[quote=scaredyclassic]To me, respect and-or money at a job om good at is extremely important and overlaps with being a good dad. I realize that means I’m old fashioned and not an absolute truth but I’d be lying to myself if I said otherwise.

My kids describe me as a “typhoon” when cleaning a super messy kitchen a blaze of powerful energy. My wife thinks I do a bad job. I’d say I do an 87 percent. But the true grade could be in the mid to low 70s. She is in the high 90s but takes way way way longer and is wiped out after whereas I’m just warmed up…
Am I better? I think doing a good enough job at housework, childcare stuff will lead to higher satisfaction and less fatigue for SAHPs

forget an A shoot for a B or C![/quote]

Supporting your kids is awesome! In that I think it all matters…more ways than one to skin a cat….accomplishments matter to us all and it is hard to get get strokes as a stay at home parent because it seems like such an ordinary thing to do, but it’s up to a person to let that bother them or not. Do something else if it does. One can have plenty of victories and not much legacy…I can live with that..not without some regrets but live with it. Can’t have everything.