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November 2, 2010 at 7:01 PM #18151November 2, 2010 at 7:35 PM #625634citydwellerParticipant
I think putting “Please” before a command is just a way of being polite and showing respect.
Also, I think your example is more of a request than a command. In other words, they could have said “If you want us to loan you money we require that you sign the form and return it, if you do not do so, we will not loan you money, it’s up to you”. Putting “Please” at the beginning of their request says the same thing with a lot less words ๐
I don’t mind when my bosses tell me to do something, but I do feel it shows some respect when they add “please” at the beginning. Do you think it would be better if commands (or requests) were stated without the please?
Please don’t say you disagree with me!! lol
November 2, 2010 at 7:35 PM #625716citydwellerParticipantI think putting “Please” before a command is just a way of being polite and showing respect.
Also, I think your example is more of a request than a command. In other words, they could have said “If you want us to loan you money we require that you sign the form and return it, if you do not do so, we will not loan you money, it’s up to you”. Putting “Please” at the beginning of their request says the same thing with a lot less words ๐
I don’t mind when my bosses tell me to do something, but I do feel it shows some respect when they add “please” at the beginning. Do you think it would be better if commands (or requests) were stated without the please?
Please don’t say you disagree with me!! lol
November 2, 2010 at 7:35 PM #626265citydwellerParticipantI think putting “Please” before a command is just a way of being polite and showing respect.
Also, I think your example is more of a request than a command. In other words, they could have said “If you want us to loan you money we require that you sign the form and return it, if you do not do so, we will not loan you money, it’s up to you”. Putting “Please” at the beginning of their request says the same thing with a lot less words ๐
I don’t mind when my bosses tell me to do something, but I do feel it shows some respect when they add “please” at the beginning. Do you think it would be better if commands (or requests) were stated without the please?
Please don’t say you disagree with me!! lol
November 2, 2010 at 7:35 PM #626389citydwellerParticipantI think putting “Please” before a command is just a way of being polite and showing respect.
Also, I think your example is more of a request than a command. In other words, they could have said “If you want us to loan you money we require that you sign the form and return it, if you do not do so, we will not loan you money, it’s up to you”. Putting “Please” at the beginning of their request says the same thing with a lot less words ๐
I don’t mind when my bosses tell me to do something, but I do feel it shows some respect when they add “please” at the beginning. Do you think it would be better if commands (or requests) were stated without the please?
Please don’t say you disagree with me!! lol
November 2, 2010 at 7:35 PM #626696citydwellerParticipantI think putting “Please” before a command is just a way of being polite and showing respect.
Also, I think your example is more of a request than a command. In other words, they could have said “If you want us to loan you money we require that you sign the form and return it, if you do not do so, we will not loan you money, it’s up to you”. Putting “Please” at the beginning of their request says the same thing with a lot less words ๐
I don’t mind when my bosses tell me to do something, but I do feel it shows some respect when they add “please” at the beginning. Do you think it would be better if commands (or requests) were stated without the please?
Please don’t say you disagree with me!! lol
November 2, 2010 at 7:48 PM #625639NotCrankyParticipantUnderstood context between two parties means a lot.
For instance:
“Please sign this form and mail it back to me.”
If you both know that the signing of the form accomplishes a need of, or something of benefit to the signing party, and it is reasonable that they would return it, then this is quite polite.If the requestor is asking something that doesn’t necessarly benefit the person who would sign and return, then it is rude. I would think something like, “Would you please consider signing and returning this form?”,is better. The question may or may not be better with a reason for the request being communicated . Gratitude/respect for the consideration is require regardless of compliance.
I think it is nice if a superior show politeness often.However, work could easily be overloaded with it. If you know you are on the same team,with sufficient mutual respect , every single thing doesn’t merit so much spoken courtesy.I think we tend to find a balance.
November 2, 2010 at 7:48 PM #625721NotCrankyParticipantUnderstood context between two parties means a lot.
For instance:
“Please sign this form and mail it back to me.”
