[quote=Rich Toscano][quote=sdduuuude]I think the use of please is acceptable even when giving a command. It says “yes, I’m the boss, but I’m not an asshole.” I guess, some people put a “please” in a command to be facetious, but I think most of the time it is done in good faith and takes the edge off the command.[/quote]
OK, I think I wasn’t clear in my original question. I agree that saying “please” takes the edge off a command, and of course, it’s perfectly fine to throw it in there. My question is more along the lines of whether saying “please” converts it from a command to a request.
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I don’t think so. I think the chain of authority determines whether it is a command or a request.
Sounds like the question is – is it rude to make a request in the form of a command. Perhaps it is.
