[quote=CA renter][quote=scaredyclassic]
I’m not saying splitting up is inevitable, but that unhappiness breeds on these illdefined unexamined feelings of dissatisfaction, and resentments build, and you know, you ahve kids, and your worried about the kids, and frankly, as a guy, it can get old..what about me? i like my kids, sure, but what about me? thats what he’s thinking. thats what i was thinking. thats what a lot of guys think…
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Just think…women are almost always the ones “trapped” at home with a bunch of small kids while the men are out enjoying their hobbies and “hanging with the guys” (you know, because they deserve it after “working so hard” while the women stay home and “do nothing”). You think major resentment isn’t building up in many women, too? IMO, this is why you often see the women initiating divorce when the youngest hits eighteen. It’s like they’ve been chomping at the bit for years. Most men take care of themselves just fine; it’s the women who usually give up everything that mattered to them before marriage/kids.
And I agree very much with the rest of your post, too. This is a very difficult situation, and resentment is likely either way.[/quote]
well, guys have to take care of temselves first and keep thesmelves in shape for the second family. women are probably going to just go for the one set of kids.