If you both know that the signing of the form accomplishes a need of, or something of benefit to the signing party, and it is reasonable that they would return it, then this is quite polite.If the requestor is asking something that doesn’t necessarly benefit the person who would sign and return, then it is rude. I would think something like, “Would you please consider signing and returning this form?”,is better. The question may or may not be better with a reason for the request being communicated . Gratitude/respect for the consideration is require regardless of compliance.
I think it is nice if a superior show politeness often.However, work could easily be overloaded with it. If you know you are on the same team,with sufficient mutual respect , every single thing doesn’t merit so much spoken courtesy.I think we tend to find a balance.
November 2, 2010 at 7:48 PM #626270NotCrankyParticipantUnderstood context between two parties means a lot.
For instance:
“Please sign this form and mail it back to me.”
If you both know that the signing of the form accomplishes a need of, or something of benefit to the signing party, and it is reasonable that they would return it, then this is quite polite.If the requestor is asking something that doesn’t necessarly benefit the person who would sign and return, then it is rude. I would think something like, “Would you please consider signing and returning this form?”,is better. The question may or may not be better with a reason for the request being communicated . Gratitude/respect for the consideration is require regardless of compliance.
I think it is nice if a superior show politeness often.However, work could easily be overloaded with it. If you know you are on the same team,with sufficient mutual respect , every single thing doesn’t merit so much spoken courtesy.I think we tend to find a balance.
November 2, 2010 at 7:48 PM #626394NotCrankyParticipantUnderstood context between two parties means a lot.
For instance:
“Please sign this form and mail it back to me.”
If you both know that the signing of the form accomplishes a need of, or something of benefit to the signing party, and it is reasonable that they would return it, then this is quite polite.If the requestor is asking something that doesn’t necessarly benefit the person who would sign and return, then it is rude. I would think something like, “Would you please consider signing and returning this form?”,is better. The question may or may not be better with a reason for the request being communicated . Gratitude/respect for the consideration is require regardless of compliance.
I think it is nice if a superior show politeness often.However, work could easily be overloaded with it. If you know you are on the same team,with sufficient mutual respect , every single thing doesn’t merit so much spoken courtesy.I think we tend to find a balance.
November 2, 2010 at 7:48 PM #626701NotCrankyParticipantUnderstood context between two parties means a lot.
For instance:
“Please sign this form and mail it back to me.”
If you both know that the signing of the form accomplishes a need of, or something of benefit to the signing party, and it is reasonable that they would return it, then this is quite polite.If the requestor is asking something that doesn’t necessarly benefit the person who would sign and return, then it is rude. I would think something like, “Would you please consider signing and returning this form?”,is better. The question may or may not be better with a reason for the request being communicated . Gratitude/respect for the consideration is require regardless of compliance.
I think it is nice if a superior show politeness often.However, work could easily be overloaded with it. If you know you are on the same team,with sufficient mutual respect , every single thing doesn’t merit so much spoken courtesy.I think we tend to find a balance.
November 2, 2010 at 7:59 PM #625644citydwellerParticipant[quote=citydweller]
I don’t mind when my bosses tell me to do something, but I do feel it shows some respect when they add “please” at the beginning. [/quote]
To clarify, this would only apply to written requests/commands.
November 2, 2010 at 7:59 PM #625726citydwellerParticipant[quote=citydweller]
I don’t mind when my bosses tell me to do something, but I do feel it shows some respect when they add “please” at the beginning. [/quote]
To clarify, this would only apply to written requests/commands.
November 2, 2010 at 7:59 PM #626275citydwellerParticipant[quote=citydweller]
I don’t mind when my bosses tell me to do something, but I do feel it shows some respect when they add “please” at the beginning. [/quote]
To clarify, this would only apply to written requests/commands.
November 2, 2010 at 7:59 PM #626399citydwellerParticipant[quote=citydweller]
I don’t mind when my bosses tell me to do something, but I do feel it shows some respect when they add “please” at the beginning. [/quote]
To clarify, this would only apply to written requests/commands.
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