forcing the discussion.
We have been talking about selling from the beginning but he is a perfectionist and would not feel like the house was ever ready for market..and there goes another project!!
Until I started to work last year and all the projects got to a forced end (I was the only one dealing with contractors) and we haven`t talked about selling because we got too busy with each others work and interpersonal problems.
Last september, after finding this site I brought that up again and only now I have some more flexible schedule and I can arrange for us to see realtors.
After we talked to the realtor yesterday I think he has a better idea about how bad the market got. I am hoping he will be more open for discussion.
We just met with another one today.
He knew our house as he previewed before we bought it. He sold the house next door in 2005 for 1650000.
That house is sort of comparable in size but has no views which really are the selling point for our house, no horse facility, one less garage and half of the usable lot we have.
He came, looked around, was very impressed with the work we had done. He is going to let me know on Saturday what he thinks we should market it for.
I just want to get the house on the market as soon as possible…as long as my husband lets me to.

Thanks again for your sinceer answer

Manu

[manu]

dear publicdefender,
you totally got it!!! This is the answer I was looking for.
I feel exactly the way you are saying.
I realized after living in this Country for 3 years that I don`t need that much to live. When I first moved here I was so excited about this new experience abroad, being able to be with my husband full time after living apart for years, getting married. Well I was so excited that all the consumistic approach to life that you breath all over USA just got to me in a moment of euphoria.
Everybody was living the American dream, my husband could afford to upgrade and soon I was going to make big money too so we figured “why not?”.
But I come from Europe where, as everybody knows, people live all their lives in the smallest places because of prices and overpopulation, even the rich. My husband grew up really poor so was forced to live the same way.
We don`t need all this, expecially all the headaches that come with it.
I am really convinced that I want to sell this house, even at a loss. I am sure whatever we loose we can make back in a few years if even.
The problem is that my husband is too busy with his job and has no clue about what it is going on and would not sell at a loss.
The worst part is that he bought this place for me because he though it was my dream house and now I am asking him to sell at a loss after all the trouble of the remodelling and the money we spent in it. He thinks I am totally delusional!
He listened to me the first time and we had this terrible time with the house and now I am asking for something that sounds even worse!
It is really hard to push the subject because tecnically he is the business man and he feels he knows better and he doesn`t listen!
Also most of our relationship problems have been caused by the fact that we never seem to agree on anything so I really have to be diplomatic and gentle without forcing the discussion.
We have been talking about selling from the beginning but he is a perfectionist and would not feel like the house was ever ready for market..and there goes another project!!
Until I started to work last year and all the projects got to a forced end (I was the only one dealing with contractors) and we haven`t talked about selling because we got too busy with each others work and interpersonal problems.
Last september, after finding this site I brought that up again and only now I have some more flexible schedule and I can arrange for us to see realtors.
After we talked to the realtor yesterday I think he has a better idea about how bad the market got. I am hoping he will be more open for discussion.
We just met with another one today.
He knew our house as he previewed before we bought it. He sold the house next door in 2005 for 1650000.
That house is sort of comparable in size but has no views which really are the selling point for our house, no horse facility, one less garage and half of the usable lot we have.
He came, looked around, was very impressed with the work we had done. He is going to let me know on Saturday what he thinks we should market it for.
I just want to get the house on the market as soon as possible…as long as my husband lets me to.

Thanks again for your sinceer answer

Manu

[scaredyclassic]

you totally got it!!!

HOW COME MY WIFE NEVER RESPONDS TO MY COMMENTS THIS WAY?

This is the answer I was looking for.
I feel exactly the way you are saying.
I realized after living in this Country for 3 years that I don`t need that much to live.

IT IS TERRIBLE IN MY OPINION THAT EVERYTHING IS MORE, MORE WORK, MORE MONEY, MORE STUFF…I LOOK AT PICTURES FROM POOR COUNTRIES, OF EMPTY ROOMS, OF SKINNY PEOPLE, AND THINK, GIVE ME A BIT MORE OF LESS. PLEASE. BUT IT’S DIFFICULT WHEN YOU LIVE INA PLACE WHERE EVERYONE IS INTO THE MAX. ITS HARD NOT TO EAT A LOT AT A BUFFET.

When I first moved here I was so excited about this new experience abroad, being able to be with my husband full time after living apart for years, getting married. Well I was so excited that all the consumistic approach to life that you breath all over USA just got to me in a moment of euphoria.

