Well. You can send them to public school. There’s aftercare. They can fend for themselves a bit.
I don’t know. I have some divorce knowledge though I’m sure it’s way different from the inside. It’s bad to depend too heavily on others without providing a clear corresponding benefit.
Or as my wife tells my kids … do not marry a woman who dies not have an oar in the water.
That can be defined a lot of ways but it does seem like some partners are not very useful. Not very good at their tasks and are not sacrificing much. Bad partner choice.