Affairs of the heart…

[PCinSD]

Simply amazing. Marion asks for advice regarding one of the guys she is dating. Asks if she is being unreasonable. Then provides a confusing, conflicting story/rationale.

Many people take the time to give their well thought out response to her query. The vast majority of comments explain that she is in fact being unreasonable. Her flawed analysis of the situation is exposed, her contradictions explained to her. Her response is to personally attack a few individuals, and completely ignore the substance of the majority of the posts. Then backpedals and claims she was somehow misunderstood. In a nutshell, she does not want any advice from anyone unless it is to let her know she is right. In a further attempt to take attention away from her irrational posts she concentrates on trading recipes.

I would love to hear her ex-husbands side of the story. That would probably clear a few things up about her and her stubborn refusal to acknowledge when she is wrong and inability to accept any critical advice.

Marion: What advice have your girlfriends given when you asked them this same question? Or any of your friends for that matter?

By the way, it only makes sense to avoid commingling one’s funds when getting married to someone that is a financial liability. Why is that a problem for you? Why so insistent on maintaining a joint account and putting your husbands finances in jeopardy? It’s not a trust issue, it’s just plain selfish and shortsighted to demand a potential financial disaster.

Diego: As a boy my pastor called me “Pablo”. When I mentioned that to a friend awhile back, he called me Pablo Escobar. I had no idea who that was until he told me. I don’t have any sympathies for major drug kingpins or their like, but thought the name sounded cool. Especially when it is a play on words. The “Q” is because I practice law. Someday when I’m done practicing I’ll do it for real. Just like on t.v.

pabloesqobar

[Anonymous]

Rustico: “Carlos, If you are not relaxed, relax and don’t use whiskey to do it. Your situation isn’t so unique and it is working fine for some of us who got started under similar circumstances. ”

Rustico, are you saying that you have a separate checking account from your wife? You don’t seem like the sort. I thought you were older and have been married for a considerable time. I could be thinking of another piggington though.

I’m of the opinion that this kind of thing will only work if both parties want it.

I enjoy reading the different perspectives on here of what marriage and committed relationships entail. The older, in a lot of cases, more traditional guys view their wives as an extension of themselves, someone to take care of. You don’t want her to be too independent. Since you are traditional, you wouldn’t want/need separate accounts.

There are those that are more jaded and view marriage less of a melding of two people. They are more open to joint accounts. I’d say this group tends to be younger.

Then there are the younger ones who are more traditional and less jaded. These are less likely to insist on separate accounts.

This is generational, of course other factors play into it as well.

Just some thoughts.

[Anonymous]

Rustico: “Carlos, If you are not relaxed, relax and don’t use whiskey to do it. Your situation isn’t so unique and it is working fine for some of us who got started under similar circumstances. ”

Rustico, are you saying that you have a separate checking account from your wife? You don’t seem like the sort. I thought you were older and have been married for a considerable time. I could be thinking of another piggington though.

I’m of the opinion that this kind of thing will only work if both parties want it.

I enjoy reading the different perspectives on here of what marriage and committed relationships entail. The older, in a lot of cases, more traditional guys view their wives as an extension of themselves, someone to take care of. You don’t want her to be too independent. Since you are traditional, you wouldn’t want/need separate accounts.

There are those that are more jaded and view marriage less of a melding of two people. They are more open to joint accounts. I’d say this group tends to be younger.

Then there are the younger ones who are more traditional and less jaded. These are less likely to insist on separate accounts.

This is generational, of course other factors play into it as well.

Just some thoughts.

[Anonymous]

Rustico: “Carlos, If you are not relaxed, relax and don’t use whiskey to do it. Your situation isn’t so unique and it is working fine for some of us who got started under similar circumstances. ”

Rustico, are you saying that you have a separate checking account from your wife? You don’t seem like the sort. I thought you were older and have been married for a considerable time. I could be thinking of another piggington though.

I’m of the opinion that this kind of thing will only work if both parties want it.

I enjoy reading the different perspectives on here of what marriage and committed relationships entail. The older, in a lot of cases, more traditional guys view their wives as an extension of themselves, someone to take care of. You don’t want her to be too independent. Since you are traditional, you wouldn’t want/need separate accounts.

There are those that are more jaded and view marriage less of a melding of two people. They are more open to joint accounts. I’d say this group tends to be younger.

Then there are the younger ones who are more traditional and less jaded. These are less likely to insist on separate accounts.

This is generational, of course other factors play into it as well.

Just some thoughts.

[Anonymous]

Rustico: “Carlos, If you are not relaxed, relax and don’t use whiskey to do it. Your situation isn’t so unique and it is working fine for some of us who got started under similar circumstances. ”

Rustico, are you saying that you have a separate checking account from your wife? You don’t seem like the sort. I thought you were older and have been married for a considerable time. I could be thinking of another piggington though.

I’m of the opinion that this kind of thing will only work if both parties want it.