ITS LIKE A DRUG. I BELIEVE THAT CONSUMPTION, LIKE GAMBLING, IS AS MUCHA DRUG AS METH AND BOOZE AND CIGARETTES.

Everybody was living the American dream, my husband could afford to upgrade and soon I was going to make big money too so we figured “why not?”.

YES, I UNDERSTAND

But I come from Europe where, as everybody knows, people live all their lives in the smallest places because of prices and overpopulation, even the rich. My husband grew up really poor so was forced to live the same way.
We don`t need all this, expecially all the headaches that come with it.
I am really convinced that I want to sell this house, even at a loss. I am sure whatever we loose we can make back in a few years if even.

I DO KNOW THAT IN LIFE I GENERALLY DO THE RIGHT THING WHEN I FOLLOW MY GUT. NOT ALWAYS, BUT A LOT.

The problem is that my husband is too busy with his job and has no clue about what it is going on and would not sell at a loss.

WELL, YES. IT IS HARD TO LIVE WITH ANOTHER HUMAN.
The worst part is that he bought this place for me because he though it was my dream house and now I am asking him to sell at a loss after all the trouble of the remodelling and the money we spent in it. He thinks I am totally delusional!

IF I WERE HIM, I WOULD PROBABLY BE PRETTY PISSED AT YOU! I KNOW I HAVE BEEN THROUGH SIMILAR THINGS WITH MY WIFE — BUT HONEY YOUS AID THIS IS WHAT YOU WANTED –WHY DO YOU PERSIST IN BEING UNHAPPY? HE’LL GET USED TO IT. HE HASNT BEEN MARRIED THAT LONG…

He listened to me the first time and we had this terrible time with the house and now I am asking for something that sounds even worse!

LIFE IS NUTS ISN’T IT? THE OTHER SIDE OF THE COIN THOUGH IS RATHER THAN BEING MUDDLE HEADED OR FLIP-FLOPPING, I THINK THERE IS GREAT CHARACTER STRENGTH IN BEING ABLE TO CHANGE ONE’S MIND.
It is really hard to push the subject because tecnically he is the business man and he feels he knows better and he doesn`t listen!

WELL, HE IS THE MAN.
Also most of our relationship problems have been caused by the fact that we never seem to agree on anything so I really have to be diplomatic and gentle without forcing the discussion.

YOU ARE THE EXACT OPPOSITE OF MY WIFE. MAYBE YOU CAN SET UPA CONSULT WITH EHR AND SHE CAN SHOW YOU HOW TO TAKE COMPLETE CHARGE FO THE WHOLE SITUATION…
We have been talking about selling from the beginning but he is a perfectionist and would not feel like the house was ever ready for market..and there goes another project!!

HMM… WEIRD…

Until I started to work last year and all the projects got to a forced end (I was the only one dealing with contractors) and we haven`t talked about selling because we got too busy with each others work and interpersonal problems.

IT GETS ABOUT 16.4 TIMES WORSE WITH THE INTRODUCTION OF EACH CHILD. AFTER 2, EVERYTHING COMPLETELY IMPLODES.
Last september, after finding this site I brought that up again and only now I have some more flexible schedule and I can arrange for us to see realtors.
After we talked to the realtor yesterday I think he has a better idea about how bad the market got. I am hoping he will be more open for discussion.

WELL, IF YOU LIST AT A PRICE WHERE YOU DON’T LOSE MONEY, HE CAN’T COMPLAIN TOO MUCH ABOUT THAT. THEN YOU CAN GRADUALLY TALK HIM INTO A LOSS IF THAT’S WHAT YOUD EICED WHAT YOUW ANT TO DO. TRY TO TALK HIM INTO THE PRINCIPLE OF SELLING FIRST, IF THATS YOUR GOAL

We just met with another one today.
He knew our house as he previewed before we bought it. He sold the house next door in 2005 for 1650000.
That house is sort of comparable in size but has no views which really are the selling point for our house, no horse facility, one less garage and half of the usable lot we have.
He came, looked around, was very impressed with the work we had done. He is going to let me know on Saturday what he thinks we should market it for.
I just want to get the house on the market as soon as possible…as long as my husband lets me to.

