[quote=scaredycat]well, ok. maybe it’s just me. I like to be away from them for a few days, but unfortunately, I almost never am. I go years sometimes without being away for a day, not by choice, that’s just the way things are. I’m probably projecting. I like having them around too. Maybe it’s all socially induced. but women at least seem like they have to act like they’re more troubled when they’re away from their kids (except flu’s wife). Also, i drink only at home with them, never at bars. So they do save me a lot of money that way. Cheap drinking partners, i never have to buy them anything because they’re too young to drink.[/quote]
Actually, I think the issue is that you probably have the grass is greener syndrome. IF you were truely away from your kids for a long time, and if every time you come come and see them different and seem them changing and you’re missing out, perhaps you would think it differently just like if I were home more often or saw my daughter more often, I would feel more like you. (What to trade?).
For me, it’s just difficult seeing my daughter is growing up, and I’m not even their to watch it all. Just yesterday, I was gonna take her to Halloween trick o treat…But she never came home because she was sick and had to stay with the outlaws.
Which leads me to problem #2. I don’t know what some husbands complain about the “naggy” wife who likes to keep things clean, watch over the kids, and ensure they have good/clean hygienes. I have a huge disconnect on that one with my said wife, to the point she tells me to quit being the naggy bitch. On top of that, I’m the one teaching my 3 year old to make jello, I’m the one that sits at home to help her make all the finger puppets. cutouts, cards, paintings. And still have to make time to figure out how to write this mobile O/S code shit for a customer that wanted things yesterday.
That said, I think the biggest problems in a marriage occur when the respective roles aren’t well defined. And when either or both parent aren’t willing to make sacrifices for the greater good of the family. Or when the other parent doesn’t appreciate sacrifices made from the other parent.