I enjoy reading the different perspectives on here of what marriage and committed relationships entail. The older, in a lot of cases, more traditional guys view their wives as an extension of themselves, someone to take care of. You don’t want her to be too independent. Since you are traditional, you wouldn’t want/need separate accounts.

There are those that are more jaded and view marriage less of a melding of two people. They are more open to joint accounts. I’d say this group tends to be younger.

Then there are the younger ones who are more traditional and less jaded. These are less likely to insist on separate accounts.

This is generational, of course other factors play into it as well.

Just some thoughts.

[Anonymous]

Rustico: “Carlos, If you are not relaxed, relax and don’t use whiskey to do it. Your situation isn’t so unique and it is working fine for some of us who got started under similar circumstances. ”

Rustico, are you saying that you have a separate checking account from your wife? You don’t seem like the sort. I thought you were older and have been married for a considerable time. I could be thinking of another piggington though.

I’m of the opinion that this kind of thing will only work if both parties want it.

I enjoy reading the different perspectives on here of what marriage and committed relationships entail. The older, in a lot of cases, more traditional guys view their wives as an extension of themselves, someone to take care of. You don’t want her to be too independent. Since you are traditional, you wouldn’t want/need separate accounts.

There are those that are more jaded and view marriage less of a melding of two people. They are more open to joint accounts. I’d say this group tends to be younger.

Then there are the younger ones who are more traditional and less jaded. These are less likely to insist on separate accounts.

This is generational, of course other factors play into it as well.

Just some thoughts.

[Anonymous]

Pablo: “Many people take the time to give their well thought out response to her query. The vast majority of comments explain that she is in fact being unreasonable. Her flawed analysis of the situation is exposed, her contradictions explained to her. Her response is to personally attack a few individuals, and completely ignore the substance of the majority of the posts. Then backpedals and claims she was somehow misunderstood. In a nutshell, she does not want any advice from anyone unless it is to let her know she is right. In a further attempt to take attention away from her irrational posts she concentrates on trading recipes.”

Pablo, some people on here see my perspective, some don’t. Don’t act like all posters on here are in agreement with you. That isn’t true. I’ve attacked those who have attacked me, you can’t deny that. I appreciate most of the responses I’ve received. There are a lot of good idea in how I can/should approach my concerns.

Yes, I’m a contradiction. I’m like two people. I think that’s what makes me exciting to those who find me interesting. Just an observation.

Yes, I’d still like to swap recipes with Mr. Nostradamus and whoever else wants to.

Ok, hope I’m not rambling. I’ve had 4 cups of coffee today so at present, I’m kinda like a hamster on crack!

haha 🙂

[Anonymous]

Pablo: “Many people take the time to give their well thought out response to her query. The vast majority of comments explain that she is in fact being unreasonable. Her flawed analysis of the situation is exposed, her contradictions explained to her. Her response is to personally attack a few individuals, and completely ignore the substance of the majority of the posts. Then backpedals and claims she was somehow misunderstood. In a nutshell, she does not want any advice from anyone unless it is to let her know she is right. In a further attempt to take attention away from her irrational posts she concentrates on trading recipes.”

Pablo, some people on here see my perspective, some don’t. Don’t act like all posters on here are in agreement with you. That isn’t true. I’ve attacked those who have attacked me, you can’t deny that. I appreciate most of the responses I’ve received. There are a lot of good idea in how I can/should approach my concerns.

Yes, I’m a contradiction. I’m like two people. I think that’s what makes me exciting to those who find me interesting. Just an observation.

Yes, I’d still like to swap recipes with Mr. Nostradamus and whoever else wants to.

Ok, hope I’m not rambling. I’ve had 4 cups of coffee today so at present, I’m kinda like a hamster on crack!

haha 🙂

[Anonymous]

Pablo: “Many people take the time to give their well thought out response to her query. The vast majority of comments explain that she is in fact being unreasonable. Her flawed analysis of the situation is exposed, her contradictions explained to her. Her response is to personally attack a few individuals, and completely ignore the substance of the majority of the posts. Then backpedals and claims she was somehow misunderstood. In a nutshell, she does not want any advice from anyone unless it is to let her know she is right. In a further attempt to take attention away from her irrational posts she concentrates on trading recipes.”

Pablo, some people on here see my perspective, some don’t. Don’t act like all posters on here are in agreement with you. That isn’t true. I’ve attacked those who have attacked me, you can’t deny that. I appreciate most of the responses I’ve received. There are a lot of good idea in how I can/should approach my concerns.

Yes, I’m a contradiction. I’m like two people. I think that’s what makes me exciting to those who find me interesting. Just an observation.

Yes, I’d still like to swap recipes with Mr. Nostradamus and whoever else wants to.