TELL HIM, WHAT HAVE WE GOT TO LOSE? WE’LL SEE IF IT’S POSSIBLE TO SELL. IF HE HAS NO OFFERS AT THE START PRICE, IT MAY MAKE HIM REEVALUATE WHAT’S GOING ON. OR NOT. I THINK YOU GUYS SHOUDL BE LIVING IN A TINY LITTLE PLACE REQUIRING NO WORK AND SHOULD BE HAVING AS MUCH SEX AS HUMANLY POSSIBLE, TO STORE IT UP FOR THE LEAN YEARS WHEN THERE ARE A BUNCH OF KIDS DRAPED AROUND YOUR BED.
ON THE OTHER HADN YOU CAN STILL DO THAT IN YOUR CURRENT HOUSE.

Thanks again for your sinceer

GOOD LUCK WITH THE DOCTORING. BEING A DOCTOR NOWADAYS IS DRAINING. TRY NOT TO LET THE SYSTEM WEAR YOU DOWN.

Drink Heavily.

[scaredyclassic]

you totally got it!!!

HOW COME MY WIFE NEVER RESPONDS TO MY COMMENTS THIS WAY?

This is the answer I was looking for.
I feel exactly the way you are saying.
I realized after living in this Country for 3 years that I don`t need that much to live.

IT IS TERRIBLE IN MY OPINION THAT EVERYTHING IS MORE, MORE WORK, MORE MONEY, MORE STUFF…I LOOK AT PICTURES FROM POOR COUNTRIES, OF EMPTY ROOMS, OF SKINNY PEOPLE, AND THINK, GIVE ME A BIT MORE OF LESS. PLEASE. BUT IT’S DIFFICULT WHEN YOU LIVE INA PLACE WHERE EVERYONE IS INTO THE MAX. ITS HARD NOT TO EAT A LOT AT A BUFFET.

When I first moved here I was so excited about this new experience abroad, being able to be with my husband full time after living apart for years, getting married. Well I was so excited that all the consumistic approach to life that you breath all over USA just got to me in a moment of euphoria.

ITS LIKE A DRUG. I BELIEVE THAT CONSUMPTION, LIKE GAMBLING, IS AS MUCHA DRUG AS METH AND BOOZE AND CIGARETTES.

Everybody was living the American dream, my husband could afford to upgrade and soon I was going to make big money too so we figured “why not?”.

YES, I UNDERSTAND

But I come from Europe where, as everybody knows, people live all their lives in the smallest places because of prices and overpopulation, even the rich. My husband grew up really poor so was forced to live the same way.
We don`t need all this, expecially all the headaches that come with it.
I am really convinced that I want to sell this house, even at a loss. I am sure whatever we loose we can make back in a few years if even.

I DO KNOW THAT IN LIFE I GENERALLY DO THE RIGHT THING WHEN I FOLLOW MY GUT. NOT ALWAYS, BUT A LOT.

The problem is that my husband is too busy with his job and has no clue about what it is going on and would not sell at a loss.

WELL, YES. IT IS HARD TO LIVE WITH ANOTHER HUMAN.
The worst part is that he bought this place for me because he though it was my dream house and now I am asking him to sell at a loss after all the trouble of the remodelling and the money we spent in it. He thinks I am totally delusional!

IF I WERE HIM, I WOULD PROBABLY BE PRETTY PISSED AT YOU! I KNOW I HAVE BEEN THROUGH SIMILAR THINGS WITH MY WIFE — BUT HONEY YOUS AID THIS IS WHAT YOU WANTED –WHY DO YOU PERSIST IN BEING UNHAPPY? HE’LL GET USED TO IT. HE HASNT BEEN MARRIED THAT LONG…

He listened to me the first time and we had this terrible time with the house and now I am asking for something that sounds even worse!

LIFE IS NUTS ISN’T IT? THE OTHER SIDE OF THE COIN THOUGH IS RATHER THAN BEING MUDDLE HEADED OR FLIP-FLOPPING, I THINK THERE IS GREAT CHARACTER STRENGTH IN BEING ABLE TO CHANGE ONE’S MIND.
It is really hard to push the subject because tecnically he is the business man and he feels he knows better and he doesn`t listen!

WELL, HE IS THE MAN.
Also most of our relationship problems have been caused by the fact that we never seem to agree on anything so I really have to be diplomatic and gentle without forcing the discussion.

