I agree with the “strange unit” concept. So when a potential new family member comes along It’s like star trek where they find new classes of beings, but somehow find ways of coexisting.

I think our kids should eventually resent us, if for nothing else, guiding them into at least 12 years of public school, or even private….I mean they deserve to take some time and say WTF did you do that to me for? Also for bitching about what they eat all the time or judging them for their stupid kid hobbies and elective interests that are never the ones we want them to take up. Pokemon cards, giving me a break! I am going to coach them in hating me in hopes that it helps them get through it sooner rather than later.