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The only choice, if you don’t want to exchange some baggage is to stay single (because you have plenty too). [/quote]

Exchange baggage? I don’t get the concept.

Let’s not confuse baggage with being irritating at times or having some minor character flaws. Of course, in a relationship there is some compromising.

Baggage is criminal background, addiction, STDs, financial problems, family that make their problems your problems… the type of things you don’t want in your life.

There are also incompatibility issues that are not baggage. To relate back to real estate, I hate anything Victorian or old fashioned looking like quilts, frilly curtains or country stuff. I would be miserable forced to compromise to live in a house like that.[/quote]

Yeah you definitely don’t want to do major man woman battle over the curtains and quilts and other frilly stuff…that could be devastating.

I think other people covered pretty well that what’s forgivable could easily go beyond minor character flaws….depending on other factors. If the limit was minor character flaws but zero pretty questionable stuff in the past or maybe herpes, there wouldn’t be very many couples.

Is a previous divorce too much baggage? Having too little relationship experience for your age, Maybe that’s too much baggage to some people…maybe worse than a past addiction or crime or debt or herpes. If people having any of these issues is unloveable there isn’t much love around.[/quote]

frilly stuff isn’t so bad but quilting itself, the hobby, is akin to mental illness…