YOU ARE THE EXACT OPPOSITE OF MY WIFE. MAYBE YOU CAN SET UPA CONSULT WITH EHR AND SHE CAN SHOW YOU HOW TO TAKE COMPLETE CHARGE FO THE WHOLE SITUATION…
We have been talking about selling from the beginning but he is a perfectionist and would not feel like the house was ever ready for market..and there goes another project!!

HMM… WEIRD…

Until I started to work last year and all the projects got to a forced end (I was the only one dealing with contractors) and we haven`t talked about selling because we got too busy with each others work and interpersonal problems.

IT GETS ABOUT 16.4 TIMES WORSE WITH THE INTRODUCTION OF EACH CHILD. AFTER 2, EVERYTHING COMPLETELY IMPLODES.
Last september, after finding this site I brought that up again and only now I have some more flexible schedule and I can arrange for us to see realtors.
After we talked to the realtor yesterday I think he has a better idea about how bad the market got. I am hoping he will be more open for discussion.

WELL, IF YOU LIST AT A PRICE WHERE YOU DON’T LOSE MONEY, HE CAN’T COMPLAIN TOO MUCH ABOUT THAT. THEN YOU CAN GRADUALLY TALK HIM INTO A LOSS IF THAT’S WHAT YOUD EICED WHAT YOUW ANT TO DO. TRY TO TALK HIM INTO THE PRINCIPLE OF SELLING FIRST, IF THATS YOUR GOAL

We just met with another one today.
He knew our house as he previewed before we bought it. He sold the house next door in 2005 for 1650000.
That house is sort of comparable in size but has no views which really are the selling point for our house, no horse facility, one less garage and half of the usable lot we have.
He came, looked around, was very impressed with the work we had done. He is going to let me know on Saturday what he thinks we should market it for.
I just want to get the house on the market as soon as possible…as long as my husband lets me to.

TELL HIM, WHAT HAVE WE GOT TO LOSE? WE’LL SEE IF IT’S POSSIBLE TO SELL. IF HE HAS NO OFFERS AT THE START PRICE, IT MAY MAKE HIM REEVALUATE WHAT’S GOING ON. OR NOT. I THINK YOU GUYS SHOUDL BE LIVING IN A TINY LITTLE PLACE REQUIRING NO WORK AND SHOULD BE HAVING AS MUCH SEX AS HUMANLY POSSIBLE, TO STORE IT UP FOR THE LEAN YEARS WHEN THERE ARE A BUNCH OF KIDS DRAPED AROUND YOUR BED.
ON THE OTHER HADN YOU CAN STILL DO THAT IN YOUR CURRENT HOUSE.

Thanks again for your sinceer

GOOD LUCK WITH THE DOCTORING. BEING A DOCTOR NOWADAYS IS DRAINING. TRY NOT TO LET THE SYSTEM WEAR YOU DOWN.

Drink Heavily.

[scaredyclassic]

you totally got it!!!

HOW COME MY WIFE NEVER RESPONDS TO MY COMMENTS THIS WAY?

This is the answer I was looking for.
I feel exactly the way you are saying.
I realized after living in this Country for 3 years that I don`t need that much to live.

IT IS TERRIBLE IN MY OPINION THAT EVERYTHING IS MORE, MORE WORK, MORE MONEY, MORE STUFF…I LOOK AT PICTURES FROM POOR COUNTRIES, OF EMPTY ROOMS, OF SKINNY PEOPLE, AND THINK, GIVE ME A BIT MORE OF LESS. PLEASE. BUT IT’S DIFFICULT WHEN YOU LIVE INA PLACE WHERE EVERYONE IS INTO THE MAX. ITS HARD NOT TO EAT A LOT AT A BUFFET.

When I first moved here I was so excited about this new experience abroad, being able to be with my husband full time after living apart for years, getting married. Well I was so excited that all the consumistic approach to life that you breath all over USA just got to me in a moment of euphoria.

ITS LIKE A DRUG. I BELIEVE THAT CONSUMPTION, LIKE GAMBLING, IS AS MUCHA DRUG AS METH AND BOOZE AND CIGARETTES.

Everybody was living the American dream, my husband could afford to upgrade and soon I was going to make big money too so we figured “why not?”.

