I don’t think the answer about relationships is complicated , scaredy.
We can be cognizant of the material , social support, etc that comes from/with our loved ones, and even know that we don’t want to lose those things and still love them completely. It doesn’t have to look good looking at it all the time, you just have to know the balance is there and accept that is as good as it gets.

It’s actually pretty strange to think that your son doesn’t love you…that’s just how things work, unless you actually abuse the hell out of them. …and even then they probably still do. I doubt there ever has been a kid, who had reasonable premise to think their parents did the best they could, who didn’t love them.

Same with wives…anyone who married in a reasonable state of emotional health could never not love the mother of his children….even if the couple divorced.

Just PM me if you want to pay for this therapy session.