[quote=AN][quote=Blogstar]When a whole bunch of terrible things happen to a family of children at the hands of their parents, is that Karma to the children from a past life or something? So those kids don’t do too much for abusive parents ,but treat their children wonderfully when they have them….how should Karma work then? Not expectations …just the bit about Karma?[/quote]You can mocked the idea of karma. It doesn’t really matter if you believe or care about karma. But when your kids see you neglect your parents and you telling them that it’s OK. Don’t be too surprise when they follow your footstep and neglect you when you need them. The apple doesn’t fall to far from the tree. It’s really not that hard to grasp. Treat others how you’d like to be treated. That’s including treating your kids how you’d like they to treat you and teach them that how they treat out will someday be learned by their kids and they will treat them the way they treat you. If your kids see you genuinely love your parents and take care of them when they needed your care without any resentment, maybe they’ll learn that lesson and treat you the same way. Sometimes they won’t but like I said, don’t be nice with expectation of something in return. Be nice for the sake of being nice and hoping the niceness will rub off on people around you. But if it doesn’t, that’s OK too, because you genuinely did it because you want to, and not because you’re expecting something in return.[/quote]

what if i don’t want to be nice? does that significantly lessen the odds that my kids will tend to me?

what if I act only out of guilt, not out of love? does that negate the whole thing? is it better for me nott o do anything out of guilt?

i think the real truth is that a lot of people’s folks drive them batshit crazy …