YES, I UNDERSTAND

But I come from Europe where, as everybody knows, people live all their lives in the smallest places because of prices and overpopulation, even the rich. My husband grew up really poor so was forced to live the same way.
We don`t need all this, expecially all the headaches that come with it.
I am really convinced that I want to sell this house, even at a loss. I am sure whatever we loose we can make back in a few years if even.

I DO KNOW THAT IN LIFE I GENERALLY DO THE RIGHT THING WHEN I FOLLOW MY GUT. NOT ALWAYS, BUT A LOT.

The problem is that my husband is too busy with his job and has no clue about what it is going on and would not sell at a loss.

WELL, YES. IT IS HARD TO LIVE WITH ANOTHER HUMAN.
The worst part is that he bought this place for me because he though it was my dream house and now I am asking him to sell at a loss after all the trouble of the remodelling and the money we spent in it. He thinks I am totally delusional!

IF I WERE HIM, I WOULD PROBABLY BE PRETTY PISSED AT YOU! I KNOW I HAVE BEEN THROUGH SIMILAR THINGS WITH MY WIFE — BUT HONEY YOUS AID THIS IS WHAT YOU WANTED –WHY DO YOU PERSIST IN BEING UNHAPPY? HE’LL GET USED TO IT. HE HASNT BEEN MARRIED THAT LONG…

He listened to me the first time and we had this terrible time with the house and now I am asking for something that sounds even worse!

LIFE IS NUTS ISN’T IT? THE OTHER SIDE OF THE COIN THOUGH IS RATHER THAN BEING MUDDLE HEADED OR FLIP-FLOPPING, I THINK THERE IS GREAT CHARACTER STRENGTH IN BEING ABLE TO CHANGE ONE’S MIND.
It is really hard to push the subject because tecnically he is the business man and he feels he knows better and he doesn`t listen!

WELL, HE IS THE MAN.
Also most of our relationship problems have been caused by the fact that we never seem to agree on anything so I really have to be diplomatic and gentle without forcing the discussion.

YOU ARE THE EXACT OPPOSITE OF MY WIFE. MAYBE YOU CAN SET UPA CONSULT WITH EHR AND SHE CAN SHOW YOU HOW TO TAKE COMPLETE CHARGE FO THE WHOLE SITUATION…
We have been talking about selling from the beginning but he is a perfectionist and would not feel like the house was ever ready for market..and there goes another project!!

HMM… WEIRD…

Until I started to work last year and all the projects got to a forced end (I was the only one dealing with contractors) and we haven`t talked about selling because we got too busy with each others work and interpersonal problems.

IT GETS ABOUT 16.4 TIMES WORSE WITH THE INTRODUCTION OF EACH CHILD. AFTER 2, EVERYTHING COMPLETELY IMPLODES.
Last september, after finding this site I brought that up again and only now I have some more flexible schedule and I can arrange for us to see realtors.
After we talked to the realtor yesterday I think he has a better idea about how bad the market got. I am hoping he will be more open for discussion.

WELL, IF YOU LIST AT A PRICE WHERE YOU DON’T LOSE MONEY, HE CAN’T COMPLAIN TOO MUCH ABOUT THAT. THEN YOU CAN GRADUALLY TALK HIM INTO A LOSS IF THAT’S WHAT YOUD EICED WHAT YOUW ANT TO DO. TRY TO TALK HIM INTO THE PRINCIPLE OF SELLING FIRST, IF THATS YOUR GOAL

We just met with another one today.
He knew our house as he previewed before we bought it. He sold the house next door in 2005 for 1650000.
That house is sort of comparable in size but has no views which really are the selling point for our house, no horse facility, one less garage and half of the usable lot we have.
He came, looked around, was very impressed with the work we had done. He is going to let me know on Saturday what he thinks we should market it for.
I just want to get the house on the market as soon as possible…as long as my husband lets me to.

TELL HIM, WHAT HAVE WE GOT TO LOSE? WE’LL SEE IF IT’S POSSIBLE TO SELL. IF HE HAS NO OFFERS AT THE START PRICE, IT MAY MAKE HIM REEVALUATE WHAT’S GOING ON. OR NOT. I THINK YOU GUYS SHOUDL BE LIVING IN A TINY LITTLE PLACE REQUIRING NO WORK AND SHOULD BE HAVING AS MUCH SEX AS HUMANLY POSSIBLE, TO STORE IT UP FOR THE LEAN YEARS WHEN THERE ARE A BUNCH OF KIDS DRAPED AROUND YOUR BED.
ON THE OTHER HADN YOU CAN STILL DO THAT IN YOUR CURRENT HOUSE.

