it may be worth noting that among various guides for players that it is advisable not to spend money on women because it shifts the balance of power to her–that is, the guy who tries to win the affection of a woman by spending money often gets nowehere, while the bad boy who keeps the woman guessing and who playfully insults her usually actually gets the girl. i think this tends to be true, that women are more attracted to you when you act like you don’t need them. might not be rue for you, but if this guy is playing the odds, the odds are he’s gottena bette response in general from women when he doesn’t try to buy their affection, when he acts like he can take em or leave em, has options, and that you shoudl be chasing him, not the other way around. i dont agree he’s necessarily been putt hrought he wringer, it’s really the only way to reliably get lots of action, statsitcially speaking, from women.