Ok, hope I’m not rambling. I’ve had 4 cups of coffee today so at present, I’m kinda like a hamster on crack!

haha 🙂

[Anonymous]

Pablo: “Many people take the time to give their well thought out response to her query. The vast majority of comments explain that she is in fact being unreasonable. Her flawed analysis of the situation is exposed, her contradictions explained to her. Her response is to personally attack a few individuals, and completely ignore the substance of the majority of the posts. Then backpedals and claims she was somehow misunderstood. In a nutshell, she does not want any advice from anyone unless it is to let her know she is right. In a further attempt to take attention away from her irrational posts she concentrates on trading recipes.”

Pablo, some people on here see my perspective, some don’t. Don’t act like all posters on here are in agreement with you. That isn’t true. I’ve attacked those who have attacked me, you can’t deny that. I appreciate most of the responses I’ve received. There are a lot of good idea in how I can/should approach my concerns.

Yes, I’m a contradiction. I’m like two people. I think that’s what makes me exciting to those who find me interesting. Just an observation.

Yes, I’d still like to swap recipes with Mr. Nostradamus and whoever else wants to.

Ok, hope I’m not rambling. I’ve had 4 cups of coffee today so at present, I’m kinda like a hamster on crack!

haha 🙂

[Anonymous]

Pablo: “Many people take the time to give their well thought out response to her query. The vast majority of comments explain that she is in fact being unreasonable. Her flawed analysis of the situation is exposed, her contradictions explained to her. Her response is to personally attack a few individuals, and completely ignore the substance of the majority of the posts. Then backpedals and claims she was somehow misunderstood. In a nutshell, she does not want any advice from anyone unless it is to let her know she is right. In a further attempt to take attention away from her irrational posts she concentrates on trading recipes.”

Pablo, some people on here see my perspective, some don’t. Don’t act like all posters on here are in agreement with you. That isn’t true. I’ve attacked those who have attacked me, you can’t deny that. I appreciate most of the responses I’ve received. There are a lot of good idea in how I can/should approach my concerns.

Yes, I’m a contradiction. I’m like two people. I think that’s what makes me exciting to those who find me interesting. Just an observation.

Yes, I’d still like to swap recipes with Mr. Nostradamus and whoever else wants to.

Ok, hope I’m not rambling. I’ve had 4 cups of coffee today so at present, I’m kinda like a hamster on crack!

haha 🙂

[NotCranky]

Carlos,
Nope, train derailed I guess. We have a joint account and I have a separate acct. I was referring to the debt, but wanted to be coy. In that dept., we started off in a similar fashion, as you and your future wife, to the dollar. I paid it for her and she was paying me back when our first child came along. I threw the note in the trash and have never regretted that. I was embarrassed to be billing my pregnant wife. What can I say I am “old fashioned”. My wife is an excellent family finance partner despite her original situation.
I meant to be encouraging to you.
Almost forgot to opine on your actual question. I think it is fair and wise, to have separate accounts in your situation. I did, and a prenup. I have since thrown that away to, under no duress. I would gladly split our assets half and half if we were ever to be divorced, which I doubt will ever happen.

[NotCranky]

Carlos,
Nope, train derailed I guess. We have a joint account and I have a separate acct. I was referring to the debt, but wanted to be coy. In that dept., we started off in a similar fashion, as you and your future wife, to the dollar. I paid it for her and she was paying me back when our first child came along. I threw the note in the trash and have never regretted that. I was embarrassed to be billing my pregnant wife. What can I say I am “old fashioned”. My wife is an excellent family finance partner despite her original situation.
I meant to be encouraging to you.
Almost forgot to opine on your actual question. I think it is fair and wise, to have separate accounts in your situation. I did, and a prenup. I have since thrown that away to, under no duress. I would gladly split our assets half and half if we were ever to be divorced, which I doubt will ever happen.

[NotCranky]

Carlos,
Nope, train derailed I guess. We have a joint account and I have a separate acct. I was referring to the debt, but wanted to be coy. In that dept., we started off in a similar fashion, as you and your future wife, to the dollar. I paid it for her and she was paying me back when our first child came along. I threw the note in the trash and have never regretted that. I was embarrassed to be billing my pregnant wife. What can I say I am “old fashioned”. My wife is an excellent family finance partner despite her original situation.
I meant to be encouraging to you.
Almost forgot to opine on your actual question. I think it is fair and wise, to have separate accounts in your situation. I did, and a prenup. I have since thrown that away to, under no duress. I would gladly split our assets half and half if we were ever to be divorced, which I doubt will ever happen.

[NotCranky]

Carlos,
Nope, train derailed I guess. We have a joint account and I have a separate acct. I was referring to the debt, but wanted to be coy. In that dept., we started off in a similar fashion, as you and your future wife, to the dollar. I paid it for her and she was paying me back when our first child came along. I threw the note in the trash and have never regretted that. I was embarrassed to be billing my pregnant wife. What can I say I am “old fashioned”. My wife is an excellent family finance partner despite her original situation.
I meant to be encouraging to you.
Almost forgot to opine on your actual question. I think it is fair and wise, to have separate accounts in your situation. I did, and a prenup. I have since thrown that away to, under no duress. I would gladly split our assets half and half if we were ever to be divorced, which I doubt will ever happen.

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