Thanks again for your sinceer

GOOD LUCK WITH THE DOCTORING. BEING A DOCTOR NOWADAYS IS DRAINING. TRY NOT TO LET THE SYSTEM WEAR YOU DOWN.

Drink Heavily.

[scaredyclassic]

you totally got it!!!

HOW COME MY WIFE NEVER RESPONDS TO MY COMMENTS THIS WAY?

This is the answer I was looking for.
I feel exactly the way you are saying.
I realized after living in this Country for 3 years that I don`t need that much to live.

IT IS TERRIBLE IN MY OPINION THAT EVERYTHING IS MORE, MORE WORK, MORE MONEY, MORE STUFF…I LOOK AT PICTURES FROM POOR COUNTRIES, OF EMPTY ROOMS, OF SKINNY PEOPLE, AND THINK, GIVE ME A BIT MORE OF LESS. PLEASE. BUT IT’S DIFFICULT WHEN YOU LIVE INA PLACE WHERE EVERYONE IS INTO THE MAX. ITS HARD NOT TO EAT A LOT AT A BUFFET.

When I first moved here I was so excited about this new experience abroad, being able to be with my husband full time after living apart for years, getting married. Well I was so excited that all the consumistic approach to life that you breath all over USA just got to me in a moment of euphoria.

ITS LIKE A DRUG. I BELIEVE THAT CONSUMPTION, LIKE GAMBLING, IS AS MUCHA DRUG AS METH AND BOOZE AND CIGARETTES.

Everybody was living the American dream, my husband could afford to upgrade and soon I was going to make big money too so we figured “why not?”.

YES, I UNDERSTAND

But I come from Europe where, as everybody knows, people live all their lives in the smallest places because of prices and overpopulation, even the rich. My husband grew up really poor so was forced to live the same way.
We don`t need all this, expecially all the headaches that come with it.
I am really convinced that I want to sell this house, even at a loss. I am sure whatever we loose we can make back in a few years if even.

I DO KNOW THAT IN LIFE I GENERALLY DO THE RIGHT THING WHEN I FOLLOW MY GUT. NOT ALWAYS, BUT A LOT.

The problem is that my husband is too busy with his job and has no clue about what it is going on and would not sell at a loss.

WELL, YES. IT IS HARD TO LIVE WITH ANOTHER HUMAN.
The worst part is that he bought this place for me because he though it was my dream house and now I am asking him to sell at a loss after all the trouble of the remodelling and the money we spent in it. He thinks I am totally delusional!

IF I WERE HIM, I WOULD PROBABLY BE PRETTY PISSED AT YOU! I KNOW I HAVE BEEN THROUGH SIMILAR THINGS WITH MY WIFE — BUT HONEY YOUS AID THIS IS WHAT YOU WANTED –WHY DO YOU PERSIST IN BEING UNHAPPY? HE’LL GET USED TO IT. HE HASNT BEEN MARRIED THAT LONG…

He listened to me the first time and we had this terrible time with the house and now I am asking for something that sounds even worse!

LIFE IS NUTS ISN’T IT? THE OTHER SIDE OF THE COIN THOUGH IS RATHER THAN BEING MUDDLE HEADED OR FLIP-FLOPPING, I THINK THERE IS GREAT CHARACTER STRENGTH IN BEING ABLE TO CHANGE ONE’S MIND.
It is really hard to push the subject because tecnically he is the business man and he feels he knows better and he doesn`t listen!

WELL, HE IS THE MAN.
Also most of our relationship problems have been caused by the fact that we never seem to agree on anything so I really have to be diplomatic and gentle without forcing the discussion.

YOU ARE THE EXACT OPPOSITE OF MY WIFE. MAYBE YOU CAN SET UPA CONSULT WITH EHR AND SHE CAN SHOW YOU HOW TO TAKE COMPLETE CHARGE FO THE WHOLE SITUATION…
We have been talking about selling from the beginning but he is a perfectionist and would not feel like the house was ever ready for market..and there goes another project!!

