I am reading and appreciating all your comments. It does sound like some of you have dealt with some of the same friendship challenges I have.
Did I mention that I am liberal agnostic/buddhist living in a conservative area (Murrieta) so that makes finding local friends even more of a challenge.
I think I am going to take to heart the advice of working at this a bit, and maybe throwing a dinner party or two.
Perhaps I will try a Piggington get-together sometime as this group seems to have many great folks.
Should mention, my wife is running a meetup.com mom’s group and she is making many new friends that way.