when we were young we were far more ignored than children are today. your parents kicked you out into the world and you spent a day exploring and mixing it upw ith various neighbor kids and generally amusing yourself. you came back at nightfall to be fed, like some sort of feral animal int he process of being domesticated. Now we pay more attention to children, much to their detriment. they do not need this much parental attetion. they need to be ignored in the best sense, in that the parents set up the right situation for them, and then let em grow. the last thing a kid needs is a parent who dropped out of the workforce to “focus” on them. what a nightmarre. parents aren’t friends to chidlren. they should be slightly mysterious. separate. above. not hanging out buddies.
however, you ignore your wife at your peril.
it might be best to occasionally delete certain things she says though during certain episodes of anger, despair or craziness, or at least not listen entirely carefully.
what would have happened to calvin of calvin and hobbes if his mom and dad had “focussed” on him more? Would that have been a good thing?