HMM… WEIRD…

Until I started to work last year and all the projects got to a forced end (I was the only one dealing with contractors) and we haven`t talked about selling because we got too busy with each others work and interpersonal problems.

IT GETS ABOUT 16.4 TIMES WORSE WITH THE INTRODUCTION OF EACH CHILD. AFTER 2, EVERYTHING COMPLETELY IMPLODES.
Last september, after finding this site I brought that up again and only now I have some more flexible schedule and I can arrange for us to see realtors.
After we talked to the realtor yesterday I think he has a better idea about how bad the market got. I am hoping he will be more open for discussion.

WELL, IF YOU LIST AT A PRICE WHERE YOU DON’T LOSE MONEY, HE CAN’T COMPLAIN TOO MUCH ABOUT THAT. THEN YOU CAN GRADUALLY TALK HIM INTO A LOSS IF THAT’S WHAT YOUD EICED WHAT YOUW ANT TO DO. TRY TO TALK HIM INTO THE PRINCIPLE OF SELLING FIRST, IF THATS YOUR GOAL

We just met with another one today.
He knew our house as he previewed before we bought it. He sold the house next door in 2005 for 1650000.
That house is sort of comparable in size but has no views which really are the selling point for our house, no horse facility, one less garage and half of the usable lot we have.
He came, looked around, was very impressed with the work we had done. He is going to let me know on Saturday what he thinks we should market it for.
I just want to get the house on the market as soon as possible…as long as my husband lets me to.

TELL HIM, WHAT HAVE WE GOT TO LOSE? WE’LL SEE IF IT’S POSSIBLE TO SELL. IF HE HAS NO OFFERS AT THE START PRICE, IT MAY MAKE HIM REEVALUATE WHAT’S GOING ON. OR NOT. I THINK YOU GUYS SHOUDL BE LIVING IN A TINY LITTLE PLACE REQUIRING NO WORK AND SHOULD BE HAVING AS MUCH SEX AS HUMANLY POSSIBLE, TO STORE IT UP FOR THE LEAN YEARS WHEN THERE ARE A BUNCH OF KIDS DRAPED AROUND YOUR BED.
ON THE OTHER HADN YOU CAN STILL DO THAT IN YOUR CURRENT HOUSE.

Thanks again for your sinceer

GOOD LUCK WITH THE DOCTORING. BEING A DOCTOR NOWADAYS IS DRAINING. TRY NOT TO LET THE SYSTEM WEAR YOU DOWN.

Drink Heavily.

[scaredyclassic]

you totally got it!!!

HOW COME MY WIFE NEVER RESPONDS TO MY COMMENTS THIS WAY?

This is the answer I was looking for.
I feel exactly the way you are saying.
I realized after living in this Country for 3 years that I don`t need that much to live.

IT IS TERRIBLE IN MY OPINION THAT EVERYTHING IS MORE, MORE WORK, MORE MONEY, MORE STUFF…I LOOK AT PICTURES FROM POOR COUNTRIES, OF EMPTY ROOMS, OF SKINNY PEOPLE, AND THINK, GIVE ME A BIT MORE OF LESS. PLEASE. BUT IT’S DIFFICULT WHEN YOU LIVE INA PLACE WHERE EVERYONE IS INTO THE MAX. ITS HARD NOT TO EAT A LOT AT A BUFFET.

When I first moved here I was so excited about this new experience abroad, being able to be with my husband full time after living apart for years, getting married. Well I was so excited that all the consumistic approach to life that you breath all over USA just got to me in a moment of euphoria.

ITS LIKE A DRUG. I BELIEVE THAT CONSUMPTION, LIKE GAMBLING, IS AS MUCHA DRUG AS METH AND BOOZE AND CIGARETTES.

Everybody was living the American dream, my husband could afford to upgrade and soon I was going to make big money too so we figured “why not?”.

YES, I UNDERSTAND

But I come from Europe where, as everybody knows, people live all their lives in the smallest places because of prices and overpopulation, even the rich. My husband grew up really poor so was forced to live the same way.
We don`t need all this, expecially all the headaches that come with it.
I am really convinced that I want to sell this house, even at a loss. I am sure whatever we loose we can make back in a few years if even.

I DO KNOW THAT IN LIFE I GENERALLY DO THE RIGHT THING WHEN I FOLLOW MY GUT. NOT ALWAYS, BUT A LOT.

