The alimony and child support doesn’t scare everybody to the same extent.
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Oh, yeah, the old just-be-a-man-about-it argument.
Alimony and child support is not about being “scared”. It is about the real damage that divorce court does to men.
It is the same tactic used when women say that men are “afraid” of commitment. What nonsense. It is just a cheap-trick tactic designed to manipulate men into making a commitment even when it is a bad deal for them.[/quote]
I was scared to death of commitment, but wasn’t ever pushed into one and I don’t feel vulnerable to getting screwed by the courts so that is my perspective. In general though I think you want to stay out of court. It doesn’t surprise me if some men or even most, get screwed in some ways in divorce court. I still think if they had lived differently in marriage they would have had a better chance at equity in child support, alimony and visitation. Divorce and subsequent life probably would have gone better overall. If the courts make decisions based on how the
couple/ family/children actually lived I can’t blame them.
