[quote=CA renter][quote=flu]
That said, I think the biggest problems in a marriage occur when the respective roles aren’t well defined. And when either or both parent aren’t willing to make sacrifices for the greater good of the family. Or when the other parent doesn’t appreciate sacrifices made from the other parent.[/quote]
You nailed it…especially the last two sentences, IMHO.[/quote]
The thing is this thing really really can start a small problem and cascade into bigger problems. For example, let’s say you have a couple Spouse A and Spouse B.
Spouse A likes it clean. Spouse B is a packrat.
Spouse A comfort level is that house is kept clean, so Spouse A picks up and cleans up. Spouse B doesn’t give a shit and after playing with Kid A, leaves the room an utterly complete mess. Spouse A then comes back and says WTF and picks up and puts things away, asking hey Spouse B, next time can you help straighten out a bit. I like it clean(er) and can you at least try to give me a little respect and help. Spouse B gives the middle figure and says, it’s not a big deal, just pick it up yourself. Spouse A then thinks, fine if you don’t give a shit about that, I won’t help you do something else like give kid bath. Spouse B then says WTF why aren’t you helping me? And pretty soon, it spirals out of control.And when it comes time to a big big problem, you might then end up in a situation in which Spouse B ends up giving you the big middle finger for something big, that you, no matter how hard you try, will just never ever be able to forget…..Like i said, it’s all about respect, and it starts at the littlest thing. If you can’t even pitch in the smallest things, I’m sorry, you and your spouse have a long long road to travel.