The problem is that my husband is too busy with his job and has no clue about what it is going on and would not sell at a loss.

WELL, YES. IT IS HARD TO LIVE WITH ANOTHER HUMAN.
The worst part is that he bought this place for me because he though it was my dream house and now I am asking him to sell at a loss after all the trouble of the remodelling and the money we spent in it. He thinks I am totally delusional!

IF I WERE HIM, I WOULD PROBABLY BE PRETTY PISSED AT YOU! I KNOW I HAVE BEEN THROUGH SIMILAR THINGS WITH MY WIFE — BUT HONEY YOUS AID THIS IS WHAT YOU WANTED –WHY DO YOU PERSIST IN BEING UNHAPPY? HE’LL GET USED TO IT. HE HASNT BEEN MARRIED THAT LONG…

He listened to me the first time and we had this terrible time with the house and now I am asking for something that sounds even worse!

LIFE IS NUTS ISN’T IT? THE OTHER SIDE OF THE COIN THOUGH IS RATHER THAN BEING MUDDLE HEADED OR FLIP-FLOPPING, I THINK THERE IS GREAT CHARACTER STRENGTH IN BEING ABLE TO CHANGE ONE’S MIND.
It is really hard to push the subject because tecnically he is the business man and he feels he knows better and he doesn`t listen!

WELL, HE IS THE MAN.
Also most of our relationship problems have been caused by the fact that we never seem to agree on anything so I really have to be diplomatic and gentle without forcing the discussion.

YOU ARE THE EXACT OPPOSITE OF MY WIFE. MAYBE YOU CAN SET UPA CONSULT WITH EHR AND SHE CAN SHOW YOU HOW TO TAKE COMPLETE CHARGE FO THE WHOLE SITUATION…
We have been talking about selling from the beginning but he is a perfectionist and would not feel like the house was ever ready for market..and there goes another project!!

HMM… WEIRD…

Until I started to work last year and all the projects got to a forced end (I was the only one dealing with contractors) and we haven`t talked about selling because we got too busy with each others work and interpersonal problems.

IT GETS ABOUT 16.4 TIMES WORSE WITH THE INTRODUCTION OF EACH CHILD. AFTER 2, EVERYTHING COMPLETELY IMPLODES.
Last september, after finding this site I brought that up again and only now I have some more flexible schedule and I can arrange for us to see realtors.
After we talked to the realtor yesterday I think he has a better idea about how bad the market got. I am hoping he will be more open for discussion.

WELL, IF YOU LIST AT A PRICE WHERE YOU DON’T LOSE MONEY, HE CAN’T COMPLAIN TOO MUCH ABOUT THAT. THEN YOU CAN GRADUALLY TALK HIM INTO A LOSS IF THAT’S WHAT YOUD EICED WHAT YOUW ANT TO DO. TRY TO TALK HIM INTO THE PRINCIPLE OF SELLING FIRST, IF THATS YOUR GOAL

We just met with another one today.
He knew our house as he previewed before we bought it. He sold the house next door in 2005 for 1650000.
That house is sort of comparable in size but has no views which really are the selling point for our house, no horse facility, one less garage and half of the usable lot we have.
He came, looked around, was very impressed with the work we had done. He is going to let me know on Saturday what he thinks we should market it for.
I just want to get the house on the market as soon as possible…as long as my husband lets me to.

TELL HIM, WHAT HAVE WE GOT TO LOSE? WE’LL SEE IF IT’S POSSIBLE TO SELL. IF HE HAS NO OFFERS AT THE START PRICE, IT MAY MAKE HIM REEVALUATE WHAT’S GOING ON. OR NOT. I THINK YOU GUYS SHOUDL BE LIVING IN A TINY LITTLE PLACE REQUIRING NO WORK AND SHOULD BE HAVING AS MUCH SEX AS HUMANLY POSSIBLE, TO STORE IT UP FOR THE LEAN YEARS WHEN THERE ARE A BUNCH OF KIDS DRAPED AROUND YOUR BED.
ON THE OTHER HADN YOU CAN STILL DO THAT IN YOUR CURRENT HOUSE.

Thanks again for your sinceer

GOOD LUCK WITH THE DOCTORING. BEING A DOCTOR NOWADAYS IS DRAINING. TRY NOT TO LET THE SYSTEM WEAR YOU DOWN.

Drink Heavily.

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