No one legit would think a 100% belonged to them after years of shared effort at family. People might try to start negotiations from there but that’s absurd. I can’t imagine getting a concept like that in ones head.

I tend to think that even if the SAHP brought assets and the working stiff didn’t the working stiff is catching up. Even if net worth fell from time of marriage. Maybe I don’t value the home making enough…I value it a lot, but 100%? In any case, it ceases to be anything like 100% from day one in typical households. Even in your case, who would believe that 100% belonged to them? Only and entitled infantile person.

I have heard a few women think that having babies makes them own 100%…hell some think that having a vagina makes them own 100% and I guess the opposite could be said too.

At this point I think it would have been better to trust a hell of a lot more. Hard to estimate how much fear costs.

Funny , there are a few families in our circles where neither parent works. One is a late 40’s 50ish couple…they live in two countries and their lives are a bit different I guess but really nice and down to earth…they volunteer a lot at the public school when their kids were there and even when not. There was none of that where I come from…though, now I can see it really doesn’t take that much money to do that if you want to. More than I have by far.

The money really could easily be the least of trouble. If you really want to be serious about loathing the idea , concentrate on all the other ways a bad marriage and divorce after children could be hell. How bad would you feel if the other parent dumped their affection for the kids or jerked everyone around constantly? Stalking anyone? OMG!