These questions are niggling ones produced by the modernization of interactions among beings that are emotionally wired far more crudely than not ( we are cavemen and women in many many respects)…
and I forgot to add that the guy bringing up the pre-nup on date #4 is entirely lame and violates vehemently my wacky sense of gentlemanliness…
me? 40 y/o getting married on Dec 15… yes, this Saturday next!
She’s got a nice load of student loan that i dont have… she mentioned ” Don’t worry, it’s my problem. I’ll take care of it. ” Which means… no joint accounts. I simply won’t foot THAT bill… and we’ll have to juggle our stuff as best we can… I ain’t stingy but her sense of inflow and outflow seems imbalanced… something we’ll have to fine tune.
Dating is frustrating and maddening in all sorts of ways…
as for ” guy goes first”… I was doing a “you show me yours and I’ll show you mine” behind the garage with my down-the-street playmate when I was, I dunno, maybe 4 or 5… she went first and as I reached to pull my shorts down her mom interrupted… I felt so GUILTY!!!
